Has God Ever Disappointed You?

Written by Karen Schenk

soulcravingsletdown To love is to risk.  I set up expectations of people I love whether I mean to or not. The more I love, the more expectations I have.  I sense it when those expectations are not met and I feel like I’ve been let down.  It’s something that annoys me about myself. I want to love without expectation.  I want to love freely and not let people down or feel like they let me down.

I love God, I pray, I come to him with the things that weigh on my heart.  When he doesn’t answer the way I think he should that can make me feel like he let me down.  I don’t understand why God chooses to not do things that seem obviously right to me.   But I know that he can see more than I can and that he can give me the strength I need to go through those tough times.  I know that my risk is higher if I don’t love because then I am truly all alone.  Has God ever let you down?

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102 Responses to “Has God Ever Disappointed You?”

  • Sharon says:

    to Ann chin. I am sorry you are going through such a rough time. prayer father God I do pray for Ann right now for your hand of provision over her and lead her to a good job and to a good man for her to love and to love back I pray fill her heart with joy and I pray healing over her tiredness and sore feet I pray for Christians to come along her path to encourage her this man who showed interest in you then got mad at you and blocked you that is his issues. I am sure you are gorgeous looking. God loves you with an everlasting love. maybe take a break from the service church for awhile so God through the Christians can minister to you do you have friends there can pray for you if you ask. it does say in the bible he healed everyone in the bible who came to him or he went to but he didn’t heal everyone like the pool of Bethsaida he healed a paralytic man but I am sure there were lots there who needed healing but he only healed one man john 5 I am praying for you– sharon

  • Ann Chin says:

    I divorced and In this 2 years I had changed more than 5 job in this 2 year.

    I feel so no confident but what to do life is need to goes on. Bills, car loan, house loan, Children’s school fees is still need to pay.

    Every of my job I give 100% but end up my superior doesn’t like me. Then is ok but after few job also the same.

    My heart very tired and my feet so weak.

    Before today, I always patient, service Church, volunteer for any Charity run by my Church and never tiring to contribute my time and service. I keep on pray to have a good job, good husband.

    After divorced last 3 year, I found a man which is he showed his interested to me but end up he so angry of me, till blocked me from any connection.

    What did I do until deserved all these things?

    Can you tell me how to love God?

    Why He healed blinded people in the past at New Testament but now He didn’t heal all the blinded people who came to believed in Him?

    Ask then He will give. Then we just asked a little from Him then what is mean of this scripture in Bible?

    I don’t know how to ask because all I asked from Him will turn to be dissappointed and worse is more worse then before I convert to Christian.

    Maybe I’m not beautiful, not rich and not educated thats y He doesn’t love me at all and asked me to leave from Him.

    I feel now don’t want to ask better. The more I asked, the more worse I get.

  • Aldo says:

    Buck, I am sorry that you feel that God has let you down all these years, but I’m interested to what type of relationship you have with God? Most people think that if they don’t commit some terrible sin like grand theft, murder, rape, or adultery; attend church once or twice a year; and do a good deed every so often, that they are good enough to go to heaven when they die. That, Buck, is a lie from the pit of hell.

    To have a “relationship” with God, one needs to admit he/she is a sinner, accept the death of His “only begotten” Son Jesus Christ on the cross of Calvary, receive Him as Savior (that’s admission), and commit his or her life to living for Christ (that’s allegiance).

    Buck, that seems so simple and easy to do, but our human nature is so prideful that it keeps many from doing just that. But, when one humbles himself, and comes to the foot of the cross of Christ, and humbly asks forgiveness, God the Holy Spirit does a regenerating work in the heart of that person, and he knows that he has been “born again.” That is when we enter into a “relationship” with God. Then we can go to our heavenly Father and ask what we will, and He will do it for us. John 15:7 says, “If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, you will ask what you desire, and it shall be done for you.”

    Buck, if you would like to confess Jesus Christ as your Savior and Lord right now, please repeat this prayer sincerely from your heart and mean it:

    “Dear God, I admit I am a sinner and need Your forgiveness; I believe that Jesus Christ died in my place, paying the penalty for my sins. I am willing right now to turn from my sin and accept Him as my personal Savior and Lord. I commit myself to You, and ask You to send the Holy Spirit into my life, to fill me and take control, and to help me become the kind of person You want me to be. Thank You Father for loving me, forgiving my sins, and giving me everlasting life, in Jesus name, Amen.”

    I pray that the Spirit of God draw you to the place of receiving Christ.

  • buck stevens says:

    why do you tell people the garbage. There is no god or devil. For over 60 years I have prayed to god and NEVER has he answered a prayer never. So for 60 years god HAS let me down.

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    Hi Michelle, I am so sorry for your losses. It is devastating to love and trust someone, only to be abandoned by them without any warning. Do you have any idea of why he left?

    I can understand why you are angry at God for allowing you to fall in love with this man when He knew how crushed you would be because of the choice your boyfriend made to leave you. But I want to remind you that Jesus’ promise to us is that not that He will take away all the trouble and hurt from our lives, but that He will help us to overcome even in the midst of that trouble (John 16:33) God has also promised that He will never leave nor abandon us (Hebrews 13:5) That means that when we are hurt by circumstances or at the hands of other people, God is there to strengthen and guide us through all of that, and He will comfort us in our grief.

