Suicide seemed like a good option

Written by Jeannette Inman, R.N.

You are not alone. Others struggle with suicidal thoughts too.

“I’m sorry, you’re just not working out.”

The words pierced my heart like daggers of ice.

“A nurse just has to be able to relate well with her patients. How can anyone who is sick or dying feel comforted when you fall apart at the drop of a hat? Unless a miracle happens, you will be failed (from this program) within a few weeks.”

My eyes stung as I tried to hold back the tears. My instructors were right–I had no confidence when I was with people. But nobody knew how hard I was trying! There was nothing I wanted more than to be a good nurse, but somehow it just wasn’t happening. I wanted a fresh start, but I was a failure.

Though I’d had an average childhood, my experiences as a teenager left me feeling humiliated, confused, withdrawn and without any sense of self-worth. In the seventh grade I had transferred to a new school, and I was very excited. Until one day in January.

Going to my locker to pick up my books, I was met by some of my classmates. My new “friends” beat me up.

I might not have had so much trouble dealing with this betrayal at the hands of my peers if the unwanted attention had quickly faded away. Instead, it escalated. I was labeled “Bush Bat” and my classmates would cringe at the sight of me. Gradually, other kids in the school joined in. I was pushed in the hall, knocked on the skull with class rings and, on many occasions, pelted with spit wads for entire forty-five minute class periods.

As soon as I could after graduation, I moved as far from home as possible to try to establish a new name for myself as a respected nurse.

But now, as my instructor spoke, it was obvious that the years of rejection had left me severely scarred. Not knowing what friendship was like, and never understanding what meaningful conversation was, I did not know how to comfort my patients or approach my co-workers. I blurted my questions and comments without realizing the effects of my words on others. I blundered my way through delicate situations, causing many anxious moments for the people around me. My parents couldn’t understand how I could get such high grades in my “book-work” and still be such a terrible nurse.

Having no one to turn to, and certain that I would shame my family if I failed school, I decided that there was only one thing left to do. Unless that “miracle” occurred, I would commit suicide.

The next day, the hospital cafeteria was unusually crowded. A girl in her late twenties asked if she could sit with me because there were no empty tables. As we ate, she chatted about a singles’ group that she was organizing. She wondered if I would be interested. I was too depressed to think about meeting more people, but just to be polite, I took her number anyway.

That evening, I was unable to concentrate on my studies. Why invest all the time and effort when I would be flunking out anyway? Maybe I needed someone to lean on. Maybe . . . I needed a boyfriend. I dialed the number the girl in the cafeteria had given me.

Friday night she picked me up and drove me to the meeting. As soon as we got there, I felt very uneasy. It was held in a church. As an atheist, I hoped that I wasn’t going to be in the middle of some “religious thing.” A few minutes later, I found out that the singles’ meeting was actually a Bible Study for single people and I was outraged. Yet as the night progressed, many people introduced themselves to me and seemed interested in talking to me. My anger cooled, and I began to feel a strange sense of–could it be?–acceptance.

The next week, I debated whether or not to go back to the singles’ group. After all, I had no interest in religion whatsoever. Then I received a phone call. One of the girls called just to say “Hi.” Was this what it was like to have a friend? I wondered.

The second meeting had a different speaker than the first. This man started reading from the Bible, and for some odd reason, the words made sense to me. The Bible always seemed like a tangled maze of mysterious words, and I considered it too archaic to be of any value. But this night, for some reason, it seemed to come alive for me. I went home puzzled that night–both because of the Bible’s sudden pertinence to my life and because I felt a strange sense of belonging.

The next night was Saturday, however, and I was alone in my dormitory. I tried to sleep, but I was overcome with fear for the weeks ahead. I had tried every way I knew to overcome my lack of confidence and tact, but the more I tried the worse I failed. Plans for how and when I would die filled my mind.

But then, for some reason, I started reflecting upon the meeting I was at the night before. It was the first place I could remember feeling unconditional acceptance. Those people were different than anyone else I had ever met. I wondered why.

Maybe I’d been wrong all those years. Maybe there really was a God.

I didn’t know, but I did know that my own ways of dealing with life were leading me quickly to destruction. I cried, “Oh, God, I don’t even know if you are real. But if you are, please hear me. Please take over my life. I can’t do anything right. Just run my life whatever way you want to. I’m giving it over to you.” Then for the first time ever, I felt a sense of peace and assurance enfold me like a warm blanket would enwrap a helpless, newborn infant.

