Spiritual Growth: Growing in Your Relationship with Jesus

With the Holy Spirit directing your life, you will experience a deeper relationship with God and you will grow in your ability to trust Him.

What does it mean to grow in your relationship with Jesus?

Growing in your relationship with Jesus means to know Him better, to love and obey Him more. “And this is the way to have eternal life-to know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, the one you sent to earth” (John 17:3).

“Jesus replied: ‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment.'” (Matthew 22:37-38)

Your growing love for God will lead you to obey His commandments.

[Jesus speaking] “Those who obey my commandments are the ones who love me. And because they love me, my Father will love them, and I will love them. And I will reveal myself to each one of them.” (John 14:21)

Just as it’s natural for a child to grow in a loving relationship with a parent, it is also natural for you to grow in your love relationship with God.

How can you grow in your relationship with Jesus?

Communication is vital to any relationship. Four aspects of communication will help you develop your relationship with Jesus.

i) God communicates with us through the Bible, revealing His character and His will.

“All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It straightens us out and teaches us to do what is right. It is God’s way of preparing us in every way, fully equipped for every good thing God wants us to do.” (2 Timothy 3:16-17)

ii) We communicate with God through prayer, sharing our thoughts, our needs and our desire to do his will.

“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. If you do this, you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:6-7)

“And we can be confident that he will listen to us whenever we ask him for anything in line with his will. And if we know he is listening when we make our requests, we can be sure that he will give us what we ask for.” (1 John 5:14-15)

These verses tell us we can pray about everything. When we pray according to God’s will, he hears us and answers us. Thanking God is also part of praying.

“No matter what happens, always be thankful, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.” (1 Thessalonians 5:18)

“And you will always give thanks for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.” (Ephesians 5:20)

iii) We communicate with Christians through fellowship, encouraging and building up one another.

“Think of ways to encourage one another to outbursts of love and good deeds. And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage and warn each other, especially now that the day of his coming back again is drawing near.” (Hebrews 10:24-25)

It is important to spend time with other Christians to encourage each other to love and do good. The Greek word for fellowship, koinonia, means “sharing in common.” We need to share our Christian experience with others who love God, and likewise allow them to share with us. God appoints the church as a place for us to meet other Christians and learn about God. Bible studies and other meetings are also helpful.

iv) We communicate with others who don’t know God personally by sharing about our relationship with Jesus.

“There is salvation in no one else! There is no other name in all of heaven for people to call on to save them.” (Acts 4:12)

Suggestions for Further Growth

Set aside a time and place for daily personal Bible study and prayer. A good book to begin with is the New Testament Book of John (included in the next section). As you read, underline verses you find particularly meaningful. Pray and ask God to show you who He is and how you can respond to Him.

Study other passages, such as the ones in this lesson. Also read Psalms 1, 34, 103 and 145; Matthew 7:7-11; Luke 9:23-26; John 15:1-7; 1 Corinthians 12:12-27; 2 Corinthians 5:17-21; and Colossians 1:9-12.

This is the beginning of your Christian life and there is much more to discover than what’s covered in these four lessons. Take the initiative today to find a church in your neighbourhood, and make plans to attend regularly. For additional Christian materials, check out your local Christian bookstore (try looking under “books” in the Yellow Pages). Or call New life Resources at 1-800-667-0558.


As you rely on the Holy Spirit for power, read the Bible, pray, spend time with other believers and tell people about Jesus, God will produce His character in you and you will mature spiritually.

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15 thoughts on “Spiritual Growth: Growing in Your Relationship with Jesus

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  2. Shannon Currier

    I enjoyed the lesson – Spiritual Growth: Growing in Your Relationship with Jesus” Is there a sequence of lessons that follow this one? I want to take the proper steps to developing an intimate relationship with Jesus and this lesson was very helpful but I want to read other resources pertaining to this.

    Thank you!


  3. Francis Conoh

    I agree with Shannon:your lesson is very useful and enligthen.I am a 61 year old man( knowing my age only by school account and to the present day)There is a lot to talk about myself but it is not an office to write any autobiografy.Sometimes when I sit down and go through my lifestyle in the past till now, I feel so disapointed in myself. I think I have done “nothing” good for myself,not for the world,not for my family,not for my Church….and also have achieved nothing.Does that sound strange?Is it any devilish way of thinking? Or God wants me to take another giant step before it is too late for me? Thanks that your lesson has already given me some guidlines.Hope to have more as Shannon demanded.I’ll be grateful to have any spiritual advice in the name of Jesus Christ,my saviour.God bless your ministry.Amen.