    The proof of that is in the accounts of godly men and women in the Bible. Moses experienced all kinds of frustration and rejection from people who were closest to him. David was considered an outlaw and had to flee for his life for years. Daniel was captured and taken into exile by King Nebuchadnezzar. John the Baptist was imprisoned and beheaded, even though Jesus declared, “among those born of women there has arisen no one greater than John the Baptist.” (Matthew 11:11) Jesus Himself was rejected by his family and His nation, and was crucified. Their lives are evidence of the expectation we can all have of disappointments in life, but also of the faithfulness of God to lead us through that trouble in His love.

    That is not to say that these individuals never asked that God would relive them of their sorrow and pain, and neither should you. I am sure you know that even Jesus asked that if it was possible that God would spare Him from the pain of the cross. Moses often got angry at God for the rebelliousness of the people of Israel. God can handle our anger, frustration and sorrow. He wants us to come to Him with all those things and look to Him for help.

    I don’t know why God has allowed you to go through this painful loss, or what He has planned for you and your boyfriend. But I do know that through it all He will help you each step, and through it you will learn to trust Him more and know His leading.

    Let me pray for you: Lord Jesus, my heart breaks to hear about all that Michelle has gone through and all the losses she is feeling right now. She needs Your strength right now, and Your comfort to ease the pain and loneliness. I pray that You would work in the heart of her boyfriend so that they can begin to dialogue and deal with the issues that have caused this divide. Bring healing to this relationship. Amen.

    Michelle, do you have a church that you belong to? I know that in my life, God has often used other followers of Jesus to help me through difficult circumstances.

    Let me also invite you to connect with one of our Mentors. They are just regular folks who love coming alongside people in struggles and help them to look for God’s leading. There is no cost and all you have to do is fill out the Mentor Request Form at http://powertochange.com/experience/talk-to-a-mentor/ and one of our mentors will be in touch with you soon by email.

  • Sharon says:

    to Michelle I am sorry about your disappointment with God I can’t imagine on what you are going through I feel for you I have had disappointments with God too none like yours how sad for you having a man who you love and then him leaving I know you probably don’t want prayer but I am praying for you for a miracle for this man to come back to you again or a good man to come into your life– sharon

  • Michelle says:

    God has completely let me down. After my 2nd husband and I split up, I was very depressed. If it wouldn’t have been for my young daughters relying on me, I would have ended my life. Another example of God disappointing me, my daughter’s Dad was killed on the job. He was only 25 and our daughters were 2 1/2 and 9 months old.
    Anyway, after the break up of my 2nd marriage, I slowly tried to get my life back in order. I found a good job, but I was very lonely. I tried personals sites and got rejected time after time. Just 2 months shy of a year since the break up, I finally met a man who showed some interest in me. We started talking, became friends, then eventually started dating. We then moved in together. We had our ups and downs like any couple, but I loved this man with my whole heart. I think he loved me, but now I’m not so sure. After being together 15 years, he pulled up in a Uhaul, packed just a little of his belongings, and he was gone. I tried talking to him and got nowhere. He left without so much as a “goodbye”. He left no forwarding address, changed his phone number, his email, and even his FB page. He has blocked me from all of it. I found out through a mutual friend, he moved out of state back close to his Mom.
    I am devastated! He was my lover, my best friend, and also my Co driver. We were driving a truck as a team all over the country. It is a job that required teams so when he left, so did my job. I lost not only the love of my life, and my support system, I lost my way to make a living. Now because of this, I am so messed up emotionally and mentally, I couldn’t drive a truck right now and do it safely.
    God KNEW how bad I was hurting when my marriage broke apart so why in the hell did he put this man in my life when He KNEW that this same man was going to break my heart and leave me all alone?!?
    I’m sick of hearing how time will make it heal this hurt and God has something better in store for me. SCREW all that! I had a life, a love, a good job, and now I have NOTHING, yet I’m supposed to trust God and let Him take control?!? NO THANKS!
    I’m not going to get past this loss this time. I know in my heart, I am never going to see the man I love, ever again, and God just does not care!
    I sit here night after night crying, wondering how he is, who he’s with, etc while I go to bed alone every night.
    Does this sound like a God who has my best interests at heart?!?

  • Chris says:

    billy…so sorry you are struggling…God knew that sin could run so deep that parents and family members would be divided. that is why he has provided promises for you like….psalm 27.10, isaiah 1, psalm 68, hebrews 13.5 to 8, matthew 28.19 to 20. we must understand that people may not always be there for us. either through abandonment, neglect or death, people can leave our lives but jesus never will. i encourage you to keep your eyes on jesus, develop your relationship with him, realize that people can and will fail you but christ cannot. praying jesus encourage you now to move forward with him in your faith, with, without or despite people. jesus bless you!

  • Billy says:

    I am extremely disappointed with God that I cannot even pray because I no longer believe in Him.
    I am not in speaking terms with my family because I do not believe that they care for me.
    I am single and just turned 40.
    I had to quit my job in January and until today, I am unemployed. I went for few interviews and all those rejections made me completely lost confidence in myself. I feel so dumb.
    I stopped going to church for a month now. I hear the same stuff every Sundays, I did read the bible and meditated and believed but I received nothing.
    I cut communications with all my friends because I don’t believe they care. Well, I chose to keep 2 friends because I don’t want to be totally alone.
    My heart is so hardened, I cannot even cry.
    I feel numb. I feel so alone, unloved and abandoned by God.

  • Elkay says:

    Stacy, I am very sorry for the woes in your life just now and would love to be able respond to your request for help, especially in making your family whole again. The most natural response to adversity is to plea with the Lord to remove it. If that doesn’t work, we might get angry or try to find our own way out of the difficulty or pain. Sometimes we blame others for the trouble and they might have caused the problem, but ultimately God allowed it and by the time it reaches us, it’s been dipped in the Father’s love and shaped to accomplish His good purpose. If we love Him and are walking in His purpose for our life, Romans 8:28 assures us that long-term good, not necessarily happiness, will come out of our troubles.

    When we come to God, restoring happiness may be our goal, but from His point of view, the adversity may be necessary to mature us spiritually. Because when we receive Jesus as our Savior, we are promised that God’s Spirit indwells us and we will have our Father’s protection staying with us in the struggle. What’s more, we have assurance that nothing can separate us from His love (Rom. 8:38-39). So our ever-present God walks with us through the hardships, providing guidance and speaking truth into the situation.

    Your Mother is right-on as thankfulness and praise to God is the response He desires from us considering the sacrifice He made of His Son so that we could be back in a righteous relationship with Him. Hard as it is, we have to remember that the trials and tribulations of this life are intended to develop our Christian character so that we are prepared to spend eternity in the next age praising and serving Him.

    The article invited you to initiate a free conversation by email with a mentor and that might be something you would find helpful. You can do that by hitting the “Talk to a Mentor” button at the top and briefly describe your situation and we will get back to you in confidence.

  • stacey says:

    In 2014 my husband was arrested for something he didn’t do & was sentenced to prison. I feel God let us down, I got angry with God. I felt that God could have stopped this great evil that has been done to our little family. My family all see him as guilty & some kind of monster. They judge him without knowing him. He’s a good, just man who doesn’t belong where he’s at. We feel that our faith has let us down so badly. We feel cut up, beat up, battered, bruised & left for dead. We are not rich by no means. I can’t seem to find a job where I can work Mon.- Fri. day time. All I have is a high school diploma. I’m so sick of the hurt I feel . I pray & pray & everyday ends in disappointment. My mother says I shouldn’t feel like this because God didn’t do it. I can’t help it. I’m just so sick of everything. I want my wonderful husband home, our daughter needs her daddy. I’m trying so hard to have hope & faith that all will be well & that my husband will be home with us soon & that the charges against him will be dismissed. Please help.

  • Chris says:

    tery…sorry to hear you are struggling….the bible says God is good and after 40 years of walking with him, i truly believe that. Despite having a wife leave me, and another one die of cancer, i can honestly say that through it all i have learned to trust in jesus and know he is always enough. people will come and go but jesus is a friend who lasts not only a lifetime but forever. if you havent receive jesus as you lord and savior yet you can by logging onto knowingjesuspersonally.com or by clicking talk a mentor above. then as you do, please become part of a the body of christ where being connected, you can experience the blessings that come from being a branch attached to the vine! blessings!

  • Tery says:

    I feel useless and purposeless. I have no family, no friends, and I am constantly lonely. I’m not young enough to make a new beginning. Although I am smart, personable, and pleasant, I have no career. It is too late for me to have children, and I have no years left to develop a livelihood that could support a wife and a household.

    I am truly giving and kind, but I am constantly reminded how people around me are much, much more blessed than I am. I’ve been happy about 2 moments in my entire life. Everything that is heaped upon my peers is either absolutely unattainable for me or else I have to work 100 times harder to get it than everyone else.

    There are so many miserable and sad people in the world. Others suffer much more and die in pain and fear. I have a lot of trouble these days believing that God “loves” me or most of the people in the world at large. It’s quite easy to see that he loves others a heck of a lot more than me, and they don’t even really deserve it. If I had a painless and consequence free choice to not continue being in this world.

    God, I can’t understand why you’ve made it so hard for me. I can’t hear or see what it is you want me to learn from all these trials, challenges, roadblocks, and disappointments in my life. All I know is that my burden is too heavy and if I’m here just to suffer I don’t want to do it anymore.

  • Doris Beck Doris Beck says:

    Thank you for your honesty! You said that ‘I feel I am not as much of a Christian as God expects me to be and that in some way by not trusting God or feeling disappointed I have let Him down. So, that is my first and foremost emotion.I feel guilty about to many issues of the heart, guilt being among them.’

    God doesn’t expect us to be a certain kind of Christian…He asks for our love and our obedience. Even the people that we love disappoint us at times and that’s ok. But why are we disappointed? Because we have placed unrealistic expectations on them.

    The same is true of your relationship with God. God doesn’t promise that we will always be happy, healthy and wealthy. What He does promise is that He will be there when we walk through the rivers, He will be our strength and our shield and He will redeem us for all of eternity. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, thank Him for what you do have. Spend time daily in His Word, getting to know Him better and asking Him to reveal Himself to you.

    Too often we feel like God isn’t hearing us, but are we walking in obedience to what He has already shown us? is there unconfessed sin in our lives? these are some questions that you need to answer in your own heart. May I also suggest that you take advantage of our ‘Talk to a Mentor’ link above to privately engage in an ongoing conversation with one of our online mentors? I think you will find that helpful.