As the days and weeks passed, I started to read the Bible. As I read about the life of Jesus, it brought me to tears to realize that though I had nothing but rejection and failure for years, Jesus had His arms open wide to receive me as His very own child to love and to gently lead through this life. I learned that nothing could separate me from the love of God–no person, no situation, no failure, no sin. He loved me no matter what! Suddenly, the biggest social reject around found herself loved and wanted by the God of all Creation!

I gave Jesus control of my life and I let him decide whether or not I would pass school. As I became aware of His care for me, I was also becoming aware of His vast love for others. My focus shifted off of worrying about every move I made at the hospital, and onto how I could benefit those around me.

My instructors noticed the dramatic change in how I related to people. Suddenly, I truly cared for those around me and wanted to be an asset to the patients–not just so that I would be respected, but so that they would be strengthened and comforted. I passed that semester, and eventually graduated with honours.

I have now been a nurse for 17 years. I have worked in many places. Some situations have been more demanding than others, but there is one thing I can say for certain: God has never let go of my hand. Knowing that God Himself is in control of all things – and that He promises to work everything out together for good – has given me peace and comfort during the most trying moments and freed me up to be a compassionate nurse instead of a ragged and rattled bundle of nerves.

Jesus said, “Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.”

If you have never thought about giving Jesus control of your life, you may want to consider doing just that. Read His word–the Bible–and you will find that Jesus is a God of compassion and love, and has a special heart for the weary and rejected. He can take even the darkest moments in your life and turn them around for good as you trust Him.

Take a look at your life.  How would you describe it? Contented? Rushed? Exciting? Stressful? Moving forward? Holding back? For many of us it’s all of the above at times.  There are things we dream of doing one day, there are things we wish we could forget.  In the Bible, it says that Jesus came to make all things new.  What would your life look like if you could start over with a clean slate?

Living with hope

If you are looking for peace, there is a way to balance your life. No one can be perfect, or have a perfect life. But every one of us has the opportunity to experience perfect grace through a personal relationship with God through His Son, Jesus Christ.

You can receive Christ right now by faith through prayer. Praying is simply talking to God. God knows your heart and is not so concerned with your words as He is with the attitude of your heart. Here’s a suggested prayer:

Lord Jesus, I want to know you personally. Thank you for dying on the cross for my sins. I open the door of my life to you and ask you to come in as my Savior and Lord. Take control of my life. Thank you for forgiving my sins and giving me eternal life. Make me the kind of person you want me to be.

Does this prayer express the desire of your heart? You can pray it right now, and Jesus Christ will come into your life, just as He promised.

Is this the life for you?

If you invited Christ into your life, thank God often that He is in your life, that He will never leave you and that you have eternal life. As you learn more about your relationship with God, and how much He loves you, you’ll experience life to the fullest.

50 Responses to “Suicide seemed like a good option”

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    Hi Victoria,
    Thank you so much for having the courage to share your story here. I want you to know that there is hope for life. I know sometimes it can seem like the pain is too much to bear, but you have much joy and love ahead of you.

    I am concerned for your safety and I would like to give you some contact information that you can access to get some help:
    Dial 911 in Canada and USA
    1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433) USA & Canada
    1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255) USA-National
    International Association for Suicide Prevention – Resources:
    Crisis Centers

    If you cannot find a resource in your area, please call your local emergency number.

    Hearing impaired call 1-800-799-4TTY (1-800-799-4889) USA

    Centerstone(Suicide Crisis Call Center) 1-800-273-TALK (8255) USA

    It can be so helpful to talk to someone who can give you a different perspective. There have been times in my life when I got flooded by my own depression and needed someone to shine a light in my life. They helped me see things I hadn’t considered before and it was what I needed to break free from the spiral into depression. By calling one of these numbers you will open yourself up to that kind of freedom as well.

    So you have finished high school early. That must have taken a lot of work to complete that by 16. You must be a bright student. What were your favorite parts of school? Do you have any siblings that graduated early like that? How did your friends support you in school?

    Let me pray for you: Dear Jesus, I pray for Victoria and ask that You would help her to see the hope that is ahead of her in life. Comfort her in the disappointments she has had and protect her from the harm that comes from depression. Bring people into her life who can speak love and joy and hope to her. Amen.

    I look forward to hearing back from you soon Victoria.

  • victoria says:

    Im 16. just finished high school and i have nothing left for me, no one. the only reason i kept going till now is because i thought i had friends to help support me , their gone now ,not a day after i left high school have i spoke to any of them . around last year this time i was suicidal, depressed ,self harming, starving myself .my nights were sleepless, randomnly i would wake up crying , somedays i wouldnt want to wake up at all and other days i would just lockmyself in the bathroom , tear after tear falling down my cheek ,and as each tear fell another piece of me broke away, another piece of me was lost.i guess i got a satisfaction of seeing the blood envelop my thighs because in a way the pain that it gave was jsut a reminder of me being alive .Around august last year i stopped because i read something and i realised that even though im barely breathing , practically drowning there are others that feel the same way as me.i started again a month back and i have no clue what to do, no idea whatsoever.

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    Hi Gregg, thanks for having the courage to share your frustration with life. I can understand how that kind of pressure in life with no break can become overwhelming. When things pile up like it is very difficult to see any hopeful options. But there is hope! I can say that because I know there is a God who has made you and has a plan for your life. I don’t know the details of that plan for you, but I have seen Him transform so many people that I am confident in His promise to you, “I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you; plans to give you a hope and a future.” (Jeremiah 29:11)

    I would love to talk with you more about the plan that God has for you but at this point, your safety is my utmost concern. I really don’t want to see you hurt yourself so please contact a professional counselor right away.

    I’ve included some emergency phone lines for you below:
    Dial 911 in Canada and USA
    1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433) USA & Canada
    1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255) USA-National
    International Association for Suicide Prevention – Resources:
    Crisis Centers

    If you cannot find a resource in your area, please call your local emergency number.

    Hearing impaired call 1-800-799-4TTY (1-800-799-4889) USA

    Centerstone(Suicide Crisis Call Center) 1-800-273-TALK (8255) USA

    I am here to come alongside of you, pray with you, listen without judgment, and support and encourage you throughout this very difficult time. If you would prefer to do that in a more private setting you can connect with one of our Mentors. There is no cost and I know that you will find your mentor to be a caring, encouraging individual who wants to help you discover hope. Just fill out the Mentor Request Form at and one of our mentors will be in touch with you soon by email.

    Let me for you: Dear Jesus, You know the turmoil that Gregg is in the middle of and he needs Your help, encouragement and hope. I pray that You would help him discover the truth of Your love for him and that he would not give in to the lies that death is the easy path out. I pray that he would connect with people who will encourage him and point him to the hope that is only found in You, and that he receives that for himself. Amen.

  • Gregg says:

    I am not comforted. My friends have all moved out of state, or in far reaches of the same state (Cali). Every day my work starts at 10:30 AM, and finishes around 11 PM. For the last 4 months I’ve had 2 days off total. There is truly no joy in life at all, and I can’t imagine what it feels like to be happy. Happiness is for other people, but definitely not for me. All there is…is, you wake up, your heart must still be beating. Then you can earn what you need to keep from being homeless. Then go to sleep, and do it all over again…every day, with no break. I can’t even say, “let’s spend the weekend…”, because I’m still working those too. I can’t get out of town even for a day.

    This life is not worth living, and there’s really nothing for me except not dying. But that’s just not enough anymore. If I wake up every day to face an empty world that isn’t worth living for, and there’s really just nothing there for me at all, why should I go on? There’s really NOTHING AT ALL left for me to stick around for. I think I should die.

  • Aldo says:

    Miguel, thank you for your post stating that you are encouraged by the article that God really does care about our life and that we should entrust that life to Him. Allow me to ask you a question: Have you entrusted your life to God?

    Also, I believe that you may be a bit off the mark by saying that those who mock God and His existence are right in doing so, and that they are better off in doing so.

    The truth is, that we as Christians have a mandate from the Lord Jesus Christ to make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all things that He has commanded us. (Mt. 28:19)

  • Miguel Roca says:

    I am encouraged by your story to know that God really does care about our life and that we should entrust that life to Him. And to those that mock God and His existence, I say this: you are also right, for to you God does not exist, and it is completely rediculous to think so and you are better off thinking this way.

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    Hi JewDestroyer (do you mind if I call you 1488?) It sounds like you are speaking from personal experience. Can you share your experiences with calling into hotlines? Are you speaking about your own experience or someone that you know?

    You also have some strong feelings about Jesus. What brought you to having that opinion of Him?

  • JewDestroyer1488 says:

    The problem with hotlines and society is; if you try to get help, the “Help” that people offer you, is destroying your entire lively hood. Ie.. baker acted, ect. ect. Which goes on your record, so even if you are helped, you can’t get a [expletive removed] job, with the crazy label. [expletive removed] jesus, he is the enemy of you’re life, and only cares to bring you down. Christ, is less then satan

  • Claire Colvin Claire Colvin says:

    Hi Marc, Did you try calling the hotline? If there’s no counselling available at your school then the hotline is probably the most accessible option you have for getting help. They are connected to local resources and should be able to both help you on the phone and also assist you in connecting to other help that is available in your area. It’s really important to get help and not try to battle this out on your own. If you had cancer you’d get medical help for that. What you’re facing is serious and potentially dangerous, let the people on the hotline help. (The number is 1 800 SUICIDE.) You don’t have to be in crisis right this minute to call them, they’re equipped to deal with people who have had suicidal thoughts in the past and also people who are or have experienced SH.

