Finding Joy in Praying for my Grandchildren

Written by Lillian Penner

family_praygrandkidsWhat a joy it is to have that precious little grandchild come running into your arms with hugs and kisses. The six-year-old granddaughter calling to tell you she lost her first tooth or your seven-year-old grandson excited about making his first goal in his soccer game.

In addition to the senior discounts, grandchildren are one of the rewards of growing older. Mary H. Waldrip says it well, “Grandchildren are God’s way of compensating us for growing old.”

I grew up in a Midwest rural community many years ago. I didn’t encounter the temptations and pressures my grandchildren are facing today in this media driven culture. Our society is teetering on the brink of moral and spiritual bankruptcy. I pray for protection from the evil deception in the world.

I have nine grandchildren, ages ranging from three years to twenty-five years. As a long-distance grandmother for many years, I was not fully aware of my grandchildren’s immediate needs. I prayed that God would bless them, give them good health and protection. Ultimately, I became frustrated and felt something was lacking with my vague and general prayers. I asked God to show me how to become more deliberate in praying for them.

After reading Grandma, I Need Your Prayers by Quin Sherrer & Ruthanne Garlock, and When Mothers Pray by Cheri Fuller, prayers for my grandchildren changed dramatically. The books were full of practical advice, encouraging me to use specific scriptures in praying, motivating me to pray regularly and specifically for their emotional, physical and spiritual well-being.

I want to share some of the practical advice I pursued.

  • I developed a Photo Prayer Journal in a three-ring binder with a section for each grandchild. Each section had a profile sheet with the grandchild’s picture and information about their school, church, friends, and activities. This is followed with several blank pages on which I record myprayer concerns, hopes, and dreams for the grandchild.
  • God’s Word became a manual for learning how to pray more effectively for my grandchildren. Praying scripture unleashes the supernatural power of God in their lives. When I pray according to God’s Word, I am in line with His will. As I started claiming God’s promises and personalizing the scriptures for them, I experienced more confidence and boldness in my prayer life.
  • New channels of communication opened with my older grandchildren when I asked how I could pray for them. For the younger children I consulted with their parents to keep abreast of specific concerns. Then I was able to pray more specifically for them.
  • A primary prayer for all my grandchildren is that they will come to realize how much God loves them: That God will always be there for them, and they will accept Jesus Christ as their personal Savior and spend eternity with Him.
  • Paul tells us in Romans 8:26 that the Holy Spirit intercedes for us when we don’t know what to pray for. The Holy Spirit knows the needs of my grandchildren so I ask him to intercede according to His will. It is comforting to me that I can put my concerns in God’s hand, leaving them with Him. It shifts the burden to God, instead of carrying it myself
  • The love I have for my grandchildren would like to control their lives and keep them from pain, disappointment, or discouragement. Humanly, I want to rescue them and pray, “Don’t let anything bad happen to them.” To which the Lord may say, “I need to allow disappointment, pain, and failure so they will learn to trust and obey me so I can pour my blessings on them.” It’s important I pray for God’s will in their lives.
  • God has created my grandchildren for a unique purpose. I pray they will discover their dreams, be motivated to pursue them, and trust He will provide the resources.
  • It is important for me to communicate to my grandchildren that I love them and accept them even though I may not accept their behavior. I like to call them on the phone; send cards for holidays, note cards, or e-cards to offer encouragement, and let them know I love them and pray for them.

Blessings as a result

I want to share part of a letter from my married granddaughter. It is a confirmation that praying for these precious grandchildren is never a wasted effort. She wrote, “My grandmother’s phone calls, cards, and emails were encouraging and made a significant impact on my life throughout my teenage and college years. Her prayers and encouragement have been rock-solid reminders of God’s truth. Amidst my crazy and incredibly life-shaping year, her prayers helped me surrender the craziness of my life to God.”

My prayers for my grandchildren have strengthened my relationships with them. The Photo Prayer Album has been an excellent tool for me to stay connected to them. Whether they live nearby or far away, praying for them intentionally keeps me in touch. Often my prayers can be more powerful than my presence, when I let them know I am praying for them.

Best of all, praying God’s Word has enabled me to pray with His power, direction, and wisdom. As their grandparent, I can have a major role in stabilizing and influencing their lives by praying for them during these turbulent years. It has given me fulfillment and satisfaction in praying for them.

The seeds of prayer we plant today will yield a harvest of blessing in the future. My prayer is that you have been challenged to pray strategically and deliberately for your grandchildren. In Isaiah 44:3 God told the Israelites, “I will pour out my Spirit on your offspring and my blessing on your descendents.” God still promises to pour out his Spirit and blessings on our descendents. Don’t we want that for our grandchildren and future descendents?

