Andrea Shair
Andrea Shair is a Business Specialist at a transportation company. But otherwise she's a reader, blogger, artist, learning guitarist, occasional decorator, aspiring foodie and dreamer of world travels. And always a child of God.
“I Want an Elephant”
Are you experiencing financial concerns? We are here to listen. “On the day the Lord gave the Amorites over to Israel, Joshua said to the Lord in the presence of Israel: ‘O sun, stand still over Gibeon, O moon, over the Valley of Aijalo.’ So the sun stood still, and the moon stopped, till the nation avenged itself onits […] Read More >
5 Apologies That Always Work
My husband is very good at apologizing. It’s not that I don’t apologize. Admitting when you’re wrong is hard but I always do it when I believe I’m wrong. It’s that the way I apologize doesn’t get received as being sincere. I’m working on getting better at apologizing and this is what I’ve learned so […] Read More >
Anger: Definitive vs Distorted
I will apologize for doing something I believe is wrong. It’s a great start however this is problematic if I didn’t see anything wrong with my action but my spouse does. Or vice versa. Has that happened to anyone? We learned a few principles to help sort this out at an anger workshop lead by […] Read More >
Being in Love Isn’t Enough
Right before I got married I read Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married by Gary Chapman. There is a great list of “flags” to go through in conversation with your significant other before, and even after, you marry. I believe most sources of conflict in marriage can be worked out so I […] Read More >
Forgiveness Is Not A Feeling
Learning to forgive is CRITICAL to building a healthy marriage. We’ve only had “little” offenses to forgive each other on this first year, but I’m not going to kid myself that “little” hurts are all that’ll ever touch our marriage. Even so, in this first year I’ve had plenty of opportunities to practice forgiveness (and […] Read More >
Just A Little Crush?
Crushes…they seem so innocent… “aw, a little crush”. Crushes are innocent, but only if you’re not committed to anyone else. If you are, and especially if you’re married, that “little crush” is dangerous. Not the “Ooo, I like dangerous” variety, but “warning bells, amber flashing lights and florescent pylons around an abyss that will leave you […] Read More >
Married? Stop Keeping Score
It’s been just over a year since I got married. I’ve been reflecting over this first year of marriage that everyone has cautioned could be one of the hardest years we’ll ever go through. What were the hardest parts? I can only speak for myself, but for me the hardest thing is to stop keeping […] Read More >
Reconnect. Rebuild. Repeat.
It takes time to build a new community of friends and right now, I’m tired, my heart is burdened and I’m a little sad. I don’t want to wait to meet new people. There are things I want to share right now, thoughts I’d like to bounce around. I feel like I don’t know who […] Read More >
Romantic Love Has Two Stages
Before I got married I knew that there were two stages of love I just wasn’t sure how it worked. I knew there was a difference between the “over the moon” swooning and butterflies honeymoon phase of a relationship, and the deep, sustaining quality of love that lasts through the decades. I had witnessed both […] Read More >
Solving Disagreements Without Arguing
I bet everyone wishes they knew the answer to this one. Before diving into the topic of conflict, one thing to understand about conflict is that it’s absolutely normal and to be expected in the marital relationship. Conflict doesn’t happen because you’re married to the wrong person; conflict happens because you’re human. One of the […] Read More >