  • Marc says:

    Unfortunately my College does not provide counseling. And there is no one else I trust.

  • Claire Colvin Claire Colvin says:

    Hi Marc, Is there someone else you trust – a teach or an aunt that you could talk to? Does your school have resources or counsellors? You can call 1 800 SUICIDE (1 800 784-2433) and they have trained people who answer the phone. They can help. You don’t have to be suicidal right now to call, if you’ve dealt with suicidal thoughts in the past, they can help. They are also able to help with SH.

  • Marc says:

    I would talk to my mom if I would feel comfortable but I dont because if I were to she would tell everyone out of misunderstanding. As for my Pastor I have talked to him about my depression and he doesn’t know what is causing it. I would see my doctor but I can’t do that with out my parents knowing and because I am under their health coverage.

  • Claire Colvin Claire Colvin says:

    Hi Marc, Suicidal thoughts and self harm are pretty serious. Have you ever spoken to a counsellor or a doctor to get some help with the issues that lead you to trying to take your own life? I’ve heard it said that suicide is what happens when our pain is greater than our capacity to tolerate pain. There are two ways to help – reduce the pain or increase your capacity for handling it. Both of these things are easier when you have professional help. Is there someone you trust – a parent, aunt, teacher, pastor – who you could talk to about getting some help? Are the issues that are causing you pain something that you can fix or something that someone else could fix? Are they unfixable things that you need help to process? (Ie if someone has died, that’s not fixable, but you can learn to work through your grief in a healthier way.)

    If you would like to talk to someone privately we have mentors available. You can use this form to request a mentor and you’ll get an email back, usually within a couple of days.

  • Marc says:

    Hi.I am a 18 year old female who struggles with suicidallyand SH. I have already attemped suicide once but caught myself in time before it caused any damage. I know that God hates killing and that suicide is a form of killing. What’s keeping me from being successful the next time?

  • Barbara Alpert Barbara Alpert says:

    Hi Panfilo, I am so sorry for all that you have been going through. Have you reached out to a local church in your area for help? It is such a blessing when God’s sons and daughters find the courage to not only call upon Him in our darkest hour but also the Body of Christ…God church. Perhaps you can have a heart to heart talk with a local pastor and he/she can pray with you as well. My heart goes out to you and I pray that God sends the right people your way to encourage you through this challenging time. If you would like to connect with one of our online mentors just click on the Talk to a Mentor tab and a Mentor will connect with you via email.

  • M. Jantzen says:

    Hello Panfilo,

    It think it might have been hard for you to read this article where it says “God” is the way to start over fresh. You came to America in 2006 to start a new life, and it sounds like it was a successful one, where you were able to be healthy and take care of yourself. As your story shows, that didn’t last. So I’m not going to suggest some formula to solve your money problems or fix your mental illness (cause really I don’t have a clue and I’m not trained about such things), but I do think I know how someone can make a fresh start with God, having all of their sins forgiven and receiving peace and joy even when everything around them might be in ruins. The article in this link says how a person can do that:

  • Panfilo Portillo says:

    Sorry. Answers here are wrong. I am 62, would be 63 in two months. I live in an American city and moved here alone in 2006. In 2005 I experienced a couple of deaths of family and friends. My trip here was to start a new life. I had been successful in the past. When I got here I was doing great at work and exploring a new city. Financial problems hit me in 2011 as I put out of work on a mandatory medical leave of absence while doctors evaluated why I was passing out. In the beginning of 2013, I was in financial ruins and moving to a new place to live. I started to crumble and did not know why. Living in a new location and working the midnight shift I needed to find new doctors. Over the past nine months i have fallen apart beyond imagination. Doctors said nothing was wrong and it must be a mental health issue, and mental health provider were both hard to find and not effective and uncaring. My sister, my connection to family discarded me. She said she has her own problems and didn’t want to hear about mine. I can not drive. I can not go any where. I lost my job. I’m running out of money. I am about to become homeless. I am unable to help myself and no one seems to want to help me. So, do you expect me to live homeless after I haven’t faced that in 62 years earlier. Surely, my problem is mental, but no one helps or cares. Really ! All this talk is very cheap. People without my experience talk on these site like experts. They are not. I am not uneducated, college degree. I have a life full of successful work experience. Now, I am unable to do any thing to save my slide to the end. I have not one person in my life. In a distant city, no support system at all. I recognize that this story confuses and confounds people and I am sorry. I am as bad as I say, and can not save myself. I have not been suicidal but it seems like it was made for me. Yet, the kind of person that I am would make that impossible as well. Still. I have only a little more than a week and I become homeless and on the street. I won’t do it.

