How to Write a Love Letter

Written by Claire Colvin

loveletterWhat could be more romantic than receiving a love letter? A good old fashioned, hand-written love letter is still one of the best Valentines around, but don’t just save it for February. A love letter is a powerful expression any day of the year.

You don’t have to be Shakespeare to write the perfect love letter. All you need to know is how you feel. What makes a love letter so romantic is that it is deeply personal. It shows your beloved how well you know them, and that knowledge is the very stuff of love.

All you need to get started is a pen and some decent stationary. Use thick card stock rather than stationary with roses and cupids around the edges. The recipient is probably going to keep this letter for a long time. Writing on heavy card stock will help it last.  (You can find paper like this at scrap booking stores and some office supply outlets.)

As you are writing be specific. Tell him exactly how he makes you feel and what he does that makes you feel that way. Write in the second person ( use “you” ) so that your letter speaks directly to him. Before you start writing, take a few moments to think about your beloved.

The following questions can help to get your thoughts going:

  • What is his greatest strength?
  • What do you see in him that he doesn’t see in himself?
  • What is the most romantic thing he has ever done for you?
  • What does he do on a regular basis that shows you he cares about you?
  • When did you fall in love with him?
  • What about him pleasantly surprised you?
  • What is your favorite memory of the two of you?
  • How has your world changed since you got together?

You can start your letter anyway you like as long as you include his name. You don’t have to be super-mushy right from the start, a simple “Dear _____” works well. Begin your letter with a very specific quality that you appreciate about him. Make the sentence exclusive – for example “I’ve never met anyone as _______ as you” or “No one has ever made me feel as____ as you do when you ____” Starting out this way shows him that he ranks higher than anyone else in your books – a great way to start a love letter.

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As you write, tell him exactly how you feel. Use specific examples that show that you’ve been paying attention. Remind him of the things he has done that really meant something to you. Share a favorite memory and a hope for the future. Don’t forget to say “I love you.” It doesn’t matter how long or short your letter is, as long as it’s sincere.

There’s no rule that says you have to use poetry in a love letter, but if you’re stumped finding just the right words, one or two carefully chosen lines can work really well. If you don’t have a poem in mind, there’s a lot to choose from online. If you want to use something other than the usual classics, I highly recommend “Dance Me to the End of Love” by Leonard Cohen.

Once your letter is complete, read it over carefully and check for errors. This letter will be read over and over. You don’t want a mistake spoiling the mood.If you want to add an extra special touch, seal the envelope with wax. Sealing kits are available at most fine stationary stores, but a regular taper candle in a dark color works just as well. Simply light the candle and carefully drip a small puddle of wax about the size of a quarter over the flap.

Once the letter is complete, drop it in the mail and wait for a great response. If you’re lucky, you just might get a love letter yourself.

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41 Responses to “How to Write a Love Letter”

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  • beth shratz says:

    I’m so badly in love we like each other but were scared to ask

    he came to my house before Christmas and he kissed me on the cheek so I kissed him back
    I love joe

  • beth shratz says:

    I love a boy in my form were both in yr7 and at our old school we held hands and hes agnoring me we guve each other presents like chocolates I want to talk to him and get his no how

  • Chris says:

    arjalee robinson….i would be very cautious if i were you about getting too close too soon so you dont get hurt when a possible break up happens. the only way to know if this person is sent by jesus for you is to be a true christian yourself to know and understand Gods will. you can log onto or click talk to a mentor above to find out more on how to allow jesus help you make the right decisions in life, blessings!

  • My boyfriend and i been dating for like 2 and a half weeks now. Before we started dating we were very good friends before. We have hugged and said i love you already but we never hang out. I wanna to improve out relationship but dont know how to? HELP!!!!!!!!!

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    Hi Kerstine, in most cases, it is not appropriate for instructors to develop a relationship with their students. Many educational institutions have regulations about such relationships. I would suggest that you wait until you are no longer a student and then approach him about developing a relationship.

  • Kerstine says:

    I need suggestions. I admire my instructor and I want to make a letter for him this coming valentines day. But, I won’t let him know that I am the sender because he knows me. Is it appropriate to give a letter? Thanks

  • dream says:

    Yesha. .. you are married, he is married. Express your love to your husband not other person. That’s adultery. If you play with fire you can get hurt and loose everything.

