My husband has been having online affairs. I have confronted him about it twice. Both times he denied it and then removed all of the evidence from our computer.

I purchased some “spy software” and now I know that he’s right back at it. He is actually looking for a woman “in the flesh” to have an affair with. His communications indicate that he is happily married but he wants to experiment sexually. I feel totally trapped.

Advice: Maybe the book Every Man’s Battle by Steve Arterburn will help you. After reading the book you can tell him that you will stay with him if he agrees to counseling. Then find a good Christian counselor. You can also talk with your pastor.

I know this is a hard time for you, but I encourage you not to buckle under, but learn how to take better care of yourself. Also get Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner and do some personal growth during this time.

Dr. Ginger