What do I say to a friend who has a terminal disease?

Written by M. Larson

friendillnessWhat do I say to a friend who has been diagnosed with a terminal disease?

Advice: Always call and make some connection. “I just heard . . . and I’m sorry this has happened! Is there anything I can do?” Then stop talking – let the other person talk, yell, scream, get angry, etc. Remember, this is not about you – the feelings have to find a place to express themselves and you are there. This is the most important gift you can give that friend – let her/him express their feelings.

Let go of your own guilt feelings about past experiences of grief and remember this person’s grief is not about you – hear them out.

If the other person doesn’t want to talk, it’s because they don’t trust you enough.

Ask the person for lunch or drop by with a card or drop an encouragement card in the mail.

But, always call. Someone else may be answering the phones, but leave your message so the person will know you called.

Dr. Muriel

One Response to “What do I say to a friend who has a terminal disease?”

  • Kathryn Kathryn says:

    Hi Hester, Looks like you are number one on this blog. I am intrigued by your comment. Would you care to say more or is it too private? Maybe you feel you could write to an individual mentor, if so, see the button at the top right hand side which will link you with someone who care. By the way, I think this may be something I call a “Godincidence”. I am always thrilled when I recognise them in my own life or someone else’s. Do please reply. Blessings, Kathryn

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