  • Shelley says:

    First, let me say I feel extremely guilty ( I believe this is just another way that the devil is trying to sabotage my relationship with God ) for being disappointed in GOD. Because I do love Him with all my heart. At least I thought I did, but since this feeling of disappointment started ( recently, within the last 6 months, is first time since my rebirth and redediction baptism in 2005 that I have experienced any type of disappointment in God.)Before my dedication, I was a carnal,non practicing Christian) I feel I am not as much of a Christian as God expects me to be and that in some way by not trusting God or feeling disappointed I have let Him down. So, that is my first and foremost emotion.I feel guilty about to many issues of the heart, guilt being among them. Okay now to the reason I feel let down: I am 64 years old and have lived “hand to mouth” most of my life. When I was younger I coped,but as a family,I have two, now married daughters from my first marriage which ended in 1978.We were dysfunctional as a result of being ‘poor’. And eventually my two daughters went to live with their father, who had money and was successful. They were age 5 and 12 at the time they left my home to live with their father and his new wife. Financially I had nothing, and the lure of their fathers expensive home with the built in swimming pool, plus all the things money could buy enticed them to want to live with their dad. At the time, in my very tiny,rented home, we were teetering on becoming homeless.I, of course was heartbroken when they left and it still hurts to think about. Albeit,as adults they are closer to me then their father. I also have major depression as of 2009 since I had most of my thyroid removed, it is cause by a physical illness, nonetheless, still major depression, and am on disability for my depressive disorder. So, depression makes it more difficult to cope. But, 44 years of living hand to muth is taking a toll on me. And though i had a few better years, i was never able to purchase a home. And for the most part have not accumulated any assets. i have no mney, and now for the first time in several years i have no car. I feel guilty when I pray for material things. I always think of how our poorest in America is another countries rich. How can I complain about not having a car, or pray for one while those in Syria right now have nothing? Not even a homeland to call their own. They travel for weeks with nothing to their name only to be turned away from a new homeland. But,lately I have prayed for fiancail assistance, my partner of 23 years works his butt off ( 70 hours a week and we barely make ends meet). I have prayed for him to find a better job.Even though at his age it seems impossible.I have prayed for what i believe to be the impossible for me because with God I believe all things are possible. My prayers have gone unanswered. I have prayed for years for me to regain my health sop I could go back to work, my prayer has been unanswered.belief is becoming thwarted by my guilt, and our financial problems. We have nothing for retirement.Ii worry constantly that my guy will get sick, and we will be homeless at our age. Now, one other problem other then guilt is envy, and i have read others on this post who feel the same way. I am envious of so many people that God has blesses. I know He has blessed me beyond measure, by giving me life and sending His son to carry my sins to the grave. Then why do I WANT MORE? I have so many questions about this awful guilt I carry around, the envy I feel at others being “blessed” more financially while all we do is struggle. Why is God letting Syria and many others around the world suffer so? Even though I feel blessed, I still want MORE, and I feel stuck in a situation which will never change no matter how hard I try. A situation that has remained the same for 44 years no matter how hard I try. I have worked my whole life ,sometimes two or three jobs, up until 2009 when I became disabled. I have also prayed a lot for improved health, but to no avail I have a chronic condition and will prob. stay the same till I go home to be with Jesus!

  • Elkay says:

    A, you appear to be in a highly dangerous state of mind because you need God as your Heavenly Father more than you need your “happy life”. Dr. Stanley has this advice . . .

    It is 100 percent true that God is good and that He’s in control. These facts, however, do not prevent “bad things” from happening. Though it’s within the Lord’s power to give everyone a perfect existence, that wouldn’t be in our best interest. Trials and frustration often drive people to the Father. And for those of us who are already His followers, God uses harsh circumstances to mature our faith and conform us to the image of His Son. To be made perfect and pleasing to our Father is indeed beneficial.

    In His omniscience and wisdom, God may seem to “block” our plans so we can grow from the experience. Growth, whether in compassion, trust, or knowledge, is good. If we could peek behind the scenes of our life, we’d see the Lord sovereignly working toward His ultimate purpose for us.

    Romans 8:28 affirms this: “And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.” On occasion, we see immediate positive results from trials. But other times, we must wait months or years (or until we reach heaven) to fully understand what God was doing in those difficult circumstances.

    Suffering is an inevitable part of a fallen world. But we have assurance that God is in control of the universe, including the tiny corner we occupy. When He permits bad things to happen, we can be sure that He will continue to provide comfort and guidance as He shapes us into the people He wants us to be.

    The starting point for these blessings is to trust Him and carry on.

  • Delta says:

    @ A. I do not think it was God who holds you back! Lots of open doors are due to our network, characters, wisdom, favors.

    I also not saying that you should not be angry at God! You can be angry at God; He can take it!

  • a. says:

    I just want a better life. The ability to do what i love but god keeps blocking me. Everything i try blows up in smoke. I am tired of god. He disappointed me for the last time. I am finished!

  • Chris says:

    johno…please share how you have been disappointed in life. i believe we can find some answers for you.

  • Johno says:

    Pray for his will bc that’s all we will get nomater what we do !