The greatest long-lasting gift we can give our grandchildren is the gift of our time and prayers.

22 Responses to “Finding Joy in Praying for my Grandchildren”

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    Dear Jesus I do join Shirley in praying for her granddaughter. I ask that You would help this young lady to see the danger of being in a relationship with a man of poor morals. Help Shirley to know how to love in a way that helps care for her loved ones but doesn’t enable their poor choices. Give Shirley the peace knowing that You are in control and will accomplish Your plans in the lives of he loved ones, in your perfect timing. Amen.

    Hi Shirley, let me invite you to connect with one of our mentors whom you can share privately some of the concerns that you have and pray along with you. Just fill out the Mentor Request Form at and a prayer mentor will be in touch with you soon by email.

  • Carole says:

    I believe grandparents have rights too. I had my grandson for the first give years of his life and them poof Momma moved away and took him with her. I grieved and perhaps I grieve still of his life that I missed. However, God hears our prayers and dries our tears. All we can do is continue to pray that they won’t fall into the wrong crowd and grow up strong. My prayers are with all of us grandparents who can’t see our grandchildren for whatever reason. God bless us all.

  • Shirley says:

    Please pray for my 21 granddaughter who is making real bad decisions wanting to marry a guy in prison. Lieing Stealing her mother kicked her out she keeps asking me for money I can not help her anymore need help with her

  • Mary says:

    . My grandsons told me they wanted to run away. They dislike there stepmother. she mistreat them and is an evil woman.. My son doesn’t stand up to her and allows her to mistreat his children. Please lord help me. Keep your hands on my grandchildren protect them from any evil. Also Lord PLEASE Give me the power to stay grounded and protect my grandchildren without losing myself. My grandchildren are my world and this situation is stressing me out.

  • Aldo says:

    Deborah, thank you for the wonderful site you have shared with us. May you receive abundant “hits” on it to help those who need that ministry. God bless.

  • Aldo says:

    Wilma, what I have said to Pennyl below, I say to you.

    Wilma, God hears and answers every prayer of His saints, although it may not be how and when we want it. The key is to trust Him, and to continue to thank, praise, and worship Him for Who He is.

    Do not allow the enemy to cause you to lose sight of Who you serve through the antics of your grandchild’s family. Remember, “Greater is He Who is in you than he who is in the world. (1 John 4:4) Let’s pray:

    Heavenly Father, You know and have heard the cry of Wilma’s heart concerning her grandchild. Lord, we ask that You would work things out so that Wilma can be with the child on a regular schedule without any hardship. Amen.

  • Wilma says:

    It’s sad I pray all the time, it’s been months since I have seen my Grandsugars. There Dad nor Mother will let me have them for a weekend. I call and text Asking please let me talk to my grandsugars. NO ONE replies. My heart can’t take no more ?

  • Aldo says:

    Pennyl, God hears and answers every prayer of His saints, although it may not be how and when we want it. The key is to trust Him, and to continue to thank, praise, and worship Him for Who He is.

    Do not allow the enemy to cause you to lose sight of Who you serve through the antics of your granddaughter’s mom and her family. Remember, “Greater is He Who is in you than he who is in the world. (1 John 4:4) Let’s pray:

    Heavenly Father, You know and have heard the cry of Pennyl’s heart concerning her granddaughter. Lord, we ask that You would work things out so that Pennyl and the family can be with the child on a regular schedule without the hardship of having to travel such an extended distance, in Jesus Name we pray and agree, Amen.

  • Pennyl says:

    I am asking for prayer and strength for my husband and I. We have a 9 year old
    Granddaughter that we have had every weekend her mom and family have turned her against us and her father they moved 9 hours away.
    Now they are trying to cut us out of her life. We have prayed for her return. We have gone into a depression at times because of pain of missing her.i don’t understand why,we taught her about Jesus but their family is the furthest from Jesus. We have caught them in many lies! Now she is lying to us. I’m at a loss .. a loss of prayer words

  • Kathryn Kathryn says:

    Dear Brenda, That is so hard for you. My husband and I experienced something similar so I understand what you are going through. The sorrow eases a little with time but I do advise you not to let this pain grow into bitterness because that would only make your hurt worse. If you believe in prayer, ask God for strength and patience. Pray for your granddaughter and her mum too because Jesus clearly teaches that we must forgive others if we want our sins to be forgiven. As to getting her back, well, she is still your granddaughter, nothing can change that and your prayers for her and her well being will ensure that one day she will want to get in touch and see you again. Just think of the joy that will bring you. Separation lasted over 10 years in our case but when the reconciliation came, it happened so naturally and easily that it seemed as it it were mere days that had passed. Let’s pray about it now Brenda. Dear Lord, You understand all about conflict between those who should love each other, You experienced it Yourself as the Bible says, You were cut off from your own people, despised and rejected. In Your mercy fill Brenda with Your peace which passes all understanding and give her a loving and forgiving heart towards those who have hurt her for whatever reason. We ask this in the precious name of Him who gave his life to save us. Amen.
    Maybe Brenda you would like to contact a mentor privately. If you click on the button on the right hand side at the top of this page, fill in your details, you will receive a message back within a few days. There is no payment. It is offered to people because we care about those who are suffering. Blessings, Kathryn

  • Brenda says:

    My 47 year old daughter who is mentally ill has turned my 12 year old granddaughter against me. I miss her so much as I took care of hr since she was a new baby. I pray that something will happen to let her come back to me. How can I get her back?

  • Kathryn Kathryn says:

    Lala, I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your young grand daughter, that must be so tough for all of you concerned. I trust that the prayers of caring people will bring peace and hope to you personally and all who are suffering pain because of what is going on in the lives of their children and grandchildren.
    Florence, I hope you have found someone who will pray alongside you and give you the encouragement we all need as we trust the Lord to hear and answer our prayers.
    May our heavenly Father comfort and strengthen you both Lala and Florence as you remember that He too suffers when we His children are in serious need of help. In Jesus’ precious name. Amen

  • Florence Reynolds says:

    I’m seeking prayer for my children n grandchildren. Thank u.

  • Lala says:

    Prayer for my son and daughter in law on the loss of their daughter my eight year old granddaughter. Our family needs strength in prayer to carry on , especially her siblings. I still am having trouble believing she’s gone. I know as a child of God , we will see her again in Heaven.

  • Kathryn Kathryn says:

    Just come across this article and am thanking God for it because as a grandmother myself I know how vitally important it is that we are aware of the difficult days we are all living in and the need to pray for others, especially our loved ones. I must admit I do get overwhelmed at times with all the complications involved in families and life in general these days but reading this has given me encouragement to continue praying for God’s mercy and grace in every situation and the wisdom and discernment to keep the lines of communication open both with our loved ones and of course with God Himself.

  • Carrie says:

    I continually plead the blood of the Lamb, and hegde of protection over my grandson and granddaughter. Praying God’s will for their lives every day. Thank you so much for this prayer.

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    Yes Lord I pray with Monisa and ask that you would help her, even at this young age, to know Your voice and to submit to Your leading and direction in her life. I pray that she would discover how Jesus can set her free from the hold that sin has on her and make her into a new person, fully devoted to following You. Amen.

  • Monisa Cole says:

    I Pray to Jesus Christ and The Holy Spirit that my granddaughter Heaven will be protected from the evil demons that tempt children to be bad in school. I pray that she respects her mother and learn to be good and put God first. Her father is incarcerated and she is very upset, confused and angry at 5 years old. Please Holy Spirit Help her and touch her heart and comfort her and help her to be a good child and not such a mischievous little girl at times. It like she sweet one minute and the next something compels her to do the wrong thing. God Help her mom and her. Please bless my granddaughter and daughter.

  • Sharon says:

    dear glennis– thank you, i would suggest knowing that the two grandsons are strongwilled prayer for soften hearts and for the grand daughters for all of them protection and safety and salvation for them– prayer–father God i bless glennis and give her your words to pray for her grandchildren and i do pray for protection and salvation for the grandchildren and maye the parenets as well i pray all of this in JESUS name amen i am praying for you all

  • Glennis Patton says:

    i have two precious grandsons, ages 4 and 6. Both are sweet and loving children but are very strong willed. I pray daily but I want to learn to pray specific prayers for their lives I also have 2 precious grand daughters ages 8 and 14. Due to divorce I am not able to see them often I want to pray for their safety and salvation. How would I pray specific prayers for them?

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    Debbie let me invite you to talk to one of our online mentors who can help you with some ideas about being a praying grandparent. If you fill out the Mentor Request Form at a mentor will connect with you by email.

  • Debbie says:

    Please send me new posts about praying and helping my grandchildren come to know Jesus as their savior.2 boys and 1 more boy on the way.The 4 year old is very strong willed and will not stop doing what you tell him to stop doing. How can you pray for that. And how can you talk to him about it?

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