  • Yesha says:

    I am in love with a man from many years as per as what I have seen even he liked me after one year I got married with other person he got married first before I get married he married other girl but after that I am calling him on his mobile messaging him on whatsapp even he is taking to me good but the problem is I am not understanding how to express my love to him ,but he knows I love him even now I also told him many times I love him I am also telling him to marrie me because I cannot stay without him even now I am staying far from my husband though I am staying with my husband I also told my boyfriend that but I am not able to understand how is the tricks and the way to express my true love to that boyfriend I am feeling it different please help me out to express my true feelings to my boyfriend I like to express my love feeling to him but I don’t know how they do please help me

  • Sharon says:

    to Vannah nice name for me I think its a good idea to write this guy on his feelings if you don’t feel comfortable asking him– I am praying for you– sharon

  • Vannah says:

    Okay I need help so I like this guy and he’s younger then me he just turned 14 in oct. well two or three years ago I got dared by my friend to ask my crush out and he was my crush and so he said yes and then he broke up with me that night :/ anyway I’m turning 16 next month and I still rlly love him like I wanna believe that he was and is my only first love but the bad thing is he don’t like me that way I just need to know if writing a letter to him and askin him if he feels that same or what feelings he does have for me please I need help!!!!

  • Sharon says:

    good comments thank you for good postings

  • Aldo says:

    You’re welcome, DSJ. Hope those sites can help.

  • vikash Kumar says:

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  • DSJ says:

    Thanks for the reply Aldo. She know’s my intentions are honorable and I definitely show it through actions as well. Still unsure why she choose to stop dating. Thanks for your advice. I will definitely check out the websites below.

  • Aldo says:

    DSJ, I believe that you love this young lady, seeing that you truly adore her. If that is the case, your intentions toward her ought to be honorable. She may suspect different, and therefore wants to cut off dating.

    If you really want to sweep her off her feet, make your intentions known to her, and not only with words, but with actions as well. Flowers, chocolates, gifts, maybe even a ring.

    I have included a few websites below where you will find How-to’s for writing Friendly Letters.
    You can also do your own search if you want them to be Love Letters.

  • DSJ says:

    There’s a young lady I truly adore. We were dating for six months, then she said she did’t want to date anymore. She said a few reasons why. But, I ultimately believe it’s because she’s afraid of commitment. So, we continue to “hang out” now (Doing the same thing we did when we dated… just not dating). I would like to do something to keep her off balance and eventually sweep her off her feet. So, I thought about writing love letters. But, technically… This isn’t love and I don’t want to scare her off. Looking for some help. I want to write letters every now and then. But, I guess… How should I go about them? Thanks for your advice in advance.

  • Tia Glenn-Cooke Tia Glenn-Cooke says:

    Hi Matt – Why not both? :)
    I think it’s important for you to acknowledge those great things in her, and I think it will mean a lot to her that you see her that way and really appreciate her gifts and sacrifices and love. And then express your care for her.
    Hopefully this will be healing for you and that you can move forward in your relationship again or receive clarity about what’s best for the two of you.

  • Matt says:


    I have some questions about what to write in a love & appreciate in letter to a girl I dated & lived with until November when she moved out and broke up with me due to a bunch of bad & mostly incorrect rumors her friends created. I’ve forgiven her leaving me and moving out while I was at work which is not my normal nature. We have been through more serious life events in the last 2 years then most couples go through in 20 years or maybe ever and we make it through all of them.

    Its been 3 months now since she left and we’ve never stopped talking, texting or seeing each other. I’m to the point where all of this has made me realize how much I love this girl and want nothing more in life then to get back together in a relationship but one thats much better then how we were.

    I’ve been texting her how I feel a lot and we both agree we still love each other very much. I feel that I have said exactly how I feel over and over again so don’t know if I should reiterate all of the same in the letter I write. Should I focus more on recognizing what she’s done for me, all the sacrifices she’s made and times she;s stood my my side or focus on expressing how much I love and care for her?

    Any help you can provide will be so appreciated that words aren’t enough to convey or express my gratitude!

  • Neal says:

    Thank you for a wonderful idea of retaining the future. As a professional poet I usually write mine inside of a hallmark card but this is much more personal. After thirty-five years of marriage my wife likes to know that things are still as good as they were from they one.

    Mine are not mushy but are reminiscent of things that we have done in the past that have brought us joy.

    Thanks for the idea.

    God Bless/

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  • Sharon says:

    we my husband amd me love to text so we can text our love for each other love letters text is good too

  • Yes, say exactly how you feel. Don’t use big words or worry about tripping up! This year I put a spin on Valentine’s Day and decided to surprise influential people in my past with “love” letters or letters of appreciation, noting exactly how they had impacted my life and what it means to me today. I shared it in “Love Letters to Life Leaders” at InspiredMinute. Love letters need to make a come back and thanks for doing your part to help!!!