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    Thank you so much Joe for putting yourself in harm’s way for me. I can’t imagine the pain that you have experienced in doing that but I am so grateful for the sacrifice you have made.

    I know it is hard to believe but God loves the scumbags of this world just as much as He loves the good people. It is His love for us and His desire that none of us should make the choice of spending all of eternity separated from Him that keeps Him from removing all the evil people of this world. He made us to be in relationship with Him but we have all chosen to turn our back on Him. Because we are created with a soul that lives on for all of eternity that choice to be separated from Him has some serious consequences. Here on Earth we never get away from Him completely so we don’t get a chance to really understand what it means to be separated from Him. I would imagine that guys who have seen active combat like you get a bit of a closer picture of what the humanity would be like if God’s presence was not active in this world. You said it yourself; humans are evil by nature and if they no longer had the restraining presence of God… well just imagine an eternity of that kind of evil and turmoil! God does not want anyone to have to endure that.

    So He allows all of us to go through life and have opportunities to turn from our rejection of Him and accept His offer of forgiveness for our rebellion. That’s why Jesus came: so that we could know God (He told one of His followers, “If you have seen Me you have seen God”), so that He could give us an example of what it means to follow God in every aspect of our lives (the Bible tells us that there was no selfish motives, no pride, no sin or going against God’s purpose at any point in Jesus’ life) and so that He could then pay the penalty for our rebellion by dying in our place which then gives us the opportunity to have our rebellion and sin completely washed away. That means there would be no more reason to be separated from God for eternity, instead we would live with God for all of eternity.

    God wants that for an intolerant [foul language removed] like you Joe. He not only will take away the penalty for your rebellion against Him but He will also transform your life so that you will no longer be characterised as an intolerant [foul language removed]. The Bible says that anyone who is in Christ Jesus is a new creation; the old is gone and all things are made new. Don’t you think your life could use an extreme make over? Aren’t you sick of being liked because you are an intolerant [foul language removed]? Don’t you want to be free from an eternal destiny that is like war on steroids?

    That’s what God wants for you; that’s what God wants for everybody. The only qualification to receive it is that you are human. You could never do anything to earn this gift from Him. You have to completely rely on Him to make it happen. I know, it is a really scary thing to have to trust somebody else completely, but He is perfectly trustworthy. He is the one who made you and He does not want to lose you. He wants you to live out the purpose for which He created you. Why don’t you give up your rebellion against Him and instead live your life for Him? I can testify, it is an amazing thing to walk every moment of every day in the perfect presence of God, hearing His leading and guiding in every decision, being able to talk to Him about everything that happens in your life and knowing that this is just a taste of what is to come for all of eternity.

    What do you think of that Joe?

  • joe says:

    I think it’s funny that so much advise about suicide comes from people that have never considered it. I have considered suicide as an option on multiple occasions. No-one knows because I haven’t told anyone and have not sought help outside of alcohol and other substances to help me cope. I know I should try to change my life and become a better person, but why? The longer I live, the more intolerant and more of an [foul language removed] I become… consequently, I seem to make more friends this way, and have more frequent sexual encounters. Why is this? Why am I being rewarded for my bad behavior? The answer is human nature. Humans are evil by nature. This will never change as long as there is life on Earth.
    The world is a cruel place if you don’t fit in. Religion may be a great way to get your mind off of the things in your life. Believing in a god that cares about you and wants you to be the best person you can seems like a perfect situation regardless if people care about you or not. I, however, find it impossible to believe in an all-seeing, all-knowing god. If there is a god, he does not care about any single person; let alone good people. I am in the military and have served in Iraq and Afghanistan. Some of my good friends, who were some of the most good-hearted people I know, have died in combat. If there is a god who cares, then why are there so many scumbags still walking the earth while there are good people who died way before their time? Why doesn’t “god” intervene? The conclusion: either god does not exist, or he wants the worst of mankind.

  • Claire Colvin Claire Colvin says:

    Justin, Have you seen a doctor about your condition? If you feel as though you only have two modes – happy and angry – and they switch faster than you can control you might be dealing with something like a bipolar disorder. If so there are medicines and therapies that can help.

  • Sherry says:


    Suicide is NEVER an option. The trauma it causes family members and the guilt they feel and the questions they ask in intolerable.

