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The bonding of sex is not only physical, but also spiritual, emotional and mental which includes the chemical and hormonal bonding that happens. Although we’d like to believe that breaking up and moving on severs that bond, in truth, only God can sever the ‘one flesh’ bond He’s created through sex.
1. Ask God to bring to mind everyone that you’ve created a sexual bond with—voluntarily or involuntarily. Wait quietly, allowing God to bring names to memory.
2. Write down on a piece of paper the name of every person. If you don’t know it, write a description of the person or event.
3. Ask God to show you His perspective of each bond. If the bond was created through your own choice, ask God to show you why you participated, and the part you played. If the bond was created through someone else’s choice forced on you, ask God to show you how that event affected you.
4. Pray that your heart will be humbled and your spirit contrite (Psalm 51:17) so that you will experience true repentance.Please note: If you’re praying for someone who’s sexually abused or raped you, you do not need to ask forgiveness for your violation of that person, because he or she violated you. However, you still need to ask God to sever the negative bond that has been created with this person.
5. Pray the following prayer with each name or incident:
“Lord, I ask forgiveness for sinning against you and against my own body. In the name of Jesus, I sever and renounce the bonds I created with _____. I release my heart tie with this person physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I choose by faith to forgive _______ for their violation against me. Please forgive me of my violation against _______. Please remove the negative emotional baggage I’ve been carrying around with me. Restore to me a virgin heart—as though I’d never been with this person, and heal me completely of the damage this sin has caused me and my marriage. Thank you for your forgiveness. I accept it fully. Amen.”
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I never realized that the sexual abuse that I had experienced carried bonds…thank you for letting me know how to deal with those bonds… Jesus bless us…
Isn’t it good to know that God not only heals our sins against others but also the sins that others have committed against us? All the hurts and baggage that comes along with the hurt, God takes it all and uses it for our benefit and his glory (Romans 8:28)
Lord God I pray for Meilka as she works through with Your Holy Spirit how to break the lasting impact of the sexual abuse that she has experienced. I pray that You would work miraculously in her heart so that those wounds are healed and she is able to freely love those that You bring into her life. I thank You for the freedom that we experience in Christ Jesus who set the perfect example for us of what it means to forgive. Be the strength Meilka needs in order to see Christ do that through her. Thank You for Your trustworthiness and Your goodness to us all. Amen.
Thank you so much for your prayer Jamie…
Isn’t it so awesome to be able to pray for one another even though we have never met face to face? We also have online prayer mentors who volunteer with our site Meilka, and if you would like to have someone pray for you just fill out this form and one of them will be in touch with you. http://powertochange.com/discover/need-prayer/
Thank you for this article and the prayer it contains. A little over a year ago I stupidly chose to have a relationship with a girl I had met, and when I saw it becoming sexual, I didn’t back out even though I knew I should. Instead I chose to participate in it against God’s command, and I have been carrying around the guilt and shame for a long time, for over a year, because of my disobedience and the bonds that were created as a result of the acts. Although I do not hold any hard feelings for her, I pray that she would also find peace and rest in Christ, as she does not know Him on a personal level. If it isn’t too much trouble, please would you pray for me? And also for this girl, whom you can call “AMTK” (her initials). I don’t have contact with her anymore, but she needs the Lord, as we all do. Thank you again, and God bless you all.
@ Steven
Christ does break the bond however often we cling to the guilt as Psalm 51: 2
Wash me clean from my guilt, purify me from my sin. Lord Jesus I ask that Steven will allow you to remove the guilt that he feels as Lord you forgive our sins and forget them but we have a hard time letting go of the guilt. Lord Satan wants us to be ineffective by crippling us with guilt but this is not what you wish for us. As your word says in Psalm 37: 24 Though, they stumble, they will never fall, for the Lord holds them by the hand. I claim this verse for him and Lord Jesus I pray that his former girlfriend will come to know you and that you will bring people into AMTK path who will be a witness to her.
