My wife and I love each other very much, however, for the last two years, her interest in sex has really declined. Mine, has not. As a result, I am not being satisfied sexually. Recently, I have had to masturbate, which to me feels wrong. In addition, I am starting to be attracted to other females and am on the edge of developing a relationship with this girl — something I don’t want to do. The last thing I want to do is cheat on my wife. I love her so much.

Advice: You need a third party intervention. Let her know that you are having problems with her lack of interest in sex and that you would hope that she would go with you for counseling. Let her know that every marriage needs a tune up once in awhile and that now is a good time. Counseling may seem expensive but it is much cheaper than a divorce. Also pick up the book, Five Languages of Love by Gary Chapman and see if you know what her love language is. Yours is probably touch, but do you know what hers is?