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Babies.
Nope, we’re not pregnant, nor planning on being pregnant ANYTIME soon. (God willing.) But this is the main thing we have been asked about since we got married. “When are you having a little Jason? When do we get to meet a mini Brittany?” I must confess…I have been the one asking those questions.
We all love babies. We love the way they smile in their sleep, and giggle and cuddle – the list goes on. Babies are a gift from God. I was reading in a book by Darlene Zschech, she talks about how babies are “the kiss of heaven”. So true. So what do you in between the wedding day and the day you find out there is a little baby growing inside of you?
Enjoy this new love that has taken over life
Anyone that truly knows me, knows how much I love kids – babies, toddlers, children, tweens, preteens, and teens. I love young adults, and adults too. Looks like I’ll be in luck once the babies come. I enjoy people in all stages of life. Basically, I love life, and life has become all the more beautiful since getting married. So even though I can’t wait to be a mommy, and share that gift with the love of my life, I want to enjoy today.
I was sitting on the couch this morning, after spending an hour studying for my History of Israel final. I was just flipping through the channels thinking there is NOTHING on this morning. Nothing good on Regis and Kelly, nor The View. The house was cleaned all last week, so I really just need to tidy. I had scanned through all updates on Facebook. We had yummy left-overs so even dinner was taken care of.
I was thinking about how on this day off, it would be so fun taking care of a sweet little angel. There I go again, always looking ahead and wanting what is supposed to happen in the future while not being content with today.
I decided to blog, to ponder the reality of the whirlwind of being a newlywed. It stops every so often, just enough for me to think about the babies. Yet these are the moments where I am reminded to be so thankful for what I am given today. Everything else will happen when the time is right.
This is for you other newlyweds that are often asked about babies: just enjoy today. Enjoy your role as a wife, taking care of the home when you have time in-between work. Spend time with your husband. How cool is that? Today, is a glorious day. No matter what day it is.
Today is a good day
As we wake up in the morning, we need to soak in the beauty of the morning and the reality that we get to live for our God today. We need to bless the people we come into contact with. This goes for everyone. Yes, I am speaking to the newlyweds this morning, because there seems to be so much fun pressure to have babies and get that life going! Yet, there is SO much to be learned today. I know there is so much to be learned once babies come, and learning never ends.
I want to enjoy being a new wife, enjoy my husband, and the freedom we have today. This isn’t for those that seem to ask when we are going to get pregnant. This is for me to remind myself to slow down anytime that maternal desire starts to poke at me deep in my heart. This is for me to remember that God has perfect timing, and that I want to take life one step at a time.
It’s been quite the year of transition for Jason and I. There were some incredible mountains to climb and yet, with God, we climbed them. Now I want to soak in the sunshine. I want to continue enjoying the “in-between”. What a beautiful place to be.
What a blessing it is to be able to have a day with such freedom like today, with no little man needing attention, or little princess needing even more. Those blessings, those kisses from heaven may come in time, if God chooses. I don’t want to waste a single day of the in between. I want to run after what God has for me, for Jason and I, today.
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This was a wonderful article that really spoke to me and was a blessing to me!! I too, am a newlywed. I got married in November and we are frequently asked the question as to when we are going to have children. I admit that even more recently when I see a baby or hear about someone being pregnant, my maternal desires come into play and I start “toying” with the idea of having a baby and whatnot. I think that I have started thinking this way even moreso because I am currently working on a Ph.D. and I know that I need to wait until I’m finished with school before starting a family and my husband and I may be waiting another 3 or 4 years before having a baby. With children being in the future and that being so far away, sometime I get a little anxious because I truly desire to be a mother one day. But as this article pointed out, “there is so much to be learned today, be thankful for what I am given today, take life one step at a time. Everything will happen in due time according to God’s perfect plan. It’s important to enjoy the moment.
It’s definitely good to enjoy life with you and your spouse (we had our first after 3 years of marriage), but God also gives you maternal urges for a reason! Being a younger mother myself, I highly recommend starting your family before you get too old as it takes a lot of energy and you get more tired the older you get : ) It’s an interesting trend in society with people having children later, but I hear so often about couples not being able to have children or it taking a long time to make it happen, so there are some good reasons why we shouldn’t wait too long to start a family. And when you do have kids, enjoy the time you have with them while they are young (spend their young years at home if you can) as they grow up so fast and you will miss so many wonderful moments if you put all your energy into accumulating money/houses etc. instead of spending time with them!
Stacy-such a blessing to read your affirming words this morning. First off, it’s just awesome to be able to encourage others through the world of blogging, but also to be blessed by your responses! Thanks for taking the time to share how similar you are feeling, helps remind me that I’m not alone!
A-:) I really appreciated your response as well. That’s exactly the way I feel, yet I have to remind myself that I’m only 22:) In a few years, I hope and pray babies will come our way. Thanks for your wisdom. Just makes me look forward to the time I get to spend as a stay at home wife in the near future. I sure agree with you about not waiting too long to start a family. I want to be a young Mom too. But first on the to do list-finish my last year of University!
Be blessed you two, thanks for reading my blog and sending such encouraging feedback. I really appreciate it!
The tone of this article is very odd-having a child was the worst thing to happen in my marriage. Our son is only 9 weeks old and the whole process has done irreparable damage to my marriage and caused both us an extreme amount of anger, resentment, and sheer exhaustion. We had three great years of dating, 4 of marriage, and I feel like its all going in the toilet with this baby. I see only women responded here-I have a message for the men. Having kids is a great way to kill your marriage,sex life, and your soul.
John, I’m so sorry to hear about your experience. I think that every man has to make huge sacrifices when a new baby comes. It is very hard on a woman’s body and for some women it is also very emotionally taxing, so it’s hard to have anything left to give your husband when you are totally exhausted and the baby is your first priority. I know my husband has had to take the backseat to the babies, but it is not forever and I know your wife appreciates your sacrifices and your support through the baby stage of life. It might help to hang out with some buddies that have been in this stage of life to help encourage you and give you hope for the things to come. If you can get through this stage your wife will eventually become your best friend again and your son will admire and respect you for working through things and making the best of a hard situation. Take care!