She had an idea  of what the perfect life looked like. That’s what she wanted, that’s what she worked for and that’s what she had. “But it was fake.” Is divorce the answer or is it just running from the real problem? For Cheryl it was the answer but for God, it was not the end of their story.  Seven years and one long road later Cheryl and Jeff got back together.  Have you ever wondered if your marriage was beyond saving?

After you have watched the video above, consider the following:

Take a look at your life. How would you describe it?

Contented? Rushed? Exciting? Stressful? Moving forward? Holding back? For many of us it’s all of the above at times. There are things we dream of doing one day, and there are things we wish we could forget. In the Bible, it says that Jesus came to make all things new. What would your life look like if you could start over with a clean slate?

Are you ready to choose a different path?

Jesus came, and died, and rose again to wipe the slate clean. He was scourged, tormented, and finally nailed on the cross for humankind’s sins – this was all part of God’s plan to bring you and I back into relationship with him. God wants to be a part of your life … in fact, not just a part of your life, but wants you to live in full fellowship with Him. Is this the life for you?

God loves you and created you to know Him personally. He longs for you to have the kind of full life you were always meant to have. So why do people not experience this kind of life? People are lost and separated from God, so we cannot know Him personally or experience His love. Because of our sins, we justly deserve judgement. But God provided his Son, Jesus Christ, as the only provision for our sin. He died in our place, then he rose from the dead.

We must individually trust Jesus Christ as Savior and Lord; then we can know God personally, receive forgiveness for our sins, and experience His love: “As many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God” (John 1:12)

We trust God through faith. You can trust Christ right now by faith through prayer! (Prayer is just talking with God.) God knows your heart and is not so concerned with your words as He is with the attitude of your heart. The following is a suggested prayer:

Lord Jesus, I need you. Thank You for dying on the cross for my sins. I open the door of my life and receive You as my Savior and Lord. Thank You for forgiving my sins and giving me eternal life. Take control of the throne of my life. Make me the kind of person You want me to be.

Does this prayer express the desire of your heart?

If it does, pray this prayer right now, and Christ will come into your life, just as He promised.

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Do you understand the battle for purity your husband is going through? How can you help him stay away from lusting? Did you know that your support can be the deciding factor on whether your husband succeeds or fails in his pursuit for purity?

Join Dr. Dave Currie and guest Stephen Arterburn, author of many books including the popular Every Men’s Battle, in a discussion of understanding the men’s struggle for sexual integrity. In this short clip, Mr. Arterburn and Dr. Currie share their insights and give practical tips for both the husband and wife on how to deal with and win the men’s battle for sexual purity.

Watch the video clip.

For more resources or to get the full discussion on how to better understand the men’s battle for sexual purity, visit www.MarriageUncensored.com.

Television show Marriage Uncensored and its host Dr. Dave Currie sits down with marital therapist Kirby Hanawalt to discuss the issues on affairs in marriages. In this short video clip, learn how to put hedges around you and your spouse to protect your marriage as both Dr. Currie and Mr. Hanawalt share knowledge and tips on affair-proofing the marriage relationship.

Watch the video clip.

Visit Marriage Uncensored online to get the full discussion on affair-proofing the marriage relationship. You can also see other episodes of Marriage Uncensored online and obtain further marital or family resources by visiting their website at www.marriageuncensored.com

Jesse James (the West Coast Choppers CEO, not the 19th century outlaw) was thrust into the spotlight after it was revealed that he cheated on his wife, actress Sandra Bullock, with tattoo model and stripper Michelle “Bombshell” McGee. Public sympathy was not on his side, to put it mildly. In a recent interview, James referred to himself as being “the most hated man in the world.” In the same interview James admits he cheated (“Vicki Mabrey: You cheated on your wife. / James: Yup.”) and attempts to provide an explanation of why he cheated on “America’s sweetheart”:

“I grew up with a huge amount of shame and fear and abandonment on my shoulders from a very young age and I think … the way my mind rationalized [cheating on Bullock], ‘Well, you know, I might as well do whatever I can to like run her off cause she is going to find out what I am anyway and leave me anyway,’” he told Mabrey. He broke down, in particular, when noting that his own daughter is now the age he was when his father broke his arm. What he learned in rehab, which he checked into after news of the scandal broke, was simple, he said, and he repeated it often: “I think I do things to sabotage my life.”

The comments on the article are definitely a mixed bag. One lady (who just may have issues of her own) calls James “worse than Hitler”, which is more than a little exaggerated! Most others share some measure of sympathy for him while still condemning his actions. One thing I didn’t notice during the interview was an apology; not to the public, but to his wife. I admit that I have a personal bias; I had a Sandra Bullock poster on my wall for most of high school. But I think the fact that Bullock is a well-liked famous actress has definitely increased peoples’ anger against James.

Do you think Jesse James is really just “bad” like the song says? Or do you think his explanations help mitigate his guilt? If you have been involved in a similar situation of infidelity, what have you learned that you can share with others to help them?

If you’re going through relationship problems, and need someone to talk to, please contact us today, and speak with someone confidentially via email.

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