Comments on: Wedding Gift-Giving Guidelines

By: Jamie

Mon, 14 May 2012 21:24:31 +0000

Hi Carol, I don’t think that it is a good idea to expect that people will give wedding gifts. Their presence on the day of the wedding is valuable enough. Some people choose not to give gifts for many reasons and it is not likely that they have forgotten. It would be my opinion that you should just let it be and not allow something like this to negatively impact family relationships.

By: Carol

Carol — Fri, 11 May 2012 10:49:58 +0000

What do you do when you didn’t a gift from close family members? My daughter wasn’t sure if they forgot or it something else? Should we ask them about it? We know they have a year to give gift. These are close 1st cousins.

By: Rasheil

Wed, 14 Mar 2012 05:00:41 +0000

wml24, I agree with Sharon. There are many people who usually give the gifts at the reception and family members usually make sure that they secure the gifts. Also, if you have a way to keep the gift in a car (in the trunk out of plain sight) during the church services, you can wait to see if they will announce where to leave the gifts. That way, you can access the gift and leave it where they are asking you to.

By: Sharon

Tue, 13 Mar 2012 02:27:25 +0000

a good article, we or my family ususally give the gifts at the reception and it is plce with others and some family mamber usually take the gifts home so the bride and groom can ope them usually the next day

By: wml24

wml24 — Wed, 07 Mar 2012 16:07:55 +0000

I will be travelling from overseas and won’t arrive until the day of the wedding. When/where should I present my gift? I don’t want to take it to the church, and the advice here is not to take it to the reception.

By: Claire Colvin

Tue, 27 Sep 2011 19:28:30 +0000

Hi Jeanne, The very easiest way to sort this out would be to call the mother of the bride and ask her preference. Do you know if the bride is planning to change her name when she marries? Are you mailing the gift to the bride? If so I would put her maiden name on the address label and then put a card in with the gift that is addressed to both of them but first name only.

By: jeanne steuck

jeanne steuck — Sun, 25 Sep 2011 21:12:43 +0000

What name do I put on the gift if I mail it?
Just the bride’s maiden name?
The bride’s maiden name and the groom’s name?
Do I sign the card Aunt Jeanne or Jeanne Steuck?

By: Jess

Jess — Thu, 08 Sep 2011 10:13:23 +0000

Pete, It really depends on the person/ financial position of the person. For instance my siblings are 26,23 and 9 and my soon to be step sisters 19 and 13 but even though I am only 17 I am the one buying our mum and step dads wedding presents (they refuse to give joint gifts) because I work more hours, and earn better money then my brother and sister and my step sister doesn’t work.

By: Claire Colvin

Tue, 06 Sep 2011 17:11:25 +0000

Pete, I would not expect a child to give their own gift. As a general rule I’d say if the child is over 18 and working (ie has their own money) and the wedding is for a friend of theirs, not a friend of the parents, then that would be the earliest that it is appropriate expect them to give a gift of their own. At that point they are an adult and can begin to take on the responsibilities of adulthood. If the young person is a student and giving a gift of their own would be a financial burden then contributing toward a gift can make a lot more sense.

By: Pete

Pete — Sun, 04 Sep 2011 17:10:34 +0000

At what age should a child be giving their own wedding gift, and not be a part of their parents gift? Thanks