  • Elkay says:

    Terry, the question of why God does or does not answer prayers when we think the “right” answer is obvious is 1000’s of years old. That does not make your situation any easier or erase the impact of your negative experiences but we can learn a lot from Job who asked “Why do the wicked live and become old, and mighty in power?” (21:7) And said “I am righteous, but God has taken away my justice; my wound is incurable, though I am without transgression.” (34:5-6).

    When we are tested and tried, Satan wants us to blame God and accuse Him of being unfair and unjust, to make an accusation against the holy God of righteousness . . . that is evil’s strategy and what Satan wanted from Job. (1:11). Later on in Job, Elihu made at least 5 major points that we do well to remember:

    1) Behind every act of God is a loving heart and when we fail to acknowledge this and His wisdom, we are in error. God always acts in accordance with His nature and cannot be unjust or unloving.
    2) We are fallen creatures with limited understanding and do not know the facts as God does. He is sovereign because He made the universe and is accountable to no one.
    3) God does not owe us answers and even when He speaks, it does not need to be on our terms and in our timing. Even when He acts or speaks, we may not even understand what is going on or what He is saying to us.
    4) His acts may cause stress or pain but they may be to spare us even greater loss.
    5) Out of His great love, God sometimes must allow pain into our lives to rouse us out of our blindness and deafness. (Job’s problem was pride in his “righteousness” and it needed to be dealt with.)

    So to address your situation, take a leap of faith and believe that God has everything in His control even when we can’t perceive it (Ps 103:19); He knows the inside and outside of every situation and every past, present, and future event (Rom 11:33-36); and He loves us perfectly and always chooses what is best for us, even if it’s not easy (Ex. 34:6).

    This is what Job did and his faith swelled up so that he said “I had only heard about You before, but now I have seen You with my own eyes.” So the Lord blessed Job in the second half of his life. (42:5, 12)

    Another way to look at your life is you grew up with out spiritual support and today you are praying in the face of “unanswered prayers”. You have learned that God answers on His terms not ours. You have also been “saved” from the ravages of drugs and alcohol; you are married and healthy at 50; so God is certainly active in your life

    Job had every reason in the world to think God had left him down; Joseph also and neither of them lost their faith. They were totally honest with God about how they felt and in the end, both were blessed The kind of faith that pleases God is steadfast faith that God is good and His plans are perfect when life does not make sense. The Bible is full of such examples, Job 2:10 and Hosea 6:1-2 and Habakkuk 3:17-18 being prime examples.

    My prayer is that you begin to trust God and will daily thank Him for His love and protection and blessings in your life and that your faith will swell up as Job’s did. You may find it helpful to converse privately with a mentor who would be specifically chosen to address your concerns. Click on “Talk to a Mentor” above.

    Whatever you may think about what I’ve said, don’t stop thanking God and praying because your prolonged prayers show God that you believe in Him and in His sovereignty and in His goodness . . . and we are here to worship Him and so we do . . . especially when we don’t understand what He is doing or not doing. So keep on keeping on . . . in faith. Take care . . . I’ll be praying for you.

  • Terry says:

    @Terry. I would get myself to a really good church home group if I were you.

    Having read your testimony, I really think you are a good communicator as you can express yourself very clearly in writing.

    Let go of any bitterness that you may have and choose your friend wisely.

    People in general does not need lots of friends. They just need few “Good” friends.

  • Terry says:

    Ever since I was a child, unaware of being able to sin or even knowing what sin was, my life has been very, very hard. As I grew up and noticed that I didn’t have a normal family, didn’t have any spiritual support, and no social skills, it only got worse. I had no friends, and I prayed and prayed for some relief for a change. It never got better. I even fell into drug and alcohol abuse because I found out people would seek company with you if you wanted to get wasted. That’s how lonely I was.

    I then got clean and sober, thinking that God would be pleased with me if I did. Nothing changed. I got married hoping I could be a part of my wife’s family and have my own. Nothing changed. I am damaged goods because of all my negative experiences and yet I still pray. Nothing changes.

    Ever since I’ve been self-aware, my life literally has been one assault after another. I see multitudes of happy people with spouses, great jobs, happy families, homes, and peace and well being. They’re not any smarter or better than me. Oftentimes I think I am the “better” person, yet I am not included in any of this and will never receive any of these blessings.

    I often hear that God’s delays are not God’s denials but I have been waiting far too long to experience even two consecutive days of even marginal happiness and I’m almost 50. It’s too late for me to start a family, make a career, or do anything consequential. God has TRULY let me down.

  • Alfred says:

    : Hi Lost Soul, You might be surprized at how far you’ve already come! Just stopping to talk to others about the negatives in your life is a step in the right direction. It is amazing how our words can be self-fulfilling! The next step is to “watch one’s self-talk”. God has created us “in His image” and there is a lot of good in each of us! As we find something every day to thank God for, we feel the positives overtaking the negatives, and we soon find ourselves living in a new world! The trouble, of course, is that the devil is out to spoil everything that he can. We are able, however, to resist him and in many ways even stop him. That is where God comes in. As we put our trust in Jesus Christ, we can be at ease, in that He takes care of us. That sounds just too easy. Well, He will most often not protect us from the difficulties, but will help us through them.
    Dear Heavenly Father, we come to you in the name of Jesus, thanking you for giving us the help we need to beat the enemy and to survive triumphantly. Help everyone here who has experienced such difficulties as to be very discouraged. We come to you for new hope, encouragement, and the will to continue with a positive attitude. Bless us, we pray. Amen.

