Wreck Video provided by: Global Short Film Network

The new year is always a time of new beginnings. Is there anything you wish you could forget?

Forgetfulness is usually problematic but sometimes there are things we wish we could leave in that past. They can even prevent us from becoming everything that we wish we could be. Have you ever wished there was a solution like the one presented in this video where those scratchy records could be permanently removed from our lives?

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20 Responses to “Wreck”

  • David Oakes says:

    I related to this story on many levels. First what stood out to me was how the girl was picked un by her peers growing up. This was me. I suffered from ADHD which made me restless and excited. I also longed to belong next to my peers and so I would act out in order to get recognized. This later carried over into my adult life in the form of addiction and wanting to fit in with a certain crowd. I guess I chose addicts for I was mis led into believing they had a special bond because of the activities they were involved with. For me drug addiction was an attempt to be connected as well as allow me to let my hair down and all others to make decisions in pace of me. Many years in the military I know how to take orders as well as lead others. At some point I wanted someone to drive the bus so I gave into whatever and whoever I could find to easy my responsibility. I thought by making myself venerable I would win acceptance of another. Trusting them to take care of me. Kinda strange as i look at it here as I write. But honestly it is so true.

    Another thing I noticed at the end of the video that struck out to me was the unconditional love the father showed to the girl. My husband after all else failed at getting me to stay clean/sober simply tried showing unconditional love no matter how messed up I was when I’d eventually walk thru the door. Thru this experience I managed to gain nearly a year and a half clean /sober till I released a week ago.

    Today I am clean and sober once again and learning to accept unconditional love from my husband and Lord and Savior. Taking time to understand and accept such but making progress

  • Aldo says:

    Constance, thank you for your comments. Continue to read the Bible on a regular basis. It will strengthen your faith. (Rom. 10:17) If you would like to chat one on one with a mentor, click on Talk to a mentor at the left bottom of this page. Someone will be happy to discuss any issues you may have, or just to pray for you.

  • constance says:

    2nd Kings 6:8-ff the bible says when the Assyrians came to attack Elisha,Elisha prayed earnestly to the lord and the lord blinded the eyes of the enemies and he received his victory in the might name of Jesus.my concern is that every prayer you make you receive an answer Jesus name.1st Pet5:8

  • Elkay says:

    Love Thy Self, I so agree with you. As opposed to the way society today sees love, the most important thing about “LOVE” is that it is not selfish but is self-sacrificial. It is the other person’s well-being that we must seek and Jesus demonstrated this in an extreme manner in that “this is real love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins.” (1 John 4:10) . . . and He “showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners.” (Rom 5:8)

    I hope that you are in relationships where you can put others needs before yours and actually give yours up for them because this is the only way to find peace and joy in life . . . “God is love” (1 John 4:8), we are made to reflect Him and will never really do this until we also love self-sacrificially.

    “LOVE does not demand its own way. It keeps no record of being wronged. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” (1 Cor 13:5f)

  • patricia says:

    I have forgiven my violent husband of 10 years, but it was harder than ever
    to forgive my 2 brothers for savagely beating me up as an adult while my sister
    watched and did nothing to help me. I almost lost my mind over this. I have been
    able to forgive them, what choice do I have if I am to get on with my life and
    try hard to be happy?? but sometimes, even now, I have flashbacks that plunge me
    into despair I have been in therapy since 1977 and have been incredibly lucky and
    have strong faith in God. I think that keeps me sane, but I have these horrible
    thoughts of reliving the whole thing over and over. I truly love God but I wonder
    why all this hatred had to happen to me. please help me.

  • Sharon says:

    i love new years they are a reason to start over and begin a new again with a whole new slate

  • ajay says:

    i am conected with manuel ministry last 1 year and receive spirital blessing iam so tension distress dipression but prayer at manuel mimi i got peace jesus blessing .thanks bro manuel jesus bless him and ministry.

  • marsha says:

    Carol did you go to Murray State for 1 year?

  • Claire Colvin Claire Colvin says:

    Hi Sherry,

    I can understand your caution with counselling. Are you currently in a church community? If so the pastors there might be able to recommend a Christian counsellor who comes from the same faith perspective, if you wanted to go that route. I know that not all Christian counsellors have the same practices so it helps to get a recommendation. (I used to go to a church years ago that started a counselling practice at the church because a couple had gone to a Christian counsellor for marriage advice and the counsellor told them to get divorced! They were shocked, and hurt because they were never even considering divorce. With the counselling centre as part of the church all of the professionals have been vetted by the pastoral staff which is very comforting.)

    You wrote that, Talking about the abuse is not going to change the past or make it any better. It is actually very traumatizing to talk about it. I can only imagine how awful it would be to talk about it, but I have to respectfully disagree that talking about the past doesn’t make it any better. You can’t change what happened, and it’s unlikely that there’s any “understanding” that would come from talking about it, however, it is entirely likely that there are other lies you believe about yourself because of what happened to you and those things DO get better with talking about them.

