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It’s hard to forgive someone when you have the resources to get even.  But being able to forgive people who don’t deserve it is a key success factor for any leader.  For Leonard Buhler, it’s his faith in Jesus that gives him the strength to forgive.

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9 Responses to “Forgiving People Who Don’t Deserve It”

  • Tom Tom says:

    As someone who grew up with a father who expressed little love but expected much, I can empathize with your feelings of pain. My father also never admitted any wrongdoing nor did he ever apologize in any way for his words or actions. That being said, may I offer some input regarding forgiveness.

    Forgiveness is not necessarily given to appease or assuage the conscience of the one who is at fault, nor is a matter of placing blame on a person. Forgiveness is given in order to put the one wronged at peace. For example, if early on you had unconditionally forgiven your father for those things you believed he had done against you, how many less painful tears might you have shed? While forgiving isn’t excusing the other person, it is putting the matter to rest in your own mind.

    God teaches that we should first love him and then love others. He set the example of love by sending his Son Jesus Christ to die for our sins. He has forgiven the sins of all the world by sacrificing his Son, and thereby set the example of true forgiveness as well. If we’re going to show our love to others we must forgive them when they do us wrong. It’s the least we can do out of respect for what God has done to forgive us. While on the Cross, Jesus cried out, “Forgive them Father, for they don’t know what they’re doing.”

    You didn’t mention if you are a Christian, a follower of Jesus Christ, but Jesus has commanded us to forgive others. Forgiveness of others is of such significance that Jesus said, “For if you forgive others for their transgressions (sins), your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions.” (Matthew 6:14-15)

    Adam, an unforgiving heart only does the you harm, not anyone else. If you do not know Jesus Christ, then it will not be possible to truly forgive your father and have peace in the matter. Turn to Jesus by faith and trust in him. Once you have a relationship with him, his Holy Spirit that indwells you will give you the ability to truly forgive your father and have the forgiveness of God too.

    As a teenager, Josh McDowell the Christian author and speaker tried to kill his drunken, evil father. But after becoming a Christian and forgiving his father to his face, his father eventually became a Christian because of the forgiveness his son had shown him. Who knows what forgiveness might do in the lives of your family?

  • Adam says:

    Some people should not be forgiven. Leave it to god to forgive. It is not our right to judge everyone worthy of forgiveness. If you fear god, let him do the judging. My father is a bitter man who feels he has done no wrong, so I will not judge him wrong or right, as that would be to judge myself and tell myself that I’m wrong or right. I feel he has wronged me and I have cried many times in pain. I have never seen him shed a tear or apologize to me for what he’s done. Leave it to god.

  • Elkay says:

    Shaun, to forgive means “to give up all claims to punish or exact a penalty for an offense.” No strings or conditions can be attached, or else it ceases to be a pardon. Ephesians 2:8-9 expands on this by contrasting the gift of salvation with works. Neither salvation nor forgiveness can be earned; both must be freely given. God granted us forgiveness, which we did not deserve and could not earn. And in much the same way, we are to release every offender from any form of penalty.

    The online Bible study you can access below the word “Related” above is extremely valuable in learning such Biblical truths about forgiveness, the most important one being that we should be motivated to forgive because God in Christ forgave us (Ephesians 4:32) while we were still sinners (Romans 5:8). So just as Christ forgave us (while we were sinners), so we must forgive others (Col 3:13).

    The second question in the Bible study asks if forgiving others is an option or an obligation and quotes Jesus’ answer at Matthew 5:22, “But I say to you that everyone who continues to be angry with his brother or harbors malice against him shall be guilty before the court.” (AMP)

    Notice this does not require the one who has hurt you to be repentant before you forgive . . . the reason for this seemingly hard statement is found in Luke 6:45 that says the overflow of a man’s heart will be reflected in his words and decisions. Thus, our forgiveness of others should be the result of a change in our minds and our hearts, not as a result of their repentance!

  • I believe you forgive someone only if they change their ways.would you forgive satan ?
    Forgiveness is a two part mix,the the forgiver /or offended one ,and the repentant offender if he does repent.

  • Esther Esther says:

    It is very important to forgive people in order to be set free and be forgiven. Jesus Himself forgave us yet we did not deserve it, therefore we should not be quick to gauge who does or does not deserve to be forgiven. In the LORD’s prayer, we are expected to forgive just as we are forgiven.

  • Kojo Vershie says:


  • 4giveness always brings out the best in a person

  • Shelley says:

    I always feel a lot better when I have forgiven that person, as i do not hold a grudge,as it stays along time when you do not do it.

  • Jessita H. Zabala says:

    I am blessed to receive powerful revelation and wanted to thank your network for one message “Forgiving People Who Don’t deserve it” by Mr. Leonard Buhler. I can relate to this topic and I felt being set free, delivered by God’s grace through Jesus Christ my Savior, my Redeemer. Viewing the clip I looked up at Mr. Leonard as the father figure I seek. But I realized that only our God the Father can fill the void of my search for a father. Truly I am His lost child precious in His eyes whom He loves unconditionally and faithfully. I thank the Holy Spirit for the conviction that though I am a sinner, I can still forgive others even if they don’t deserve it because I myself has been forgiven thru Faith in Christ Jesus. Please pray for me that the work of transformation our All Knowing God started in me will be completed that I remain steadfast and faithful. Thank you very much.

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