Sex And Love

I Proposed With A Goat (She said yes!)

Exactly 5 years ago I asked Olive to marry me. Rather than popping the question with a diamond ring, I planned to propose to her with a goat. It wasn’t a pet goat for her to keep in the yard and take for walks; it was a goat to give away to a family in need. It was what she wanted, and it’s one of the reasons I wanted to spend the rest of my...

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Forgiveness Is Not A Feeling
Forgiveness Is Not A Feeling

Learning to forgive is CRITICAL to building a healthy marriage. We’ve only had “little” offenses to forgive each other on this first year, but I’m not going to kid myself that “little” hurts are all that’ll ever touch our marriage.  Even so, in this first year I’ve had plenty of opportunities to practice forgiveness (and so has my...

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I Just Called To Say “I Love You”
I Just Called To Say "I Love You"

Don and Jen's love story started at a pool in Vancouver. After their first date he called her everyday, right around lunch time, just to see how she was. When he proposed she said yes right away. Not long after their first child was born, things got a bit more complicated. Don grew angry and Jen withdrew. They separated and two years later their...

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New Baby, Distant Husband
New Baby, Distant Husband

Do you feel abandoned? Our mentors are here for you. Request a mentor today. “Ever since I had the baby, my husband has been distant.” In the midst of all the excitement of new baby, especially the first baby, you rarely hear expectant parents talking about how this child will change their marriage. Babies are wonderful, let’s be...

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The Power of Sorry
The Power of Sorry

“Love means never having to say you’re sorry.” Do you remember that saccharine line from the famous 1970 movie Love Story?  It sounded icky to us then, and it sounds icky to us now. If you came of age under the spell of that cloying mantra, we’d like to set the record straight once and for all: it’s a big fat lie that has nothing...

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How to Be Happily Married
How to Be Happily Married

Neil Josephson has been married for over 30 years.  He’s discovered that the biggest challenge in his marriage hasn’t been any of the circumstances that he and his wife have faced.   The biggest threat to being happily married is being selfish. He says, “Here’s what I realized: I could continue to be selfish, or I could be happily married....

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Why Do I Struggle with Sexual Intimacy?
Why Do I Struggle with Sexual Intimacy?

There’s another way your abuse could be impacting you and that’s in your enjoyment and desire for sex with your spouse. In addition to the ways sexual abuse damages our bodies, spirits and emotions, sexual abuse also damages our view of sex. When we’ve been used for others’ sexual pleasure the experience becomes associated with a negative...

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How Do I Know if I Need Healing?
How Do I Know if I Need Healing?

Sometimes we can feel a certain way for so long that it starts to feel normal, comfortable even. It becomes so familiar that we stuff down that nagging thought that we should do something about our struggles. The process of healing can seem scarier than what we’re experiencing now. I met a woman at a retreat who began to share with me that her...

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