I don’t feel anything for my husband

Written by M. Larson

feelnoloveI am to a point that I do not feel anything for my husband. It is a horrible thing to say, but I can’t help it. I don’t know what is going on, because I used to love him, but now I don’t even want him to touch me, and I get no pleasure from sex.

I know God wants us to have a better marriage. I have contemplated leaving him so that he can find someone else that may truly want him the way he should be wanted.

Advice: I feel sad for and with you. I would suggest that you see a professional Christian counselor to help you work through your problem. There may be something in your past that is affecting the way you feel now.

At a Christian bookstore you can find books that deal with marriage problems. Here are some suggestions: When Love Dies by Judy Bodner and Loving Your Marriage Enough to Protect It by Jerry Jenkins. You may also see some other books there that would meet your problem.

You could visit your church library or public library to check out some books on marital problems.

I’m praying for you. Please feel free to write again. I care!

Dr. Muriel

2 Responses to “I don’t feel anything for my husband”

  • Aldo says:

    Kim, don’t despair. With God everything is possible. It was not a mistake that you married your husband. It was God ordained, but the enemy, the devil, wants to break up that marriage covenant you made to your husband and before God. Give God a chance to heal you.

    Kim, I know that this blog is almost 5 years old, but I also know that God answers prayers that are overdue.

    Kim, let’s pray: Father God, thank You for Kim and her husband. Lord, work in both of their hearts and lives drawing them ever closer to You and the Savior, Jesus Christ. Cause them to realize that they need to completely submit themselves to You so that they can resist the devil- James 4:7. Bless their efforts of reconciliation, and rebuke the enemy in their behalf. Throw a “hedge of protection” around them, and cause love to rise up in their hearts for one another, in Jesus Name I pray, Amen.

  • Kim says:

    I know this feeling EXACTLY. We have been married for 16 years and got married out of obligation, we stay married because the Bible teaches against divorce. I was pregnant and he felt it was the right thing to do. Today, my eldest child is 23 and the younger two are 15 and 12. We have tried counseling, but when I am truly honest with myself, I just don’t feel anything for him, and I too have thought about leaving so he can be loved and appreciated the way he deserves and so that one day, if at all, I will have the same thing. God help me, I don’t know what to do.

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