    The only example I can draw from my own life is nowhere near what you have experienced, so before I talk about it please know that I am not trying to draw any comparisons or suggest that my experience is in any way on par with yours. But if what I’ve found was true in my own less traumatic experience then I have to expect it to be even more true in yours. Still with me? I was bullied in high school. A lot. To the point where I started to plan my suicide. It was all verbal, and in the face of those awful things I started to believe certain things about myself. I believed that I was ugly. I believed that I was stupid because they told me that I was so often. I believed that no one would ever love me, that I wasn’t worthy of being loved, and ultimately that I had no purpose and the world would be better off without me. I know now that none of those things are true but it took YEARS for me to dig those lies out of my heart and in moments of weakness they still come back and taunt me from the corners.

    You went through significant, prolonged abuse so I have to suspect that there are probably lies you believe about yourself, about your worth and value about what you can and cannot protect yourself from. It’s those lies that I truly believe a counsellor could help with, especially one who would pray with you while also gently working through the process with you. I would imagine that you go to great lengths to protect yourself, and you should, but I wonder if mixed in with those layers of protection there are some barriers that are keeping you from living certain parts of your life rather than keeping you safe as you live them. I can’t answer that for you, but maybe it’s something to think about. I know that in my own life burying things never works well in the long run, it only gave my heart a limp.

    ps I think you are very brave.

  • Sherry says:

    Hi Claire;

    What the counsellors meant by that is, being angry and bitter was a natural resonse to being sexually abused and being in a relationship with a man who was abusive. I would have to work through the anger and bitterness that I feel and doing cognitive therapy, relaxation, meditation, and some other New Age garbble. I am not accepting of New age approaches to the therapy that therapists use. Like for example…everything is about me. Embracing who I am and accepting me for me. That there is a difference between anger and aggression. Anger is a natural human emotion, but aggression is taking anger to the next level. Being verbally and physically aggressive. For me, as a Christian, anger is no different than aggressiveness. Anger can be very toxic and ruin our relationship with God and others surrounding us. Righteous anger is a pure anger, if it is in defense of God or anything that is in violation of His Word or laws, but, bearing in mind, we should let our anger go when we go to bed. Not letting that anger eating us up and destroying our relationship with God.

    I really don’t know how to feel about Christian Counselling honestly. That would be something I would have to prayerfully give alot of thought to. I would like to get past the hurt, but, maybe it is something that will take time…which the sexual abuse has taken forever, but, maybe there are some things that God has to work through with me on. I guess what I am saying is I am just trusting the Holy Spirit to comfort me. I used to cut myself when I was a teenager right until I was 22 years old, but God has convicted me of that. I am now 37 years old and haven’t cut since then.

    Talking about the abuse is not going to change the past or make it any better. It is actually very traumatizing to talk about it. That’s why I never discuss in detail what happened when I was a child. It feels like I’m being sexually abused over and over again. I feel unsafe and violated over again. It is a very scary feeling for me, since I had to learn to grow up at such a young age and didn’t have much of a childhood and lived in constant fear and having to hide and protect myself.

    I do know that I will never be hurt like that again and I refuse to involve myself in any relationships with a man and the thought utterly terrifies me. I just know that Jesus is my husband and I am safe with Him and He will never hurt me in any way, shape or form. I don’t dislike men, but, some men utterly terrify me. I feel safe around Christian men. Men of the world scare me very much so.

    I hope this helped to explain my situation a little.

    Thanks again Claire! Take care and God bless you!

  • Claire Colvin Claire Colvin says:

    Sherry, It sounds like you have been on a very long road with this. Have you had any experience with a counsellor who shares your faith? I do agree that Jesus is our Healer but I think that there is often room for medical professionals alongside of that. I can understand not wanting to pursue pharmaceuticals, but this is a hard road to walk alone. Support could really help.

    I am by not a counsellor, so this is not a professional opinion in any way, but I wonder if part of the issue is that you want the bitterness and anger to go away right away and the counsellors want you to work through it as a way to get rid of it. Were they saying that you will always feel this way? Or that it was natural to feel this way now, but that you could work toward not feeling this way? I wonder if it’s a bit like grieving? You can work through grief and get to a place when there is less grief and fewer of your actions, thoughts and feelings are driven by grief, but there’s always that messy time at the beginning where there’s just a lot of grief and pain and you can’t just make it go away?

    Something awful happened to you and that should make you angry. You need to grieve for the Sherry that got hurt, the one that no one protected. That’s not to say that you remain in that anger forever, but be careful not to deny the anger its place. In acknowledging it and challenging it in a healthy way you may be able to move past it.

    If you’d had a bad experience with a counsellor, or with a hundred counsellors, I would still encourage you to try and find a counsellor who share your faith, who listens to you and who you feel you can work with (rather than just being worked “at” or worked “on). If it’s going to work it needs to be the two of you working together toward a common goal. Does your church have a list of recommended counsellors? Could be a good place to start.

