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Take a deep breath: You will survive, you are not alone and it has happened to someone else, there is hope. You feel like your world is out of control right now and it probably is. Remember it won’t stay this way forever. Think of another time you felt overwhelmed, what did you do to handle it in a healthy way? We all handle stress differently some need to talk; some need a quiet walk, others write, you may exercise. Stay away from negative ways of handling stress. Consider your best go to response to handle stress and make sure you build this into your life.
Get help: We all need help at times. Help is not a sign of weakness, but strength. Make sure to reach out for help when you need it. Find a pastor, trusted friend, or mentor and ask for help. Let them know you are hurting and what you need from them. If your crisis is severe, you may need them to get you to the right help, counselor, coach, intervention etc. Often in severe crisis making simple decisions is overwhelming, much less making big decisions. Make sure this person is wise and makes good choices.
Help comes in many forms: a meal, someone to talk to, someone to remind you of a different perspective, a gift, (money or food), a place to stay, babysitting and many others. You need help now so accept that from someone who cares. If you have a home church this is a good starting place. If you do not go to church we can connect you with one of our mentors who will help give your some guidance on-line.
Focus on now: What needs to be done today? Don’t focus on the long term, focus on today, if that is too overwhelming, focus on the next hour. What can you do today? The thing about today is that we have enough energy for now, not enough to figure out the future and all the different scenarios. “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. “(Mathew 6:34 )
Control your emotions: It is VERY easy to let emotions make your decisions in a time of crisis. Use your emotions as an indicator rather than a decision maker. Emotions are important as they are a barometer of what is going on, that being said, they can greatly lead in the wrong directions if left untamed or shut out. So the bottom line is, don’t ignore emotions but don’t let them rule your life and decisions.
Make a plan: What needs to be done immediately? Is physical safety an issue? Can you function? Do kids need caring for? Make a plan, you may need someone who cares to help with a plan. Educating yourself about your specific crisis may be part of your plan. Know what you are dealing with, but don’t assume worst case scenario.
Understand the problem. It is important to realize that every marriage or family problem involves at least two people: you and the other person. How might you have contributed to the problem? How might you need to change? What attitudes and actions need to be addressed? The more you understand the problem, and how to address it, the better prepared you are. Remember Proverbs 24:3, “By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established.”
Be comforted: Prayer and God’s word can be very comforting in crisis. Prayer is a big help. You are not alone, God cares about you and your situation. If you are facing a difficult time in your life we would love the opportunity to pray for you.
Requests sent to us will not be posted on the website. All requests will be mailed out to our prayer team, and a prayer mentor may respond to you. Whenever possible we pray for these requests within a day of receiving them. If we receive a lot of requests, a quick response time may not be possible, but we will be praying for you.
“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things. The things you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.” (Philippians 4:6-9)
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I am going through a spritual crisis. I grew up in the church, and I know the bible. I was even a pray warrior with my friend for 10 years. I saw God do amazing things. However, I feel that soemtimes the prayers for myself are overlooked. I even feel bad writing this, but I want to be real with God and myself. God has blessed me with talents, that I want to use for Him, but sometimes when I try and go through a various doors they keep slamming or just not working out. I am living overseas right now. One of those goals is to open a school. I had this dream since I was 7 years old. I even try to put this thought out of my mind, because maybe its not God’s will. However, it still a very present and keeps appearing. Right now. I just don’t know what to do. I don’t if I should return back to the States, stay hear forget about everything. I am lost! Praying for guidance, hope, and change. I am tired.
Janie
Dear Janie,
I know what it’s like to feel like everyone else’s prayers get answered but yours. From my own life experience I have come to the conclusion that the Lord may have given me talents, but that MY vision of how to use those talents or MY dream or wish for something, no matter how innocent or good, may not be what GOD’S plan is for me at this time. It may be that I have to learn some things or be refined a little or become responsibile enough to handle what I think I want. Or He has something else for me to do. The hard part comes when we lay down OUR dreams at HIS feet and say, “Not my will but thine.” It hurts to do that. Look at St. Paul. He was blessed with being from a tribe of priests, a great education, a protege of Gamaliel, on his way to being if not already being a member of the Sanhedrin, a great seat in the temple, on the fast track to pillar of society success in those days and look what happened. A Damascus road experience, conversion, and the next thing you know he’s making tents, being shipwrecked, getting scourged, imprisoned. Not the stuff of dreams. But God used Paul’s education and talents to write 13(!!) books of the Bible and Saul becomes St. Paul, a pillar of the church. At some point in time there was a process where Saul had to relinquish what were his expectations for his life and choose to go where God led him. Stormie Omartian, a Christian author of women’s books, started out as a singer and actress and loved performing. God closed all of those doors in her life and led her to writing, and I know the impact she’s had on my walk with Lord is greater and more profound than if I had watched her act. God says His ways are not our ways. Keep on praying and asking for direction. I bet you’ll be amazed. God bless you, sister! Win.