Greatest security of a child today is knowing their father loves their mother and they will not divorce. Here are ways I showed this:

1. What I always tried to do was to find everything I could to reinforce my love to my children’s mother in their presence. For example, I think every time it came to Christmas or anniversary or birthday, I’d get my kids together I’d start out and say, “You know, I’m so lucky to be married to your mom. You know, I’m about the luckiest guy in the world to have your mother as my wife. I love her so much. Kids, it’s her birthday. What can I do? What can I get her that will really say to her, ‘I love you?’” And what I did was included my children in providing ideas for gifts for my wife or for special occasions.
2. Affirm your spouse in front of your kids. I’d say, “Kids, you know you’re so fortunate to have your mom. I’m so fortunate to be married to her; I love her so much. You know, she works so hard for us.
3. Give coupons for things your spouse or children love to do as an expression of your love for them. And I would write them all out, promising my wife, for example, I will go to the ballet ). I just can’t stand the ballet and one of the greatest expressions of love, when I gave her the coupon that said, “I will go to the ballet,”
4. Look for every opportunity. Leave love notes all over the house for your spouse…so your kids can see them, too! Sometimes when I would leave home, I would get up extra early and I’d leave little love notes all over the house – on the toaster, on the door to the refrigerator, on the oven, on the microwave, on the table, on the door to the bathroom, everything – I’d leave a little love note. I would stick it there before I’d leave, like at 5:00 in the morning for the airport.

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