Disappointed?

July 16, 2014

Everyone has some level of disappointment in relationships: not every hope, wish, dream or expectation can be met by one person. When expectations are impossible to fulfill, disappointment can become a crisis. In their book, Relationships, Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott state, “Too many people attach themselves to another person to obtain approval, affirmation, purpose, safety and of course, identity. And when the inevitable disappointment happens, they complain bitterly that this person failed them.”

Two issues are at stake here. First, it’s crucial to have a foundation for your own well-being. It is important to recognize that everyone has deep needs that go beyond what another person can fill. Consider this thought from 17^th century philosopher, Blaise Pascal:

“There is a God-shaped vacuum in the heart of every man which cannot be filled by any created thing, but only by God, the Creator, made known through Jesus.”

Second, embrace the fact that all relationships have disappointments! Perfection only exists in heaven. Working through your disappointments can actually make your relationship better. When you feel disappointed, figure out why and take positive action rather than complain or give up.

Action   Evaluate: Are you stuck in disappointment? Do your unmet expectations rob you of the good elements of your relationships? How strong are the spiritual foundations in your life? Do you understand how God can give you supernatural resources that will impact every relationship? If you are not sure, check out the Spiritual Resource section at the end of this book.

Suggested Resource: Relationships by Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott