Why Trust is Worth It
Media thanks to Ze Frank
You’ve probably participated in trust exercises at school or work. Maybe you’ve crowd-surfed at a concert. Had a piggy-back ride. Taken a bite from someone else’s fork. These things all take a certain amount of physical trust and vulnerability, even if you don’t realize it in the moment. Hesitation before someone offers you that bite or assurance that they can carry your weight is a moment of quiet calculation. Is this person trustworthy, even in something as small as directing a fork to my mouth? Whether you grab at that handle yourself to guide their hand or leave it alone; whether you kick that foot out backwards to catch yourself or let go completely in a ‘trust fall,’ speaks loudly of your relationship with a person. If you trust them in these small things, bigger things will come more easily in your relationship. If you don’t, trust in other things may seem impossible.
Ze Frank (YouTube personality and TED Talk speaker) offers some insight into the importance of trust with the help of Cirque Du Soleil acrobats Alya and Gael.
We talk about trust as something you build, as if it’s a structure or a thing, but in that building there seems to be something about letting go. And what it affords us is a luxury. It allows us to stop thinking, to stop worrying that someone won’t catch us if we fall, to stop constantly scanning for inconsistencies, to stop wondering how other people act when they’re not in our presence. It allows us to relax a part of our minds so that we can focus on what’s in front of us. And that’s why it’s such a tragedy when it’s broken.
So, who do you trust? And how can you grow it?