In Jesus Name,
Amen
God Bless
That I remember and asking the Lord to help with my memory I need sexual healing for at least 30 people (men and women) I got in sexual sin with…I had at least 5 abortions and can remember just 1 man who got me pregnant..the others I don’t remember who were the fathers of my baby. I was very promiscous indeed huge baggages. May the Lord restore to me a virgin heart too.
Lord God I thank You for the way that You forgive us. It is an amazing promise that Jesus’ death paid the penalty for all of our sin completely. I thank You that this includes Ana’s sexual sin. Lord I pray for healing in her heart now to deal with the consequences of those sins. I ask that You would set her free from the hurt of broken relationships, from allowing the lives of her unborn babies to be cut short through abortions, and from the emotional distance that comes from multiple sexual partners. Would You restore her heart so that she can love deeply and truly as You created her to do. In Jesus’ name, amen.
Lord give me a virgin heart too,help me forgive my self and those i have sex with. Heal me from sexual dieses of genital warts. Amen.
Lord God I thank too want to thank you for the incredible You way that You forgive us. It is an amazing promise that Jesus’ death paid the penalty for all of our sin completely. His death on the cross and shed blood has made us white as snow. I thank You that this includes Tshifhiwa’s sexual sin. Lord I pray for healing in her heart now to deal with the consequences of those sins. Would You restore her heart so that she can love deeply and truly as You created her to do. In Jesus’ name, amen
Tshifhiwa,
This is an important first step that you have taken. May I encourage you to continue to search eagerly after God’s heart and keep yourself pure.
Hey, am a born again christian struggling with sexual sin of masturbation n fornication. I have so far slept with close to nine girls(not willingly n willingly). But i have a deep desire within me to break every bond n more turn for this bondage of sin. Please pray with me that God will forgive me and give me the grace to overcome.
Dear M,
First, I want to let you know that it is a good thing that you have recognize that you have sinned, that you have a problem with sexual sin, and that you have a deep desire to be set free from such bondage. This confirms that you are a true born again Christian but more importantly that God’s Holy Spirit is at work within you by making know that what you are doing is not proper. You are certainly on the right path to breaking free from such as you confess your sins to God and turn away from your old, fleshly practices. God’s Word says, “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9)
Have you followed the suggestions of writing out your sexual sins (naming the individuals) and seeking forgiveness of such as the writer of this article suggested? The more specific you are in confessing your sins to God the better chance it is for you to be set free from all guilt, shame, and condemnation. Once you ask God for forgiveness of these offenses then you need to ask God to give you help through His Holy Spirit to overcome this area of weakness in your life. Ask God to remove this sinful desire from you so you can live the life He desires you to live.
Do you have a pastor or at least one godly male friend that you can talk to about this issue? The Bible says, when we confess our sins to others then we are healed from such. When we expose hidden sins of darkness to others in the light it begins to loose it’s grip on us and we are able to overcome such and walk the righteous path God desires. You will likely benefit from having an accountability partner for a while as well. See if your church is able to line you up with someone that understands the struggle you are facing.
At this time, I would like to pray for you:
Father God, I thank You Father God that Your Spirit is alive and working within M’s life. I pray for Your beloved son M. whom is struggling with an area of weakness at this time. I pray that Your love, mercy and grace will refresh M as he confesses his sins to you. I pray that Your Holy Spirit will help M to overcome this problem area of sexual sin and masturbation. I pray that You will bring a few godly men into M’s life that will aid him through to the other side of this bondage. Father God, I ask that You set M free from the sin that so easily entangles him. Let not the enemy, enticement from others nor M’s fleshly desires keep M in bondage any more. Father God, If M is struggling with former abuse against his body via others, I ask that you would heal and restore M from such offenses and wounds from the past. Create in M a clean heart and a good conscience as M walks in obedience to Your Word and in step with Your indwelling Spirit. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen
God forgive me for inviting into my marriage the ancient past of my wife’s experiences with her original sexual partners – imagining those experiences and acting out on them. Father, I feel that I’ve grieved your heart and clouded mine and my mind. I desperately need you in every area of my life. Live this Christian life in me, Jesus. Help me to set down permanently all vices/idols that do not glorify you. May I fall in love with you again, Jesus? You are all that satisfies.