    When desperate and feeling suicidal (because I have been in this situation) it is important to know the tools you have at your disposal to help. Like for example calling the Crisis Intervention or a Suicide prevention number which is toll free to our disposal. Speaking with a counsellor or pastor/minister/priest that understands about emotional breakdowns and how to better help someone to deal with what they are going through that triggered the thoughts of suicide. The majority of situations are almost always solved with guidance. Suicide is a permanant answer and if your not here you cannot solve the issue at hand.

    The Christian population are not the only figures that believe suicide is wrong and selfish. I was in the secular mental health system and they also feel suicide is selfish, for the simple fact that you are leaving your loved ones behind to deal with the deep dark trauma of a successful suicide. Individuals who are suicidal should also seek out help to get to the bottom of the problem.

  • Keith says:

    Suicide is an option, and no one should ever say otherwise. If the afterlife is better, then why not get there sooner?

    I’m all in…

  • Justin says:

    Ya non of this realy helping . I fear it will be my end or someone else like I always say its a good dat to die .I have God in my hart I’ve been saved for years but that don’t stop ever one for being afraid of me I feel like a monster no mater how hard I try.I’d rather do away with my self than keep puting them throw this they are eazy-e to hurt as I have two modes anger and happy but it dont last long.most of the time my mood will Chang with the drop of a hat to quick for anyone to be prepared and I cant stop I’m

    lossing control

  • Claire Colvin Claire Colvin says:


    That makes more sense. I think it’s important not to minimize what a person is going though when they are dealing with thoughts of suicide. I do not know your story, but I know that suicide is part of my story. There was a time in my life when I truly believed that taking my life was the only thing I could do to save myself. At that time I did not need to hear that I needed to trust God more, I did not need to be reminded that suicide is permanent – believe me I was very aware of that. I think that often people on the outside of the issue look at people who are suicidal and think that they are giving in, or too weak to fight, or “just depressed”, as if it were something they could get over if they could just deal with it better. That is so far from the truth. I wanted to make sure that if someone came to this article when they were dealing with the question of suicide on a very personal level that they would know that we take the matter very seriously.

  • Andrew says:

    Claire, I think you misinterpreted my post. I didn’t mean God will wipe them all away here on earth. Of course, were all going to go through troubles in our lives and until Jesus comes again we will continue to face many obstacles. What I meant to say was that one day when we finally join God he’ll wipe away the tears and what not. Sorry for wording things wrong.

  • Doris Beck Doris says:

    Shawn, I definitely agree with you that suicide shouldn’t be treated as a taboo subject. In fact exactly the opposite should be true so that when someone is feeling that desperate and that there is no hope left in their life,they can talk to someone about it.

    Having said that I would disagree with you that it is a human right to end your own suffering. Only God gives life and I would say that it is his right and his alone to determine when life should end. Having watched and lived through the pain and agony that suicide causes in those that are left behind I cannot see that as a viable option.

  • Shawn says:

    Suicide shouldn’t be treated as a taboo subject. Those that seriously contemplate it should be shown the respect and dignity of any other human being. It is a human right to have the right to end your own suffering. It shouldn’t be promoted however but it should be respected and means made available to those that don’t have any other viable options to end their pain.

  • cfast says:


    I am sorry to hear about your situation. I understand how painful life can be and how depression can be so overwhelming that you just want to end everything. But I also know that no matter how low I got, there were people whose lives I would have devastated if I took my life. God does love you and cherishes your life. You mentioned that he is the last person you think of and believe me, it was that way for me too. But I have found that he is the only person who really cares about me, unconditionally, all the time, no matter what is plaguing my life. Due to your cry for help, I am putting you in contact with a mentor for Power to Change. Our mentoring program is free and confidential and someone is ready to listen to you. I am sorry that you have lived in such difficulty. Please know that I am sincerely praying for you.

  • Lisa says:

    I’ve had a great life. My disability and I have disappointed all family members and friends due our lack of participation. We’re attached to eachother for this life, like siamese twins that don’t get along. We can’t go and play beach-party, camping, hiking, dancing, rowing a boat, walking on the shore…. due to pain and physical limitations. We’re having a hard time opening a can of food, peeling a potato, washing a cup, standing to cook, pouring water, bathing, dressing and sleeping. Pain lives here with us. It’s constant. My doctor is afraid of her physician-position so I cannot get medical pot THRU her, she says she will not keep a patient who goes to another doctor to get medical pot permission, and the village I live in has a doctor’s policy to not let a patient choose a new doctor even if current doctor is a total moron.
    I was, once, a track-champion, an honor-roll student, a workaholic and a joy to have around. Now I am homocidal and suicidal in a very big way. I’m thinking of drowning the painful bitch next to me so I might live a real life…. but we’re attached…. so I have to drown, too. I am a victim, and I continue to be victimized… so I don’t see any value in staying here. No one knows me. No one will miss me, and I am not useful. When I think of stepping out with my disability, the very last thing on my mind is Jesus and God.

