“I Do”… Again? Video provided by: I Am Second
It was love at first sight for Cheryl and Jeff. Young and ambitious, the two fell in love and and got married. They had it all: ocean view home, the right clothes, the best jobs and there was nothing to want for that money could buy. But what about the things money couldn’t buy? Like happiness or love. Cheryl found herself secretly discontent and began to question her love for Jeff. Jeff, on the other hand went on oblivious to the true feelings his wife harbored and slowly, they drifted apart… Cheryl into the arms of another man.
She had an idea of what the perfect life looked like. That’s what she wanted, that’s what she worked for and that’s what she had. “But it was fake.” So is divorce, then, the answer or is it just running from the real problem? For Cheryl it was the answer and that answer was to end it all. However just because our plans are to end something doesn’t mean they are God’s. And just because we make mistakes -big or small- doesn’t mean He can’t fix them. In the end, both Cheryl and Jeff had to have faith, pure faith to see things through. See how faithfully God reconciled their seven-year divorce, step by step, back into the marriage He had in mind.
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That is so cool GR! You are right, it is very helpful for all of us to hear stories of how God has changed people because it builds up our trust in Him. I will keep praying for your husband!
Hi Jamie, I am getting much stronger and less anxious. I have experienced God answering my prayers as my faith and trust has grown. I hope to be able to encourage another reader to let them know that it is God’s way. I asked for Him to take away my anxiety that was making my hands feel electrically charged and to have the Holy Spirit control my mind and heart so I wouldn’t be in tears or a fretful or jealous state of mind, and He answered my prayers. Giving us evidence of His hearing and answering, when we trust, builds your faith and trust even more so. We just have to depend on Him, and I do. I appreciate you being there and the power and encouragement this website provides. Baptism Sunday was beautiful! I’m in the right place and I know God has my story written and will use me where He wants me. All I need to do is listen and follow. It’s exciting. I’ll prepare mentally for down days, but this site and people like you will help keep me encouraged,and mostly knowing Jesus has already felt every emotion any of us ever feels or endures.
Congratulations sister! I am so excited for you as you obey the instruction of Jesus to be baptized. How did it go for you?
Thank you Jamie, for your compassion and prayers. Our God is an awesome God and I do trust in Him. Sometimes it is hard finding a friend to share with because I tend to feel I may become a nuisance, so I do appreciate the link to have a mentor. I have made some changes and sought new friends. I am getting baptized in the morning as I join a new church. I was baptized around the age of nine, but not immersed. My prayer is for God to cleanse me, wash away all sin, pain, and resentment and make me new. May God bless you as you pray and help others.
Hi GR, I totally understand your fear of getting your hopes up again only to be disappointed. God is always faithful but the people around us can often be very unfaithful. I guess that is why we put our trust in Jesus to work everything for our benefit, even those things that are really quite tragic. Maybe that is the key to what you are facing: put your hope in God’s faithfulness to care for you and to use even the breakdown of your marriage to produce the character of Christ in you and draw you deeper into relationship with Him. That could be through the healing of your marriage or through some other means. But if your hope is in Jesus to accomplish that in you, you know that you will never be disappointed. The path maybe hard but His love will always carry you through.
Lord God, I pray for this daughter of Yours who is in such sorrow at the destruction of her marriage. I pray that Your Spirit would help her to focus her attention on You and that she will begin to see how You are working in her, around her and through her. I pray that her hope for the future would be securely placed on Your faithfulness alone.
Lord I do pray for her husband and ask that You would convict him and soften his heart towards his wife. I pray that their marriage would not only be healed but that it would become so much more because their love will have You as their foundation. You are the God of miracles and so we ask for a miracle in this man’s life.
Comfort GR. Provide her strength. Fill her with hope. In Jesus name, amen.
GR, do you have godly people around that support and encourage you? I would definitely recommend that you get in touch with one of our Online Mentors. They can help point you back to Jesus and remind you of His promises to you. Just fill out the Mentor Request Form at http://powertochange.com/discover/talk-to-a-mentor/ and one of our mentors will contact you by email.
I am afraid to watch the video. I read the first chapter. I have endured such pain and tears, and prayed and hoped, but the end is nearing after a six month separation. He is done and ready to end it. I’ve tried through prayer, confessions, reading, and studying to rebuild myself so I can see a future without tears, bitterness, and with the promise of God restoring joy to my life. I’m afraid if I watch the video I will encourage my longing and fall back into a depression I’ve struggled to climb out of. I do pray for God to reach him, and I know that our time may not be God’s time. It’s a struggle to have faith, trust, and hope and still move on. Pray that I put my faith, trust and hope in God and not in mankind or in my mind. This has been a 23 year marriage that originally came together via satan’s distraction. God wanted us to be His and make it work forever, but we didn’t give Him our all.
Thank you so much for sharing that wonderful story of God’s faithfulness in your sister’s life Edith! You are so right that it is definitely possible to forgive all the wrongs….but it takes work and both partners need to be willing to invest in the relationship. Thanks for stopping by and taking the time to comment!
This is not an easy subjset to quote on. I did after my marriage want another maet, but God said no and I have stuck with His grace.
Having read the story of Cheryl and Jeff Scruggs and looking at the video, I want to share with you this story. My younger sister fell in love at 18 when we were both studying in the UK and living in a hostal in Highbury Grove. This was her first love and she felt she had to abandon everything and move in with the man. The long and short of it was that they got married in 1964 and had three children. Some ten years later, she left the marriage and moved back to Ghana. Her husband divorced her and remarried and she also went into another relationship. What I want to say is that some 30 years later, they have remarried and are back together in their house in the UK. Along the way, they have collected 10 grandchilren and 2 great-grandchildren. The relationship is now a new one altogether and they have more to talk about and are supporting each other in everything. So…yes…I believe it can happen to anyhone who is willing to give it a try…to forgive all the wrongs…and to remember only the best moments of a lovely time spent together.
-grandchildren