jesus, please help me through you to overcome and heal and break the negative ties I have to my childhood sexual abuse that affects my sexual intimacy issues today. please cleanse all the fears, and give me a new fresh vibrant perspective that will save my marriage. please grant forgiveness in his heart.
good article thank you for posting this
I have been born again for 6 months now. Before I had a very high sexual appetite, I even prefered younger guys as they would satisfy these sexual desires. I had sex with woman as well and engaged in internet porn and masturbation when I did not have a partner next to me. I’ve had abortions through all this. Today I ask the Lord to forgive me for all these sins, to wash me clean, purify my soul, to cut the cord that links me to these sexual acts, Lord please forgive me, restore me to a virgin heart as though I’d never been with all these people especially my uncly who used to play with my private parts as a young girl and rub himself on me. This carried on until I was a teenager and I ended up enjoying this and engaging in this act voluntarily. Heal me completely of the damage this has caused me. My cousin who was a girl used to have sex with me when I was a little girl , heal me completely of the damage this has caused me. I as I was initiated into sexual activities at an early age and now I’m always desiring sex, always and always. I have not acted on these desires ever since I got born again but I hate myself and even feel that other people can see right through me. Today I have this desire and its so strong .I thank you for this page as I’m being freed just by confesssing everythng. Please help me pray for healing of this blemish in Jesus Name.
Hi Zimkhita, thank you for your honesty and desire to be set free from the hold that sexual gratification has on you. The key to experiencing the freedom over sin is to intentionally look to Jesus for His help every moment. Whenever the temptation comes to you let that be a reminder that Jesus has set you free and will help you overcome the temptation. Ask for His help; recite Bible verses that talk about victory over sin; focus your mind on what Jesus has done for you. The more you focus on Jesus the less hold the temptation will have. One of my favorite verse is Galatians 5:16 “Walk in the Spirit and you will not fulfill the desires of the sinful nature.” That has been a great promise for me.
Lord God I pray for Zimkhita as she looks to You for freedom from the hold that this temptation has on her. I pray that You would purify her desires and reset her affections on You. Give her verses in the Bible that will be great encouragements for her and help point her thoughts on You. Bring people into her life who will help encourage her to trust in Your help to break this pattern. Set her free and use her as an agent of that freedom in other people’s lives as well. In Jesus’ name, amen.
Jst prayed that prayer pls pray along with me that I will not go back
Lord please forgive me for the 5 abortions I had one I had when I was married because I cheated on my husband and fell pregnant and fir all the cheating and sexual
sins of watching pornography and masturbation please forgive me for not being a faithful wife I have repented from all that and I want to serve God with all of me
The Lord bless you and keep you-the Lord bless you beyond measure and give you His peace. In Jesus Name Amen
Am
Hi Prue,
Praise God prue, at last you have realized and you are ready to leave your bad life. In 1 John 1:9 says.. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. No matter what happened, right now wherever you are, there ask God to forgive your sins. Name it and say. God is ready to forgive you. And start a new life from today.
Prue, God is a holy God. He expect our marriage also to be holy. God hates sin. Start love your husband, be with him always – whether it is good time or bad time. Encourage him, take care of him. No matter whether he does or not, you be like a woman of God. Let others see Jesus in you. Disciple your life. Spend some everyday for to study the word of God, to pray to sing songs etc.. Read our devotions, watch spirit filled messages etc…God will help you my friend.
Let me pray for you.
Dear Father, We thank You for this time. Lord, I commit Prue in Your hand. Lord, You still love Prue and You are waiting for her to come back. Lord, help her to focus on You, help her to say ‘No’ to sin and help her to love her husband. Lord, restore their marriage and I pray that You protect them. Thank You for hearing our prayers. In Jesus’ name, Amen,.
Hi Cy,
In the Bible in James 1:12 says… Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him.