  • Claire Colvin Claire Colvin says:

    Andrew, While I do most fervently believe that God changes everything I think it’s important not to suggest that the problems that lead people to consider suicide are so easily swept away. YES God makes all the difference, but God is not a fairy godmother with a wand. Even with God in your life there can be huge obstacles – if a loved one is lost they are still gone once God is your life. His presence makes the unbearable bearable but life can still hurt even for the most devoted Christian. Jesus himself spoke of this in John 16:33 ” In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” Sometimes God’s answer is to be with in our suffering not to completely take it away.

  • Andrew says:

    Suicide: A permanent solution to a temporary problem. Think about It guys. Trust in God and he will wipe away your tears, fears, pain, and discomfort.

  • Vinoth, I’ve forwarded your request to a mentor, you should hear from them soon!

  • Vinoth says:

    I too have been suffering from suicidal thought for many years. I need someone who could listen to me patiently, understand me, and guide me in christian path. Please mail me at [email address removed by admin]

  • Kara, how would you define God? And how have you come to such a firm conclusion regarding God’s existence?

  • Kara says:

    One question. What if you firmly, categorically, and permanently believe there is no God?
    10 out of 10 for good community spirit, I believe in that.

  • Anne-Marie says:

    Dear Jason,
    Sometimes, the pain seems so great… all hope seems to be gone… and we can think ending life is the best option.
    When we have not yet met God, it is hard for us to believe that we can actually get to know his love in a way that is so real, so fulfilling that nothing can compare to it, but that is what Jesus came to offer each of us. Not force on us, but offer us. He offered us this promise:
    Come to me, all you who are weary, carrying a heavy burden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke on you, learn from me; I am gentle and humble of heart, and you will find rest for your souls.
    I can choose to live life alone, or to live it united to Jesus. Being a Christian is opening your heart to Jesus and inviting him to come in and live in you and with you forever. It is hard to describe how real, how close he becomes when we turn back to him that way. I think that is what is hardest about being a Christian: not finding the words or the ways to convey to others how deeply and perfectly they are loved by God. We only find it out for ourselves when we take that step of faith and welcome him in. If you ever become so desperate you want to end it all, why not become desperate enough to open your heart to him?

  • Claire Colvin Claire Colvin says:

    Jason – there is no such thing as a painless suicide; someone ALWAYS suffers. Even if there was no pain to you personally, there would be great pain for everyone who loves you. Suicide is not simple or tidy or painless. It is tragic and messy and violent. It leaves scars that run deep on the people left behind. Suicide never takes a single victim, there’s always more than one life that is left in ruins. I knew a guy in high school, his name was Nathan. He ended his life with a bullet. His 6 year old sister was the one who found him. It may have ended quickly for him, but she has lived with the horror of what she saw that morning for almost 20 years now and nothing can ever make that right.

    It’s nice to have options in life, but we also have responsibilities. Suicide doesn’t gently take you off the planet, it rips out of of the life of everyone you know, everyone you love. It leaves a wake of destruction. It’s no option at all.

  • Jason Kirk says:

    In reply to Darren Hewer, well I am prepared to make that gamble and it is my freedom of choice. I am not going to go and throw myself under a bus but I know it is an option… Isn’t life all about options?…Well if there is not life after death such as re-incarnation… well I will find out then wont I. Sorry to sound arrogant but we are here for such a short time and well….yegh…They even have websites on how to do it painlessly… I can not see an issue… If I had a choice to go I think… 1 — slashing wrists — but prepared properly can be quite painless… that would be my option for sure… and yes life is all about options…

  • Mr Kirk: And what if you’re wrong about reincarnation? Personally I wouldn’t make that gamble and wouldn’t recommend it to anyone else. There is always hope.

  • Jason Kirk says:

    Well I must say that I have suicide as an option B in my life and even find it quite comforting. I beleive that suicide should be an option as I beleive in re-incarnation..

  • Curiepoint, I was distressed to hear that your life experiences have led you to believe that God “does not give a damn about you.” I say “life experiences” because the idea that God doesn’t care about you is foreign to the Bible. There’s no indication that what happens to Job will happen to anyone else; it’s descriptive, not prescriptive, meaning that it tells what happened to a particular man once but doesn’t imply that a similar fate awaits us. You left out a few parts of Job’s story as well: God had been protecting Job all his life. God knew that Job would persevere through a period of trial. God also restored Job to more than he had before the trial, giving him twice as much as he had before. Also, I wonder where the Bible states that “suicide is considered the only unforgivable sin”? There is an article about that topic here if anyone is really interested in it.

