Dealing with Doubts

February 12, 2014

I remember having a fleeting thought on my honeymoon, “Maybe I married the wrong person.” Later my bride put that same thought into words!

That was over 30 years ago. You might be asking, “What preserved a marriage that had such doubts?”

We discovered that even in the best marriages, everyone has doubts sooner or later. Doubts are normal. They come as we discover things about our relationship or the other person that we did not know. These surprises make us question our relationship. But what we do with the doubts is absolutely crucial. We decided that each doubt, problem or conflict would be a building block, not a stumbling stone in our relationship. We also determined we would always work through the issues. It has not been easy, and I cannot say that there have not been moments of despair but each time we made it through another problem it added strength, character and resiliency to our relationship.

Action  Make the commitment:
Resolve together that you will commit to working through your doubts, problems and conflicts, not allowing them to be stumbling stones in your relationship. Affirm your commitment to each other.