Rebuilding Video provided by: The Veracity Project

What are you building through bitterness? Not only is a bitter attitude unappealing to others, not being willing to let go of how you feel you’ve been wronged. Soon the walls start going up to protect you from being hurt. But eventually a person becomes boxed in by their bitterness. Sure, you’re “safe” from being hurt, but you’ve also been isolated from the joy of having fellowship with others. Do you consider yourself bitter? Do others? Do you see any way that you could learn to overcome bitterness?

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13 Responses to “Rebuilding”

  • Sharon says:

    to Osborn the only way to live in your community positively is keep smiling if you can and show people Gods love by smiling and being positive to people by saying hello and having a positive outlook on life and look for divine appointments by asking God who can I pray for today even if you don’t just have a positive outlook on life- I will pray that you can be a light in your community God bless– sharon

  • Donna says:

    Surrogate Grandparents – USA, a place where grandparents who are missing grandchildren in their lives can reach out to, and connect with, families whose children are missing grandparents in their lives, for a possible lifetime of love. This is how I have turned my bitterness, anger and negative situation into something positive not only for us because of being forbidden a relationship with our grandsons. This group has also become a blessing for others as well.

  • Sharon says:

    good article thank you for posting this

  • OSBORN says:

    hallow there,. hi Prays God. can you pliz advice me on how to leave positively with the people in my community because many do not need to know. there are boxed.

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  • Aldo says:

    Liz, it is wonderful that you can now move on with your life, but in your blog you did not mention anything about forgiving your sister for that which she has put you through. And, although you may feel free at the present time, you need to take the step that will truly free you up- confronting your sister, and asking forgiveness for any hurt you may have caused her, while informing her that you forgive her for all the discomfort which she has brought upon you.

    It is up to you to take the initial step to do such, seeing that you are a believer in Christ, and should be obedient to do what He would like for you to do. Allow me to pray for you.

    Father God, touch Liz with Your Holy Spirit and cause her to realize that she should be reconciled to her sister. Grant her the courage, wisdom, and love, to approach her sister with a heart of compassion, in Jesus Name I pray, Amen.

  • Liz says:

    Hi, my sister accused me of having a bitter heart. My parents retired in the same town as her and I also moved to the same town to support them. It was really difficult because I felt I was truly meeting my sister for the first time.
    Growing up through childhood I sensed animosity from her, and when my mum passed away suddenly, my sister completely ostraciced me. It has been 15 years since she spoke to me, and resulted in me crossing the road one day when I saw her in the street because I knew if I said hello, she would give some kind of indignant murmer-so I felt it was a waste of time trying. However I was not being true to myself as I have never done that to anyone, especially my own sister. I joined facebook to look up some friends and family, and my aunt told me my sister told her that I was a self centred,nasty,backbiting person. It is in my nature to want to make things right, I was extremely distressed and almost couldn’t function as I had no-one to go to in this town. I began to feel enraged and destructive, but thanks to the love of Jesus was able to overcome this feeling. I immediately the next day went to a counselor for help and praise God that he helped me to stop going over it in my mind and to move on. I am very happy now. During the years when I was under her ostracism, I went on voluntary door knock appeals, spoke to all my neighbours in the area where I live and introduced myself and in the company of these people, I found comfort. I did not have a bitter heart, and to be accused of it was damaging to my self- esteem, also the ostracism paralysed me spiritually and emotionally and it was hard to keep my sanity. I am serene now, having learned her truth, which held me in contempt for so long. I am free!- free at last from her darkness and free to move on! Praise God for his everlasting goodness and for the hope of eternal life in Christ Jesus. Amen.

  • Barbara Alpert Barbara Alpert says:

    Hi Linnietea, I can sense the pain and frustration that you are currently in. Perhaps some people do not want to talk about the “white Elephant” in the room because it is to painful for them to hear the truth. However God’s words says, “Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” (John 8:32) Are you aware of how much God loves you and longs to heal and set you free from your past hurts?

    My life drastically changed the day I accepted Jesus as my Lord and Savior. If it was not for Him I would still be living in darkness and held bondage to all the hurt, pain, and suffering done to me while growing up. I can relate to your story for I too have been there. However, God made a way for me to deal with all that heartache and He longs to do the same for you. Perhaps you would like to connect vai email with one of our trained online Mentors. It would be so beneficial for you to have some come along and encourage you through all that you are dealing with. Here is a link to request a Mentor:

  • linnietea says:

    I don’t stay away from people,it just seems that maybe I wasn’t supposed to ask about the elephant in the room and because I have now I’m rejected.Seems as though the questions I ask… others really wish they had the guts but would rather “go along to get along”.Yet,if I’m deceiving my own soul by refusing the truth how is not asking for the answers I don’t know wrong?
    I believe we all have been given a lifescript.if I don’t do what I’m called can I give what is mine to give?
    Toxic tongue syndrome is very hurtful and today,truth seems not to matter.

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    You are right Courtnie, Jesus is the only one who can help you. He said “Come unto me all of you who are weary and weighed down. I will give you rest.” (Matthew 11:28) He is the only one who is perfectly trustworthy and He will never let you down.

    Tell me, what is making you feel trapped and scared? How did you find out about Jesus helping you?

  • Courtnie says:

    I myself feel trapped, and scared, and I feel the only way I can get out of this, is by accepting the Lord, and trusting with all my heart! It’s all I feel that can help me!! Please God, take over!!

  • Tammy says:

    Wow. A very powerful video about bitterness and how it can trap us. I saw myself in this video more than once I am sad to say. I have always wanted to have more faith and respond to bad things with good, but I usually end up having at least some bitterness.

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