    We will face disappointments in this world; Jesus in fact specifically warned people that his followers will face persecution … he said that “In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33)

    I don’t know what kind of disappointments you’ve faced, but they are no doubt severe. I won’t pretend that I can understand what you’ve been through. But I really hope you will discover anew that God hasn’t forsaken you. The God we conceive of ourselves may work that way, but not the God of the Bible. “No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (Romans 8:39)

  • Curiepoint says:

    Let’s get something straight…God does not give a damn about you. Whether you are an evil, callous, calculating person, or you are Godly, open, and warm, God will take you to the very depths of despair just because he needs a laugh.

    Job was a lover and believer of God. He led a good life, and just because God wanted to, he decimated Job’s family, destroyed his home, and plagued him with disease. When Job finally asked for a reason as to why, he was basically told “Because I am God and you aren’t”. Keep in mind that Job never claimed to be God.

    We are all supposed to believe that earthly life is unimportant compared to going to Heaven. Yet, suicide is considered the only unforgivable sin. What the hell is that about?

    If God is going to pee all over me, then he can be assured that I will do the same to him.

  • Hi nemo,

    What particular words a person uses don’t really matter, as long as they are conveying the same timeless truth. This (the “Four Spiritual Laws” or “Four Spiritual Principles”) is one way of saying it, but a person could explain it using different phrasing as long as it gets the same message across:

    When you say you believe in the resurrection, why do you believe the resurrection was necessary? What I mean is, if there is no need to be saved [from hell] why was Christ’s sacrifice necessary? A person is not “condemn[ed] … to hell” because they are not a Christian; a person ends up there because they have sinned and therefore are separated from God by that sin. One of our resources on this topic can be found here:

    So, what do you think?

  • nemo says:

    I believe in the Resurrection, but I just don’t wish to condemn all non Christians to hell ( if there is one ) just so I can get a ‘free ticket’ to Heaven. Also, various Christians use different words of Salvation by Christ. So if I use someone’s else’s phrasing, I won’t be saved?

  • Claire Colvin Claire says:

    m – I’m sorry to hear that your experience wasn’t a positive one. I have had both good and bad experiences in church. As you said, they are full of people and people aren’t perfect, but some people are good.

    You mentioned not having someone to share good thoughts with, would you like to talk to a mentor? Mentors are trained volunteers with real life experience. They can answer questions, point you to other resources or just listen when you have something to say.

    If this sounds like something you’d like to try, just comment back here and I’ll set it up. (It is totally free.)

    You mentioned giving things away and I apologize for making assumptions but in combination with the topic of this article, I’d rather risk offending you than not saying something if you are thinking about trying something. There is a lot of help available right now.

    1-800-SUICIDE   1-800-273-TALK

    Centre for Suicide Prevention

  • m says:

    That seems like a nice story. I a m glad for the lady in it. When I first went to a church it was like that, but really churches are just full of people just like any other place. People always want to tear someone down. I still wish I could do something good for people though. All my thoughts are macabre, so I really have no one to share them with. I dont have anyone to share with good thoughts, either, though. I started donating all my stuff. There is one girl who talks to me, I invited her to take anything she wanted but she only wanted a few things.
    You know what I hope, that when we die we still live in some way. Or if we dont it’s just peaceful. I’m sorry.

  • Hellen says:

    Thanks for sharing this story, it is very inspiring and i really felt the hand of God working, holding on to me. I will learn to surrender all to Him from now on, to lead me and guide me in the daily directions He wishes.

  • keithmikal says:

    thanks for the help.

  • keithmikal, life does seem hopeless when there seems to be nothing to ground our hope in, doesn’t it? I can relate because I’ve struggled with depression in the past.

    Personally though, now I think there are some good reasons to believe that God exists and provides the solid ground for having hope even in very difficult circumstances … this is a post on my personal blog on that topic:

    If you are dealing with feelings of suicide, I urge you not to wait to seek further counseling. There are some resources listed on this links page including free confidential telephone help lines:

    You may also find our interactive life lesson helpful:

    Keith, if it’s alright with you, I’ll be praying for you. Though you may not believe in God right now, it’s my hope and prayer that He would reveal Himself to you in as much as you can handle it and that you would come to know the hope that comes from knowing Him.

  • keithmikal says:

    “If you invited Christ into your life, thank God often that He is in your life, that He will never leave you and that you have eternal life. As you learn more about your relationship with God, and how much He loves you, you’ll experience life to the fullest.”

    what about those of us who don’t believe in God…

    what are we supposed to believe in..?

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