  • Lost Soul says:

    Chris, Delta , Aldo- Thank you all for you very kind words and precious time. I have decided to be silent. No more sharing of my feelings/emotions. This is due to the fact that, I have realized my situations are unique to me and expecting anyone else to understand them is not realistic. So let God deal with my situation if and when He likes. Even if He decides to leave me as I am now- what could I do- just go on. :-((. Thanks again for the concern and time . I really appreciate your time. :-))

  • Aldo says:

    Lost Soul, God is not targeting you for any sin you have committed, “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23). What that means is that sin separates you from God, but He loves you, as He loves us all, and wants you to come into a “relationship” with Him (not religion)through committing your life to His Son Jesus Christ, who died on Calvary’s cross for your sins and the sins of all mankind.

    That seems so simple and easy to do, but our human nature is so prideful that it keeps many from doing just that. But, when one humbles himself, and comes to the foot of the cross of Christ, and humbly asks forgiveness, God the Holy Spirit does a regenerating work in the heart of that person, and he knows that he has been “born again.”

    Lost Soul, if you would like to confess Jesus Christ as your Savior and Lord right now, please repeat this prayer sincerely from your heart:

    “Dear God, I admit I am a sinner and need Your forgiveness; I believe that Jesus Christ died in my place, paying the penalty for my sins. I am willing right now to turn from my sin and accept Him as my personal Savior and Lord. I commit myself to You, and ask You to send the Holy Spirit into my life, to fill me and take control, and to help me become the kind of person You want me to be. Thank You Father for loving me, forgiving my sins, and giving me everlasting life, in Jesus name, Amen.”

    I pray that the Spirit of God draw you to the place of receiving Christ.

  • Delta says:

    @Lost Soul. Have you received Jesus as your saviour?

    I can relate to what you’re going through.
    sometimes the things that happened in our lives happened due to cause and effect of wrong decisions. I received all the effects of wrong decisions that I made/ wrong decisions that my parents made.

    The bible says wisdom saves us from disaster.

    Sometimes certain situations happened due to unjust treatment by others.

    In the case of Joseph. Most of the things that happened to him were caused by others.

    Don’t give up! Bring your family to a good church. We all need emotional support when we go through this kind of situation.

    I don’t know how God will do it but He said “All things come together for good to those who love God” I will just decide to believe on His word despite the circumstance.

  • Chris says:

    lost soul…i am sorry to hear you are struggling however John 10.10 is clear that jesus has come to give us an abundant life but satan is the one who comes to steal, kill and destroy, not jesus. as you give your heart to jesus and ask forgiveness for any sin, join yourself with others of like precious faith and let christs words in the bible come to life for you, you will begin to experience his faithfulness but you must enter into covenant with jesus to experience the blessings and provisions of jesus. for more information on doing just that log onto knowingjesuspersonally.com or click talk to a mentor above. may you begin enjoying life today as you receive he who is life, jesus christ…John 14.6. blessings!

  • Lost Soul says:

    Everyday I face situations and events that repeatedly proves that God hates me and has a unique way of hurting me and destroying my future. I really wonder what is the Sin I have committed to deserve such a punishment. I see drug traffickers, people who employ small children, murderers and white collar criminals and politicians are getting away with what they do. But for I have been targeted by God for some sin , I have committed ( definitely not murder or drug trafficking or any of that kind) ..Strange but yet true….huh

  • Lost Soul says:

    Hi Sampaon,

    Delayed justice and Denied Justice- similarly delayed action by God is also denied actions. :-((((

  • Sampaon says:

    Hi guys,I understand your points and your frustrations, but remember, no matter how you describe this Great God, He still loves you. Think about the life that you have, now. Yesterday, this morning, someone like you and me is dead. But you are alive, it is because He is still loves you. Your case is being worked on and will soon receive answers to your prayers. It is well. He cannot and will not lie. God bless you all.

  • Lost Soul says:

    Delta : Many thanks for taking the time to respond.. :-)

  • Chris says:

    delta…i regret to hear of your struggles. the good thing is as believers in christ, that jesus will always lead us to greener pastures as we wait upon him in obedience. we can encourage ourselves with the lives of Joseph and David that jeremiah 29.11 to 13 was literally fulfilled in their lives and will be in anyone who stays with Gods Word despite adversity and negative circumstances. be sure you are in a powerful Christian church where you can receive ministry through annointed vessels. jesus will not fail any one of his promises that he has made but there are conditions. we need to be sure we resist all temptations to complain and murmur so as not to permit satan the upper hand. John 15.30. i pray jesus strengthen your faith today and his promise of 1 corinthians 10.13 amen!

  • Delta says:

    @lost soul. All that I can say is don’t give up! As god to open doors! Sometimes i would purposely turn on the song of Horatio Spafford in which he wrote when he had lost all 3 children on a colided ship.

    Praying for you and your family. Get in to local conservative church.

  • Lost Soul says:

    I really feel God does not love me any more. I feel He is so biased , biased towards certain race, colour and group of people. Those He likes He favours, others He does not care. I am lot hope completely and disappointed with Him. I do not know what to do , the future terrifies me – I have no hope. Just surviving day to day for the kids. I have no proper job, my wife lost her job. We survive on odd jobs. Oops God abandoned me when I needed him the most……

  • Delta says:

    Life Sucks! Period!

