I left my husband this weekend after a 5 year battle with his secret pornography obsession.

I found out about it when we were dating and confronted him on the subject. I told him I came from a background that found porn to be wrong. He was raised differently. He promised to quit and threw all the magazines away. But it has come back 6-8 times since.

I told him the last three times I would leave him next time. I finally stood my ground and left. He lied everytime I asked about it and later I would find the magazines. I am tired and not up to fighting any longer. Now he wants to see a counselor. I have asked him to do that before, but now, he agrees. I don’t know if I want to anymore. I just dont know if I will ever trust him again. We are supposed to see a christian marriage mentor and try and work things out.

How can I believe anything he says. He says he has accepted Christ, but I don’t know If he is serious or if it is just a desperate attempt to get me back home.

What do I do, and is it possible to mend this after so many times and so many lies. I dont think I will ever be able to be the same. How long will It be before I can trust Him? Will I ever trust him?

Please help me, I am desperately confused.

Advice:

Do you have children? He has accepted Christ and is willing to see a counselor. That may be good. Make sure you write a contract that stipulates when you will see the counselor, who will pay, how will you know he is not doing porno? Have the counselor help you draw up the contract. Then if he doesn’t comply you have the counselors support. Read the book Women Who Love Sex Addicts by Weiss.

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