  • siri says:

    how to write the letter

  • Kate says:

    “This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters.” 1 John 3:16

  • Venu Gopal says:

    great advice… by following your advice I wrote a 20 page love letter. She is my co teacher and about leave my office within a month.. when I gave my letter she began to cry and gave a great and hot hug…. Thank U

  • Amadu says:

    This site is truly inspiring!!!

  • Claire Colvin Claire Colvin says:

    Jennifer, Be careful. Work relationships are tricky. They’re certainly not impossible, but they require special handling because more people are involved. Unless you keep the relationship entirely secret it will affect the other people you work with, whether that’s your intention or not. How closely do you work together? Are you in different departments of the same company or do you work side by side? How comfortable are you mixing your private life with your work life?

    No one wants to think about the end of a relationship at the beginning of one, but when it comes to workplace romances you do need to think about that. What happens if this does not end well? Would you be willing to quit your job if it became too uncomfortable to see him and work with him every day?

    Workplace issues aside, you ask an excellent question, “is this a great idea?” For that you need to look at your current situation. You said that this is someone you’ve known for a long time, that’s a great start. It doesn’t sound like you’re rushing into things. You mentioned that you’re friends and that ” it is obvious that there are feelings involved in our friendship”. My question to you is this: is it as obvious to him as it is to you? Generally speaking, if a guy wants to ask you out, he’ll ask you out. I have never yet met a guy who didn’t ask someone out because he “didn’t want to risk the friendship”. That seems to be something that exists in women’s brains but not in men’s.

    Is there some other reason why he would not have pursued a romantic relationship with you up to this point? Were you unavailable? Was he unavailable? Was there a misunderstanding? Have your needs or his needs changed? If there was something that was in the way before that is no longer in the way then yes it might be a great idea to tell him that now that things are different, you’re interested. However, if nothing has changed, if you’ve both been available and he has made no move toward you then it may simply be because he sees you as a friend and not as a potential girlfriend.

    I would suggest starting with something a little less risky than a love letter. Ask him out for coffee instead. Friends go out for coffee, so do co workers. Spend some time with him and see how the conversation goes. You should be able to get a better feel for what he’s thinking. If you think he’s interested, ask him to dinner.

    Love is always a risk, but declaring your love right off the bat is a huge risk with a lot of potential for embarrassment, especially since this is someone you see every day. Start small but deliberate and see where the day takes you. Love letters almost always work best in the context of a committed relationship.

  • jennifer says:

    i work with this guy who is also a family friend and for years now we have been going back and forth and it is obvious that there are feelings involved in our friendship i want to write him a letter telling him how i feel about but dont know if its a great idea and dont know where to begin…

  • Doris Beck Doris says:

    Most people do not know the person that they are going to marry at the age of 16. If you have only been on one date and he has now moved away and isn’t communicating with you, then it is pretty sure that he doesn’t feel the same as you. If he did then he would be in touch with you. Sending him a love letter would definitely NOT be a good idea.

    One of the reasons that people don’t often marry the person that they think they are in love with at 16 is because they still have so much growing up to do and will change a lot before adulthood. With each life experience we encounter we change and our perspective changes as well.

  • Danica says:

    I am 16 and i believe God has shown me the man I am supposed to marry. I think I am ready but i dont know if he is. I want to write him a love letter to tell him how i feel about him. We have been on one date to prom, and it was amazing. However, when i moved away we became 4 hours apart and I dont know if he feels the same anymore. I have known him since first grade and I think i love him honestly. Do you think a love letter would work?

  • Sharon says:

    good article, thanks

  • Mel says:

    This is helpful. Thank you for posting this. :D

  • Sharon says:

    hi kamal– if this girl is 15, don’t you think that is rather young to marry, it is done, what does her parents think about this mariage do they agree for you both to marry. prayer–God i pray for this couple, give them confiramtion whether to marry ornot or to wait a year or so. are youboth in school yet, i would wait until the schooling is done before getting married.

  • Kamal says:

    Can you please help me?? Writing a love letter to porpose a girl I like. I m 16 & she is 15 years old.Please Email me a sample of love letter to porpose a girl [ed’s note: Email removed as it is our policy not to publish contact information.] if that is possible.. Looking forward to get a reply as soon as possible..

  • eden says:

    i wrote a love letter to my husband and that made us stronger when i was in primary

  • Zion says:

    Really i need a help not comment.
    I need exaples of love letters,letter to apply for friendship,how to attract girls.Please anyone that can help should send it my [email address removed].

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