  4. Alfred

    Hi Francis,
    What you say sounds very familiar! I am 76 thid year, and I too have been very critical of myself, and have wondered whether I can get into heaven with all the mistakes I’ve made and hurts that I’ve caused. You are, however, giving yourself the correct answer already, for you consider that maybe “God wants me to take another giant step before it is too late”! Think of the great Apostle Paul, who called himself the “the chief of sinners” because of the way he persecuted Christians; and look at the wonderful way God has used him (even to this day). I like to say that “Every saint has his past, and every sinner has his future”. To recognize one’s depravity is step #1. From there the only way to go is “up”.
    Of course, we must want to do good, but actually it is not our doing that gets us into good standing. It is God’s doing, via Christ Jesus, that gets us there!!! Our response to His love, is to love Him in return, to the extent that we serve Him. That takes faith AND boldness!! I find that whenever I have not obeyed the prompting of the Spirit, it was most often for fear of what others watching me would think. Did I fear man more than God? – It seems that way. What a blessing, however, when God could use me. Often He’s given me thrill, a deep inner rejoicing, that tells me He is pleased with what is happening.
    There is another aspect to moving forward in Christian growth, and that is to realize that the devil wants to kick us around: We know we’ve been forgiven, yet feelings of guilt, inferiority and shame threaten to overwhelm us. That is nothing but a lie from the devil, so we must stand up and trample him underfoot! Romans 8:1 says “There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit.” NKJV Also, reading Roman 8:14-26 will give you encouragement.
    I feel led to share with you part of my Spiritual journey: “How God turned me around” After growing up in a Christian home and being baptized as a teenager, I drifted for 30 years. I had a vague feeling that all was not well, but did not realize how far I’d fallen. With considerable difficulty I did hold onto a job, but was not getting ahead. I had lost rapport with my family (wife and 3 children), felt lonely and even bitter at times. I even looked at horoscopes, but found that evil spirits were starting to cater to me. I was horrified. I prayed that God show me how to straiten out my life. Then God gave me a dream in which I was on my way to hell, and I knew why. That shook me up! For the next 7 days, upon returning home from work, I knelt by my bed and wept bitterly for Jesus to wash me clean. Then I felt refreshed! I asked God what the next step would be, upon which a friend invited me to a Full Gospel Business Men’s meeting. There I received the Baptism in the Holy Spirit. What a thrill. I have never been the same since! I’d let go of God, but in His mercy, He had not let go of me. In His love, He drew me closer to Himself than I’d ever been before. My wife and I were led to participate in a Bible study for couples, which helped us to again find one-another. God is now leading me day by day to serve Him. There is so much to do, and so little time. Yet with His guidance people are helped and I am blessed.
    Dear Heavenly Father, I thank You for sending Jesus to do for us what we are unable to do for ourselves. Help Francis, I pray to know that He is in good hands, and give him the boldness to stand tall for You. YOU have a plan for his life, that he be a blessing to many! Fill his heart with such joy that it will show on his face! Thank you, Lord. We praise you for lifting us up and making us useful. In the precious name of Jesus, Amen.
    Please do not get the impression, Francis, that I’ve got it made. The journey continues, and the devil must again be trampled underfoot. Spiritual Growth is a continuous process! See you at Jesus’ Banqueting Table, Alfred.

  5. Jocyce

    Wow! Is wonderful what God does with his children, there is no warm and save place than be in God’s hand. God is GREAT all the time, He never disappoint or hurt his children. Be willing, get thirsty for his word, be hungry for the holy spirit and let his will be done with you.

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  7. angad bansa

    Thanks for a nice lesson to god .my life is very poor in past days I used to take tabacco than I started dinking alcohole than finally started taking drug I’m getting to much addicatted.Than finally I decided to faith on god and said to god god my life is going on darken way please help and get out me from this way and finally he to me out so thank you god . so I would like to tell all my friend faith on him ameen.

  8. Chris Landwerlen

    yes angad. your desire to share your freedom with others is exactly what jesus told the man in mark chapter 5 to do too!!

  9. Tui

    Glory shall be upon you Lord thank you for the encouragement as I am a Christian sometimes I intend to forget God on daily basis and before I was very close with God but somehow I drifted away and now I am trying to settle and committed to God and my soul is dying I need to be fed and to take me through my journey I have a lot of negativity in my head and every time I try to read a bible or pray theirs always a thought that with block me so please help me and pray for me as I read through these encouragement how wonderful it is to have peace with my God.

  10. Chris

    tui…you sound alone. a true new testament church would help you greatly where you could hear the Word of christ preached with authority and power and you could receive prayer. let me know your city and state. i can check on one for you. blessings

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