How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage
What are some of the warning signs of entering a potentially compromising relationship? How can you safeguard your marriage? How do you know when your spouse’s needs aren’t being met?
In this short video clip, Dr. Dave Currie, host of new TV show Marriage Uncensored, discusses some of these questions with marital therapist Kirby Hanawalt. Watch the video clip to learn about some of the key principles involved in affair-proofing your marriage.
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For more resources or to get the full discussion on how to affair-proof your marriage, visit Marriage Uncensored.
Discussion questions:
- What are the signs of an eroding marital relationship?
- How does one rebuild trust after an affair?
- Discuss the role of forgiveness in a struggling relationship?
- As a couple, what things help to build unity in a relationship?
Completely agree with that video.
Simple, easy, and makes perfect sense.
good video one more thing is communication with your spouse constantly thank you for poting it
Hi
I cheated on my husband a few years ago and I haven’t had sex with my husband for over a year now and I am not attracted to him either.
I have no labido.
I really do love him but am not sexually attracted to him any more.
Can you please help me
Hi Cin, There’s an article on dealing with your sexual pastt that I think you might find interesting. In it the author talks about how things in the past can affect your sex life now and how to break those bonds. Take a read and see if it resonates with your situation.
I would like to know if your wife she doesn’t want to sex you
Is that a normal thing to man does that not
Case cheating in this world.
I am not sure if I understand your question Mandla but I think you are asking if a wife’s lack of interest in sex is a justification for the husband to have sex with another woman. I don’t think there is ever any justification for breaking your commitment to love and honour your spouse. The problems and challenges we face are just opportunities for deeper communication and cooperation to find solutions.
My wife had an affair one year ago today. We had a very good marriage and our sex life was always good. I am having a very hard time feeling sexually attracted to my wife now. She is a beautiful woman. I just dont feel like there is a spark anymore. I do not want my marriage to end and I do not want to lose my wife.
Dennis you must guard your heart against the growing coldness. I have a friend whose wife had an affair and even though they were able to reconcile he allowed a small bitterness stay alive in his heart. As time wore on that bitterness grew and colored the way he felt about her, the way friends responded to them and the commitment he had to their marriage. That bitterness eventually gave way to him justifying an extramarital affair and his eventual abandonment of their marriage. It all started small but it led to a complete reversal where he became the unfaithful one.
I think that you need to discipline yourself not to dwell on the hurt but focus on the things you love about your wife. Learn to cherish her. Become a student of who she is with an insatiable curiosity to know and an openness to be known. The Bible talks about having the mind renewed and suggests that happens as we direct out thoughts to the good, “whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable– if anything is excellent or praiseworthy– think about such things.” (Ephesians 4:18) When we brood on the negative it destroys us from the inside out but when we ponder the positive our thoughts and emotions will follow.