    My husband hasn’t had a job for seven years. I have become a bread winner for seven years. I have gone to stages where I cursed my husband -to me humbling myself and embracing my husband-to changing my attitude and let God do His way in my life-to blessing my husband.

    It’s hard! Lives hard! And unfair!

    I was born and raised by a very abusive mother. The bible says that an unwise woman destroys her own home while the wise builds them up!

    When I was a teenager I cried to God why He let unwise parents God married and grant them the power to create children and make a family.

    When I found my husband despite of the disapproval of my mother I eloped!

    The greatest gifts in my life are none other than my two boys.

    All my life I had seen also that my dad always had a money problem / issue. Partly to lack of wisdom and counselors, partly due to bad people doing this to him, partly due to him letting my mom making her decision on money.

    I had my own shares in my family financial problem and that is giving too much money to tele evangelist within the scope of more than ten years.

    My atheist husband has tried to talked me out of it but he can’t. We are now paying the price of stupidity some seven years later…

    Life sucks! Really is…Life is hard!

    Sometimes I would just tune in to Rick Warren’s sermon in order to “Survive”. One thing for sure, you cannot go through long tunnel like this on your own! Surround yourself with a good, solid, conservative , God fearing Christian friends!

    Sometime we don’t know why it takes so long for God to answer our prayers. Sometimes we also don’t get why things happened as it had happened.

    Why a family losts all three children due to a car accident?, why a child commit suicide?, why God let you get cheated at work?, why you are politically crushed in your business?on and on…

    I can’t go through this on my own…

    Get connected to solid Christians! That’s how you’d survive.

  • Delta says:

    Life sucks period! We live in a broken world.
    I have been a breadwinner for seven years since my husband losts his job. In that time period also I found out he had an affair. We have no savings. We are thriving. Not exactly living . Just thriving. The best thing that I have in my life are my two boys. Which I treasure.

    I am a product of an abusive mom! My biological mother never say anything good about me! Physical and emotional abuse was part of my live when I was young. I have terror and no peace. Its ironic when your parents brings you to church but treated you this way at home.

    When I was a teenager I asked God why He let unwise people get married and raised a family.

    My dad has had financial trouble all his life. Partly because of stupid decision. Partly because of

  • Susan says:


    True. God is holy and He hates sin. If we ask anything according to His will He will answer it. John 15:7 says…If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. First we have check ourselves, whether we are living according to His standard or not…This truth I have realized quite late. I used to why God was not answering. Then, used to check my life, if there is any hidden sin and I used to ask God forgiveness. Still answer was not coming. Then, this word taught me. What I was asking for my selfish motive..that would not have glorified God’s name. Praise God. Now, I know what to ask God. Our God is such an awesome God.

  • Susan says:


    God loves you. I know it is very easy for me to say but my past experience taught me that He is good and His ways are perfect. The same way, I used to think,..Lord, where are you? Are you not bothered about me etc..but I have realized one thing..He is God and not man to lie. His timings are perfect. Just hang on, trust Him with all your heart. Keep meditating His words. Totally depend on Him.

    Let’s pray:

    Father God,

    Commit Terri in Your hand. Lord, strengthen her, reveal her Your ways and guide Your child. Meet all her needs. Thank You for hearing our prayers. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

  • Susan says:


    So wonderful know at last you have realized it. See Geraldine, He still loves you. His love is beyond our imagination. His ways are not our ways but He does everything in a beautiful way. If He can create this universe in such a perfect way, then He knows what is best for us. We just have to humble and listen to His words only.

  • Terri says:

    I understand where you are coming from! I am going through the same thing. This is Love??? I wish I could talk to you as I don’t really think I could talk to anyone about this! Its more than anyone can bear I am existing that’s it. Is that what God wanted for me to mearly exist??? I actually feel like I am being mocked over and over again!

  • Elkay says:

    Trish, thank you for that and allow me to add a word of caution, in this case to husbands who pray. 1 Peter 3:7 warns us husbands to treat our wives with understanding and honor as being equal children of God “so that your prayers may not be hindered.” So fellows, if you want your prayers to be heard and answered, look carefully at how you treat your wives!!

  • Trish Hicks says:

    This is subject right up my alley. There have been many pryers i have prayed where the Lord has not come through.However it is never God’s doing.Unfortunately there are certain conditions to where God can only work to answer a prayer. That is there can be no unforgiveness in our hearts.Nor can there be any habitual sins.If we have an aught against someone.It also the petitions you put forth must be his will. They can not be for selfish gain..and last but not least by any stretch we must have the faith that he God will grant what we ask. Now believe me with all this conditions it is quite hard. But anytime i have found that God had not come through it had always something to do with me. For again i say it is never god,it’s always you have to take a look at ourselves.For God is faithful, God is Good.He would never let us down nor forsake us. But yes for the most part those conditions need to be in perfect place, For him to be able to answer. That is like with Jesus if there isn’t faith or enough he can not work .
    Luke8:50-[50] Hearing this, Jesus said to Jairus, “Don’t be afraid; just believe, and she will be healed.”

    [51] When he arrived at the house of Jairus, he did not let anyone go in with him except Peter, John and James, and the child’s father and mother. [52] Meanwhile, all the people were wailing and mourning for her. “Stop wailing,” Jesus said. “She is not dead but asleep.”