  • Sherry says:

    Hi Claire;

    Thankyou for your response and concern. Yes, I am a Christian and I do agree that I am under demonic attack. I really feel that the bitterness and anger that I feel is demonic. It is not a way that Christ would have me feel.

    I was under the care of a counsellor, but, get rather frustrated with them. The feelings I have at times, like the anger that won’t go away, the bitterness I feel towards my abusers and hatred as well. The is not acceptable in my opinion, but in their opinion it is natural and that I shouldn’t deny how I feel and learn to deal with the feelings I have. I do get rather frustrated wit psychiatrists as well. They are either giving me another pill or taking it away. They don’t listen to a word that I have to say. I refuse to go back to counselling and to see a psychiatrist. I believe my only answer to my problems is Jesus Christ. He is my healer and the greatest physician and psychiatrist this earth has to offer. Jesus is the only way. Is it Jeremy Camp who sings, I think the song is called…”The Way”?

    I ask for you to please keep me in your prayers. I would like a deeper relationship with Christ and a way that God can use me as an instrument to help others with my problems I have been through. I haven’t gone through them for nothing. It happened for a reason. I know that Jesus came to earth as a man to be acquanted with our grief, pains and sorrows. He completely understands! I know God would like to use me to help others in pain as well.

    Satan is using his oppression and causing disappointment and grief in my life so that I can’t be a worker for the Lord and I’m getting really sick of Satan. He reminds me of a bully that is relentless at hurting and destroying. Paul couldn’t have said it better than Satan..”Steals, kills and destroys!”

    Thanks Claire! God Bless you!


  • Jake says:

    Thankyou for this clip.

  • Claire Colvin Claire Colvin says:

    Sherry, That sounds awful. Do you have any support in your life right now? You mentioned that you have sought help in the past, are you seeing a counsellor currently? I wonder if they could help with the nightmares. If you’d like to talk to someone privately, you can use this form to request a mentor. It sounds like you’re dealing with a lot, too much perhaps to carry on your own. Do you have a support system of any kind? Any friends of family who are there for you?

    I think the fact that you can still feel the hatred and bitterness when it creeps up is actually a good thing. Not that the feelings are there – that’s not good – but you notice them, they’re not there all the time and they are not what you want. I think that there is some hope in that.

    This might sound weird, but have you wondered if there is a spiritual component to what you are experiencing? I am not someone who expects to see demons in dark corners, but I do believe that angels and demons exist and as I read your comment the feelings, the pain, the nightmares…. I kept thinking that it sounds like you’re being attacked. I don’t know if you’ve ever had any contact with the occult and I am certainly no expert, but it just… it kinda sounds like that. If you think that could be part of your story I’d encourage you to find a pastor that you trust and pray with them. I don’t know if you have a faith background, but it’s something to consider.

  • Sherry says:

    I am in tears! I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for this short film. This young girl reminds me of myself, even to this very day. I have had things that have heppened to me in the past that are like an every lasting tape recorder that never shuts off and effects me emotionally and spiritually in so many ways. At times it is so hard for me to function because of the dysfunction in my own personal life. I can absolutely relate to this girl, even though I’m much older than her.
    I have been in psychiatric wards for past traumas that have happened to me and no matter how much I pray and trust God, the pain never truly goes away. It has affected my relationships with the people around me and I have major trust issues with others. Constantly questioning motives of others, when there may not even be any at all. I feel torn up inside and try ways to shut out the pain… like the girl in the video.
    I try so hard to be accepted by others, but no matter what I try, nothing ever works. It feels like daggers stabbing me in the heart and my brain never shuts out lifes events and I have grown cold towards those who have hurt me and have held grudges against them.
    Everyday, I feel hatred and bitterness creep up inside me, which scares me to death. I feel alone and tired emotionally. Often when I go to bed I expreience horrible nightmares. The pain never ends. My head is screaming inside!

  • Gracy says:

    Is that how Jesus is with us?

  • Pauline says:

    O.M.G! What a powerful message. Jesus wants to heal us. To restore us. Take our pain. But, many people , like the young woman in the video, dont know about this mighty love, or the price Jesus paid on the cross for us. He helps us to forgive others, then, to forgive ourselves. Awesome!

  • Kay says:

    replace the word Forgetfulness with Forgiveness, forgiving yourself and forgiving loved ones

  • Vinh says:

    i didn’t quite understand the video at first but when the ending came around i underst?od it completely…
    Very witty and creative…

  • mary rouru says:

    i need a used car to help my Pastor visit hospitals, nursing, shut-in’s. Our Pastor has problems with his left knee , and can’t walk the long hallway’s .
    unable to get to around without a car, I pray that someone will please help me in this Ministry.

    God Bless You

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