Add more spice to your love

“Opposites attract each other.” This can be so true when it comes to dating. For instance, an outgoing person may like the silent type. An active person riding on the fast lane falls for the complete opposite. And the one that I never could figure out: A penny saver goes for a big spender. Well, this sounds like a blessing from God in disguise, where couples can complement each other and make life more fulfilling.

If you are many years into your marriage, the lack of excitement in your daily routine may already be threatening your relationship. In that case, you’ll need to get your marriage a “facelift”. An article once published by Marriage and Family elaborated on the topic. It asked the couples to take actions, not just words, to express love. Below are some insights from the article to share with you; hope these points can help you in taking your relationship to the next level.

• Communication and sharing. More important than anything, do not quarrel and always use a cheerful tone talking to each other on a daily basis. This is the starting point of expressing your love.
• Take walks together, at least 30 minutes a day not only for exercise, but also to work on the relationship, to relax, and to communicate and prevent misunderstandings. The best way is to hold hands while doing so.
• Do something fun together, such as go to a different restaurant and trying something new. Go for a music concert or take a memorable vacation. If there are things you both want to learn, take a class and explore them together. That will add more flavor to your marriage.
• Write love notes. Place them around the house, such as in the pockets, kitchen drawers, and some not so visible, secretive places.  Use your imagination to create some excitement.
• Do not criticize, blame or grumble. This is an absolute a must. Pessimistic words have no place in a long term loving relationship. Show genuine appreciation in your intimate relationship. If you take the initiative to take the first step, your other half will surely follow.
• Let your partner be accountable for his or her own life’s decisions. He or she has the right to do so, and you should pay due respect to his or her decision.  You both can live the way you desire to live. Treasure the differences and put together a great effort to make tomorrow even better.
• Grow together at the same pace and direction, through sharing personal goals and viewpoints. Explore and do things together. When these happy memories are built around your foundation, your relationship will become even more intimate.
• Do not dominate your partner. Give respect and support to each other’s interests and hobbies. Be appreciative and considerate to one another.
• Anything you both can enjoy, it’s a go. There is no limitation to what you can do, as long as you both benefit.
• End meaningless arguments. No arguments at any time or any place, period. Everyone has the right to have his or her viewpoint. We must learn to respect the differences.
• Laughs and smiles should be a significant part of your daily routine. This is the key to a healthy and long life. Remember, your smile is a gift to your partner.
• Stare at each other. When you discover the love and beauty from your partner’s eyes, you will love each other even deeper. This is effective and fun at the same time.
• Hugs, kisses and touches are superb ways to show your love. We all need that—more than we like to admit.
• Maintain a healthy lifestyle. A good diet will go a long way, and also helps to establish a more meaningful routine. Eat more fruits, vegetables, nuts, and low fat and calorie items. Drink plenty of water and have plenty of rest. Make sure your foods are clean and your diet is balanced.
• Keep your house and car clean and organized. This is helpful to create a peaceful environment. In turn, it helps make your home a better place for your family to live in harmony. This is indeed very effective. Why not start doing it now?
• Looks are important. Pay attention to your attire and keep yourself nice and clean.  Your looks will have a great impact on your partner’s taste.
• Completely accept your partner. To be specific, you have to accept his or her character, preferences, and style. Don’t attempt to change your partner. But if he or she is ready to change, let him or her to have the opportunity in doing so.
• Don’t be afraid to say “I love you”. Say this at least once a day, and it will help the relationship beyond your imagination.

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