3 Destructive Thoughts Video provided by: Josh McDowell Ministry

You know there’s some lines of thought that are so destructive when it comes to parenting.

Destructive line of thought #1: I’ll work hard now and be able to play later.

One line of thought is this: Well I’ll work hard now and be able to play later. You know what? That’s a delusion. I’ve hardly ever met a business man or woman who said, “Well, I’ll work hard now, and then once I get the business going and everything, and then I’ll play. Then I’ll spend time with the kids. You know what happens? By the time you get around to spending time with your children, they are busy and they don’t have time to spend with you.

By the time you get around to spending time with your children, they may not have time to spend with you.

Destructive line of thought #2: God’s sovereignty covers all mistakes.

God’s sovereignty does cover the mistakes we make, but I’ll tell you this: The mistakes we make have a profound impact upon our children.  The mistakes we make have a profound impact upon our children.  If you go through life with the excuse, well I’m just going to make a lot of mistakes, and that’s ok because you know God is sovereign. He’ll make up for it. Well let me tell you, your child will suffer because of that.

Destructive line of thought #3: I just don’t have time!

If you don’t have time for your children, then you don’t have time for anything.

It takes time, and I’ll tell you this: when you get about 60 years old, maybe retired or what, it’s pretty hard to climb up to your former job and really be satisfied and comforted. But let me tell you, when your children come home and they hug you and say, “Daddy, I love you. Let’s go golfing today. Let’s go out for dinner tonight. Let’s go on vacation.” Those are the things that will comfort you, not the job you had your whole life. You will NEVER regret spending time with your children.  Anyone who spends time with their child will never regret it. It will almost always, always come back to bless you.

New to this series? Watch the introduction video here

How you can spend more time with your children:

Creating Quality Time With Your Kids
Quality Time: A Family Issue

2 Responses to “3 Destructive Thoughts”

  • Doris Beck Doris says:

    Great points Artria! I have to agree that young children need bonding with their parents which will help reassure them as they grow older. And it isn’t just with their mothers, but fathers are so important in children’s lives. Watching our grandchildren long for their Daddy’s attention when he walks in the door always brings a smile to my face!

  • artria says:

    I find myself explaining to family and even my own husband why I can not afford to stretch myself thin. I chose to be a mother. Until children reach school age and go off to pre-school for hours, I feel that they need bonding with their parents that will help reassure them as they grow and become more and more independent that mom and dad will be there to guide them where school does not. Babies, toddlers, they need the most from their parents. I also had a better chance to figure out how to be a parent during this time. After all, parenting is not easy. There is no perfect way. One of the best books of instruction, the Bible, can be confusing and there are many people who forget that raising a child is like raising yourself. Sure, if your hungry, you feed yourself, but what if your sad and you don’t know how to get happy? What if your scared, but you don’t know why or how to adapt and overcome it? Kids crave understanding, too. They need to know how to communicate their thoughts even if it doesn’t make sense, acknowledging it as theirs is a part of owning themselves and their actions. Not just mothers, but they seek daddy’s reassurance, guidance, love, etc. Too. We teach them so many things! Team work, prayer, eating habits and if u miss these important years its only getting harder as the get busier and more independent. Self esteem can Ward off a lot of peer pressure. Don’t just assume daycare workers can cover all that.

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