How do I respect my stay-at-home husband?

Written by M. Larson

stayathomeI dearly love my Christian husband and strive to be the wife God wants me to be. But my dilemma lies in the fact that my he does not work — he is called to the ministry. I am not trying to sound like I am complaining, because I am very blessed to have a spiritual husband. But I work full-time while he stays at home with our 1 year-old son. Does God still expect me to be a sweet, submissive and virtuous wife to my husband in spite of this? Or is this the limit? I really want to do what’s right.

Advice: God expects you to be a submissive, sweet and virtuous wife to your husband — and He expects your husband to love you as much as he loves himself. In view of that, I don’t think a wife needs to be submissive to the place where she is a doormat. God used a rib under Adam’s heart to make Eve — He didn’t use a heel bone.

The Bible clearly says to all Christians, “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ” (Ephesians 5:21). I think you need to have a good talk with your husband and tell him how you feel about this situation. If he is a good Christian man, he will consider your feelings and try to work with you. Some couples agree that it would be financially better for the wife to work and the husband take care of the children — but the key word here is “agree.”

My husband felt called to prepare for the ministry and started attending a Christian college. Our daughter was 7 years old at the time. So I took a full-time job, while he went to school and took care of our daughter. Later, he got a part-time job too, and I got a job where I could get home by four p.m. for our daughter.

May the Lord guide you and your husband to a loving cooperation with one another.

In Christ’s love, Dr. Muriel

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