Comments on: Yes, I admit it. I’m afraid of commitment.

By: Sam

Sam — Tue, 07 Feb 2012 18:29:20 +0000

Yes, commitment can be tough, but it’s core to every good relationship. New studies are showing that it might also be gene related. Check out this forum post for more info (includes a link to the research/article): http://www.dinklife.com/meet-dinks/forums/forum/love-sex/emotional-response-affected-genes

By: Doris

Mon, 23 Jan 2012 19:18:39 +0000

You make some interesting points Ben! Thanks for stopping by and taking the time to comment.

I think the point that the author was trying to make was that she was looking for an example of someone that was totally committed and didn’t waver and the only example of that she found was Jesus Christ. Her point was that we don’t really see people in our culture that are totally committed to others but Jesus was. May I challenge you to read the book of John in the Bible to learn more about him Ben? You said yourself that you don’t really know that much about him, and that would be a great place to start.

By: Ben

Ben — Sun, 22 Jan 2012 02:03:22 +0000

I thought this was really well written and touched on a lot of things that i find myself going through at this moment. And then i got to the paragraph about Jesus and how he lived his life and all the rest.

The problem for me is that one moment the author is talking about her experiences and self, the next she’s talking about a person who has been dead for quite some time and how she loves him and is committed to that love.

Let me admit first i could be totally missing the point myself…But i’ll roll with this anyway.

Don’t get me wrong. the idea of loving someone, and wishing to completely dissolve yourself in them is a very beautiful thing. It’s my wish and blessing for everyone. However, i have always found it easier to love people when they are not actually with me, and especially if they are an Englightened being like Jesus.

But somehow i feel like that’s kind of missing the point.There is something about that idea that’s just …not right…

I don’t pretend to be an expert on Jesus or the Bible. The story is all kind of foggy for me. However, i do wonder what it would be like if the beautiful person who wrote this could just find the answer to her own issues that don’t require a belief system.

Ex: I was once terrified of thunder and lighting. However, when i eventually faced my fear and went out and witnessed it i realized i was VERY TERRIFIED OF IT. I mean it’s awesome in power and totally outside of my control. It’s no wonder people thought they were Gods. But then as i spent more and more time around it,i got used to it, and even began to observe it first hand from my own experience, and it became a very pleasant and beautiful phenomenon.

So the essay was about commitment, and i guess the author made her point, that she was committed to Jesus. But i feel like if i said the same thing about some obscure author i liked, or musician, or some other person… People might think i kind of am not really facing the truth so to speak.

Anyway, i know anything Jesus is pretty sensitive for people and i’m not here to bash on anything or call on you all to question your faith or whatever. I just wanted to say i really liked the essay up to that point, and that i hope the author keeps searching even though she feels a commitment to JC.

Sincerely,

Ben

By: Doris

Wed, 28 Dec 2011 22:59:53 +0000

So true meenu, it is rare to find an individual who is willing to point out their faults unreservedly as you said. I happen to know the author personally and she has definitely persisted in her relationship with Jesus.

By: meenu

meenu — Fri, 23 Dec 2011 06:06:40 +0000

it was unusual to find someone pointing out her faults without reservation and owning the scene occuring around in general. I feel there is only one answer, that is to persist with Jesus

By: Sharon

Mon, 19 Dec 2011 23:16:11 +0000

dear marie– God i pray for fear of commitment to leave for her to find commintment to be good i pray all of this in JESUS name amen. tough i feel for you. i am praying for you. love sharon

By: Marie

Marie — Fri, 16 Dec 2011 03:04:35 +0000

This was absolutely beautiful. I have a fear of commitment but this definitely helped, thank you! :)

By: Brenda

Fri, 11 Nov 2011 22:21:47 +0000

I like what you said, Bernard, about committing to Jesus Christ, for He is the Ultimate Example of Love and Commitment. It is in letting Him love us that we truly learn what True Love is about, and we begin to be able to and want to give sacrificially. I believe this is when we are able to turn to Him in the face of hurt and work through it together, rather than, as you suggested, Ma, finding the way out. This is what I believe commitment to one another in love means, and I like Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 as a description: “9 Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. 10 If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. 11 Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? 12 A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken. [NLT]“

By: Bernard

Bernard — Sat, 05 Nov 2011 18:44:24 +0000

We are afraid of commitment because we are afraid of love and being loved and God is love… Fear of commitment causes us to do things we will eventually regret in the future because we were not committed. So commitment to the right thing and to the right people can be a good thing. Let’s trust God in our commitments.

By: ma

ma — Thu, 03 Nov 2011 06:26:21 +0000

unless we know how to protect ourselves we keep fearing the vulnerability. so first become enough strong so that if we see harm coming to us by being involved, we can find the way out