    [53] They laughed at him, knowing that she was dead. [54] But he took her by the hand and said, “My child, get up!” [55] Her spirit returned, and at once she stood up. Then Jesus told them to give her something to eat. [56] Her parents were astonished, but he ordered them not to tell anyone what had happened.

    the others were sent out because they did not believe. He can only work if we believe without doubts. That is also where we must examine ourselves if a prayer is not answered.

    I hope and pray someone is able to get some info out of this little excerpt.

    may God bless

  • Geraldine says:

    I just want to make a public apology to all on this site and to God. And I feel terrible for being so angry at Him. End of the day I know that God is and that He exist. No matter how many times I felt He let me down or how many times I felt He was indifferent to my pain and my anguish and suffering. The only truth that I do know is this. God is the hand that feeds men and He is not a liar. I feel embarrassed before God and all of you. And I know that since the beginning of time we are not the only ones who felt this way to God. David and Job are great examples. And yet God still relieved them and redeemed them. I do know this though that God is more interested in spiritually maturing us, purifying us and healing us before He can bestow His blessings and His promises upon us. They are already ours because through Christ we have begotten all these things according to all His riches and glory. Forgive me God I vented and raged at You not knowing the outcome of my life when You alone knows what’s best for all of us. Forgive me for saying that I don’t need You knowing that I do each step of the way. Forgive me for calling You a fraud and being untrue and never answering my prayers. Forgive me for calling You a bully and slave driver, forgive me for my rage and anger towards You. I love You and I need You each and every step of the way for I know that You are only doing what’s good for my soul for this is Your greatest interest for all of us. For what good is it for man to gain the world and loose His soul. Or what will a man give in exchange for his soul. As angry and let down as I feel by You, I will continue to trust You and have faith in You. Because You are my Father and You really never left me nor have You ever forsaken me. I understand that You are trying to build me up the same way as Christ our Lord. Thank You Father for Your forgiveness and Your Grace, Your mercy and Your everlasting loving kindness toward me. Not my will O Lord but Yours. And I know that it is Your will to bless me. To redeem me and bring me to Your Salvation. Thank You Father for Your amazing Grace. Your loving daughter — G.

  • Geraldine says:

    Hear hear.

    I have been through the exact same frustrations with God and for the last five years. I have been praying petitioningfasted and God knows what more we are reminded in Isaiah 43:26 to bring God to remembrance of His promises to us so that we may be aquitted. I have not been acquitted for five years. Jesus encourages us to never give up in the parables with the unjust and unrighteous judge who finally gave in. But my righteous and just God has not given me the desires of my heart, even when I delighted in Him. Then Jesus tells us about having faith of a mustard seed and we can speak unto our mountains. Then there was the guy who bothered his friend late at night for a loaf of bread and his friend didn’t want to open the door but he eventually did because he knew that the friend would not leave him alone. All these examples are there in the word of God but no matter what I have tried, believed for and had faith for had come to pass as God says He would for the five pass years. It started in 2009 and it’s the beginning of 2015. And everyone will always tell you something that they think they know God works. I don’t I don’t know anymore but besides all the trials and tribulations I have had in five years. And it was really and truly ugly ones. I lost a lot I had train wreck after train wreck, never felt more disliked by God and inspite of the parables that teaches us to never give up : I’m really starting to question this God. He is not the one who helps us we are the ones who does everything end of the day because His promises are just words I have come to learn. I just had a revelation as I was busy writing. He wants to develop us into Christ like creatures because Christ was obedient to Him to the point of death. So I have everything taken away from me so that I may be forced to become a certain way out of force otherwise my prayers won’t be heard, is this love? I’m mad as a hatter

  • Andrew says:

    Gerald, man I read your posts and I was shocked because your questions and frustrations are exactly the same as mine. You have no idea! If you happen to read this, shoot me an email [it is our policy not to publish personal contact information]
    I don’t have any answers for you, but my faith is on thin ice right now, and maybe we could commiserate.

  • Sharon says:

    to Elkay– thank you for your comment also Jeremiah 29.11 comes to mind I know the plans I have for you plans not to harm but to give you a hope and a future thank you from Sharon

  • Elkay says:

    A number of posts indicate that prayer is viewed as a way to get God to do what I want Him to do or arrange and if this does not happen, then quit. But listen to Jesus’ words, “Not what I will but what You Father will” so the objective is to focus on doing God’s will not on getting what I want.

    And God’s will for us is plain: we are to love God and love neighbor. We love God by living in obedience to His commands, by hearing Jesus’ words and doing them (Matt 7:24). We love our neighbors by sacrificially helping them meet their needs (John 15:13). There is a strong implication at John 14:23-24 that when we focus on these activities and not on ourselves and what we want, our relationship with God will be greatly improved and our prayers will be more effective and fervent (James 5:16).

  • Gerald says:

    Same here. Nothing ever, ever, ever changes. Now that it’s 2015, looking back I feel like I wasted an ENTIRE YEAR looking to the sky crying for help only to get rained on. All this while people that care nothing about god get anything and everything they want. Love, success, good breaks…a strong family…and for all my praying and believing and faith I get nothing but disappointment and heartache. I’m done trying. Forget it.

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