Let’s pray: Dear Father, we thank You for this time. Lord, I pray for Your child, Cy and I pray that You protect Cy from go back to his/her old ways. Help this person to focus on You. Lord, cover Cy with Your precious blood and we thank You for hearing our prayers. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Cy, start spending time to read the Bible every day and ask the Holy Spirit to help you understand. Start talking to Jesus(prayer) listen to spirit filled message. Attend a spirit filled church. Of curse, God will help you but He says, be alert, study the word of God so that we will know the trick of the devil.
Hi Zimkhita,
You are a born again child. You know what is sin right Zimkhita? The result of sin is death. Because, God is holy and He cannot stand near sin. Death means you are separated from God and will lead you to hell. Satan want to destroy you, he doesn’t want you to be a child of the living God so satan knows where is our weakest areas and he start working on that area.
But Zimkhita, In 1 John 1:9 says.. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. No matter how worse is your sin is if you realized it and if you confess it to Jesus then, He is ready to forgive you. Are you ready for that Zimkhita? If yes, then start confessing all your sins to Jesus. Zimkhita, Jesus loves you and cares for you; He want you to restore your life. He has some plan for you, use you for His glory. Zimkhita, don’t delay. Don’t waste time. Rededicate your life to Jesus again.
Next time when such thoughts comes, either go out from that place or watch some spirit filled messages, hear good sermons, means divert your attention from there. When you take one step God will take 10 steps for you.
Let me pray for you.
Dear Father, Thank You for creating Zimkhita and I know that You have a great plan for her. Lord, forgive all her sins and cleanse her. Lord, You give her the strength to overcome from all her bad ways. Help her to focus on You, grow in You and say good buy to all her bad ways. Lord, protect her and bless her. Lord, thank You for hearing our prayers. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Hi Becky,
I feel, you focus completely on God and search what God wants you to do then God will take care of the rest. This I am talking form my experience.
I want to pray for you.
Dear Father,
Thank You so much for this time. Lord, I commit Becky in Your hand. Lord, I pray that You prote4ct her marriage. Help Becky’s husband and Becky to focus on You and give You the first priority. Lord, help her to ask forgiveness and Lord, help her to forget all her past. Protect Becky and thank You for hearing our prayers. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Hi Becky,
I feel, you focus completely on God and search what God wants you to do then God will take care of the rest. This I am talking form my experience.
I want to pray for you.
Dear Father,
Thank You so much for this time. Lord, I commit Becky in Your hand. Lord, I pray that You prote4ct her marriage. Help Becky’s husband and Becky to focus on You and give You the first priority. Lord, help her to ask forgiveness and Lord, help her to forget all her past. Protect Becky and thank You for hearing our prayers. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Hi Evin,
1 John 1:9 says.. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. Evin, just confess all your sins to Jesus and He is ready to forgive all your sins.. He still loves you Evin. Why not rededicate your life to Jesus again? Can you please Evin? You can get more information about this here. http://powertochange.com/discover/faith/discoverpurpose/
If you have any questions please let us know.
Let’s pray: Dear Father, We thank You for this time. Lord, Your Evin want have a closer walk with You- he wants to love You. Lord, guide Your child, teach him and help him to experience You. Thank You for hearing our prayers. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Hi Zimkhita,
In 1 John 1:9 says…If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. Devil’s job is to destroy a child of God. Zimkhita, if you really turn and try from your sinful nature, God will help you to over come. I encourage you to go on your knees and ask for God’s help to overcome from this lust. Zimkhita, God is holy and He hates sin. Remember sin lead us to spiritual death. God loves you and He is still ready to accept you the way you are. Zimkhita, do not waste your time, go to Jesus and tell him, Jesus,my weakest area in my life is ……(tell Him). Lord, without Your help I cannot come out from this. Lrod, I ask Your help in my weakness. Help me Lord,Amen. In 2 Corinthians 12:9 says…“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Zimkhita, His power is enough for you to overcome from this. In James 1:12 says…Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him. Our life is in God’s hand. If He doesn’t allow us to breath then we are finish. We have no time to waste in this earth. Live like a child of God and don’t allow saten to rule you.
