My husband and I always have disagreements about intimacy and how many times we should have sex. He says I don’t meet his needs of feeding him with food and sex. He tells me constantly that he wants me to meet his need for sex on a daily basis, and that would make him happy. I am a stay home Mom with 3 kids and at times it is difficult to meet his need. I feel trapped with this as it feels more like an obligation than affection. Do you have any suggestions?

Advice: I’m afraid that couples often disagree about how often they should have sex; usually the husband wants it more. One thing you might consider: that if you meet your husband’s needs in this area, he won’t go elsewhere! And the Bible says a wife is supposed to meet her husband’s need for sex.

I do sympathize with you, for I realize that taking care of three young children can take a lot out of a conscientious mother–but they need their dad, so try to do the best you can to keep him around for them!
Everyman’s Battle by Steve Arterburn might help you understand where your husband is coming from. You can buy or order it at a Christian bookstore. God’s blessings on you and your family.

In Christ’s love, Dr. Muriel