Creating Affection, Warmth and Encouragement

Are you proactive or reactive? Proactive people take positive steps forward to change the circumstances. Reactive people are shaped by their circumstances.

Are you a thermometer or a thermostat? A thermometer reads the temperature. A thermostat changes the temperature. Make a definite choice this week to be the leader in creating affection, warmth and encouragement.

Experiment: Choose one thing you can do EACH day this week. Ask yourself the following:

How can I be more affectionate? Maybe it’s a hug, a kiss or holding hands during the day.

How do I communicate warmth? Maybe it’s saying thank you; expressing appreciation for things you take for granted.

How can I be more encouraging? Are you looking at the glass half empty? Tell your spouse one thing you like about him/her each day. Examples: That shirt looks good on you. I like your hair that way. You are a hard worker. You are a good parent. That is a good idea!

Discuss Reactive/Proactive and Thermometer/Thermostat: Which are you?

Suggested Resource: Creating an Intimate Marriage, by Jim Burns