Let’s pray:
Dear Heavenly father,
We thank You so much for this time. Lord, I commit Your child, Zimkhita, in Your hand. Lord, help Your child to totally depend on You and You give Zimkhita, Your strength so that Zimkhita, can come out from this dirty habit. Lord, protect Your child. Draw Zimkhita, closer to You. Thank You for hearing our prayers. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Hi Cy,
How are you?
Hi Ervin,
Thank you for realizing it. Be faithful to your wife. We cannot hide anything from God. God want us to walk and live the way He want. We are not our own but we are God’s. I encourage you to visit our site http://pwertochange.com and subscribe our devotionals etc..
God bless you!
Hi M,
God is holy God and He hates sin. The result of sin is death. Spiritual death. If you have realized your mistake, I encourage you to totally cut off all unwanted relations and live the way God desires. Our body is God’s temple and we have no right on our boy. He created for a great purpose. Please ask Jesus to forgive all your sins(you specify and tell Him)and commit your life to Jesus. Start a new life. Please visit this link. http://powertochange.com/discover/faith/discoverpurpose/
Let me pray for you.
Dear Father God, We thank You so much for this time. Lord, I commit Your child in Your hand. Lord, help him to be out from all unwanted relationships, nature and focus on You O’ Lord. Lord, draw ‘M’ closer to You and protect ‘M’ from all evil. Thank You for hearing our prayers. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Hi Tshifhiwa,
God is God full of mercy and grace. If you really realized your sin then you ask jesus to forgive all your sins. You have to tell Him one by one. If you asked honestly God will fogive your sins and He will remember no more. God hates sins and that sin is root cause for sickness. So, when you confess your sins and commit your life to Jesus I am sure, healing can take place to your body. You have to start a new life means, daily prayer and study the Bible. Spend time with God etc.. God loves you and He cares for you. Please visit this link http://powertochange.com/discover/faith/discoverpurpose/
God bless you.
Hi Steven,
Thank you for realizing it and hope you are totally out from it. Otherwise, God cannot hear our prayers. he is holy and if we keep even a small sin that can block our prayer. And of course, we cannot hide anything from God. First of all you ask forgiveness for all your sins. 1 John : 9 says, If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. So you can rededicate your life again. Please also visit our website, you can get lot of devotions, Bible studies etc.. Now, you have to decide whether you want grow spiritually or not. If spend daily for prayer and Bible study, God can start talking to you and you can live a victorious life.
Dear Heavenly Father, We thank You for this time. Lord, I commit Steven, in Your hand. Lord, help him to walk in Your ways and hate sin. Draw him closer to You. Lord, I also pray for AMTK. Wherever she is Lord, I ask You to draw her closer to You. Help her to experience Your love in her life and help her to commit her life to You O’ Lord, Lord, we thank You for all Your blessings and thank You for hearing our prayers. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Hi Meilka,
How are you?
thank you for this website its helping me a lot. thank God im healed from Genital warts,the dieses that was caused by sexual sins.i am pure again and waiting for my boyfriend to marry me and start a family.
tshifhiwa, I’m thrilled to hear that this website is helping you a lot. May you continue to walk in the power of God’s Holy Spirit as you move forward.
Hi Becky,
How are you today?
Hi Ervin,
How are you now?
Hi Ana,
God still loves you provided if you are ready to give up all your past and start a fresh. If yes, first you commit your life to Jesus and start live the way He expects. He is a loving God and He doesn’t want to you to live like this. He is a holy God and He hates sin. But, He loves the sinners. That is why He decided to die for you and me. Are you are ready my friend. I encourage you to please visit http://thelife.com/series/share-this If you have questions, please don’t hesitate to ask me.
Let’s pray:
Dear Father,
I commit Ana in Your hand. Lord, You are such a loving God and I thank You for loving Ana. Lord, draw her closer to You. Help her to obey You, cleanse her with Your precious blood. Guide Ana and I thank You for hearing our prayers. In Jesus’ name, Amen.